I can't recommend anything, but just wanted to say that fussiness is really normal and they do go off their dinner. I've never had separate meals for the kids though, they just get what we are eating, and if they don't eat it, I don't make them another meal or anything, they just go to bed without it. They still get milk though, so its not like I'm starving any of them. I was always wary of giving them lots of options for getting them to eat anything cos when you have more than one child, its really hard to keep up and I think it causes more trouble than its worth. But that could just be cos I have so many darn kids close together..