Hun, I am so hearing your frustration and thinking this will be me in a few months time! When people jokingly tell me I'll need to go to school to bf her, now I think they're probably right!

We are down to 2 bfs a day, but that's been for 2 years! And if she could have more, she would.

I went to an ABA meeting a few months ago with other mums who'd BTDT and they made me feel much better. I can go out in the evening and DP can put her to bed without a bf, so they suggested I do that more often. One Mum also went away for 3 weeks with her DH and the kids stayed with grandparents. Her 4 yr old DS had to wean while she was gone and had lost the correct suck in that time. Plus, her milk had all but disappeared. I'm keeping this in the back of my mind for a convenient excuse to take a holiday if I get desperate!

How many bfs is your DS having? You could try cutting back to just one (say the evening one) and miss that one here and there by being out. See how he goes and ramp it up from there.

can I just say I really hear you on this one and I don't want to provoke the tantrums that I know will come if I try to wean completely now!