yeah, Sensory Processing Disorder has been suggested to me too, as the reason why my 4.5yo is so into purees and mince and yogurt, at the expense of food you actually have to chew and masticate. My DD would happily survive on the Rafferty's Garden puree tubes if i let her. So i KNOW she likes the taste of vegies, but will only eat them, if in that pureed state, in the tube from the shop. My home pureed veg version she will not touch.

I'm trying the "one meal, eat it or don't eat" mode, THIS week. Again. Not sure how long before i cave. When she boycotts lunch, then boycotts dinner, i get the guilts so bad.

Then kindy tell me, "if she won't eat lunch (she rarely does), they give her bread eventually" - and even when i said i don't want her being given the bread, their stance is, she needs SOMETHING to get her thru the day. And i can see their point. She boycotts morning fruit time, afternoon fruit time and most snacks. So some days, the ONLY thing she's eating at kindy, is the bread.

She looks so darn healthy, just very small for her age. The being on the edge of constipation (due to no fruit or veg) is the thing that makes me so anxious. Plus, i would just like to realise, food is an enjoyable part of life, such a nice way to get all the nutrients and vitamins essential for her growth. Her not eating, is very anti=social too, makes me feel like the bad mum who can't get her own child to eat, when all the other kids are happily eating SOMETHING.

mummato1 - what you said about not getting home until 6pm - noticing WHEN your child is hungry is pretty big. My child's window for eating is 5 - 5.30pm. i know if i don't offer her food in that timeslot, i have an uphill battle (more than usual, haha). So if we're going to be in transit, when i know her normal eating time is, i pack a lunchbox meal, and let her have that in the car. Your son is prolly too young for that, but i just wanted to share, that feeding at the time when THEY are hungry, had more success for us, than feeding her when it suited our adult ideas/schedules. I'm guessing you don't have many options, when you're just trying to do the get home commute. My guess is your little man has gone past "hungry" by the time you get home. That is a hard one to work around. Is the CCC close to your work? or closer to your home? Is there any possibility of feeding him dinner at the CCC (either in the actual centre, or outside, sitting in your car)? Not ideal i know, but it's all i could think of.

i discovered my own child's hungry timeslot, back in the days, when i desperately wanted us to "eat together as a family". So that meant waiting until her father was home and ready to eat. Which often meant 6 - 6.30pm. That didn't work for her at all, so i had to let go of my plan, give up on eating together as a family, so that she could eat when she was actually hungry. I could never work out, previously, why she got so ratty, early evening. It turned out, that ratty behaviour, was her being hungry. So i fed her earlier, her behaviour didn't escalate. Seems so obvious to me now, but i had other stuff going on back then, coudln't see the obvious.

Everything i read about Fussy Eaters, all the "the child can try a new food up to 12 times, before they like it" crack me up. Virtually every veg and fruit, i have offered to her hundreds, if not 1,000's of times. She has done the "one bite" of brocolli so many times, still refuses to eat it unless it's in the Rafferty's tube (which i refuse to buy / give her now).