:hug: If i was anywhere near perth (in wa in general) i'd come play mum with you!
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:hug: If i was anywhere near perth (in wa in general) i'd come play mum with you!
Thanks Ash, I've got my parents, I'm staying with them until bubs is born, then who knows?? :D
Hey Suse that's ok...it was nice of you to comment and lend us your support!! That's a really nice thing to do! By the way....Loooooove the code names for your lill boy! hahahahaha!
Sally....Oh how horrible of him!!! I feel so upset for you but you'll be ok. Chin up!!! You will be a great mumma, and if he just uped and left like that you don't need him anyway!
Thanks Nina & Ashlea! Nina - I love your ticker message!
BTW Sally - I'm so sorry to hear of what you're going through right now - especially after everything that you've been through with Brendan. You've already shown so much strength and courage - and I think that you are doing an amazing job in coping with it the way you are. There'll probably be times when you don't feel strong at all - try to be gentle on yourself and give yourself some time to heal.
You're in my thoughts sweetie...
Thanks girls :) I've just spent the last couple of hours at the hospital, they think I've got an infection. Little "jellybean" is still there, but it's not looking all that good. I wonder why everything always seems to happen at once??
Oh no!!!
Please let us know how it all goes. Positive thoughts and no more of that "it all seems to happen at once"
Like when you say "what next" something worse comes along!
Thinking of you Sally!!!
How are you sally? hope you and jelly bean are still ok, let us know
Sally sorry to hear your going through such a rough time at the moment, i hope that you and jellybean are ok. Thinking of you :hug:
Thanks :) I have to see out the weekend, then go in for monitoring on Monday, if I make it 2 monday. Will let you know.
Take Care
How are you Sally? Good luck tomorrow :hug:
Thanks :) I'm still on board :pray: I really appreciate all the support. I've not long unpacked my things, my mum dad and i went up and collected bits and pieces. Probably won't be online tomorrow, I have to be in perth at 7 am, and I live an hr away!! loooong day...
Will see how things go! I'm happier with my own bed :D
Thoughts are with you!
Hi thought i would introduce myself here....seems this thread might make it after all! :D
My name is Naomi ive just turned 25 (OMG i cant believe it lol), Dp Rick is 27 (28 in Jan) and our little man is almost 5months old in a few days.
Rick and I have been together 5years next week. We struggle from time to time, expecially with the pressure of a newborn (who by the way said his first word on saturday MUM!!). We've learnt to a degree how to handle situations, but sometimes its very overwhelming and i feel at times im doing it on my own, but i know im not.
Im starting my nail technician course next week, so finally i will be able to have a "purposeful" break from the little one. Its only 4 sessions a week at 3 1/2 hr a session for 7 1/2wks! So my mum and Rick will be babysitting.
Rick has ever only looked after Lachlan at night by himself once, and that was when a friend needed to go to hospital (she recently had a d&c and was advised by her Dr to go back to hossy)but it was like 10pm when we left, even then when i got back at like 2.30am he was wide awake in his cot, i had to get him up and feed him (although he normally sleeps right through), All Rick said was he's been happy in there for the last hr, i was like WTF, he was too busy playing his game (had a mate over aswell!)
Anyway i think thats enough of me dribbiling crap.....
Hope to get to know you all
xoxo
Hello Naomi and welcome :)
I have bad news, little jellybean miscarried :(
take care
Hello & welcome Noami.
Sally- i'm so very sorry to read your news :hug:. I've been through a m/c myself so i dont have any advice. But can i just say take the time to mourn your loss and treasure what you do have.
thanks for the welcome ladies.
Big hugs to you Sally, I am so sorry to hear the news. I had read your posts and just wanted to give you extra special huge cyber hugs!! Please take care of yourself, and we are always here when you need us.
It was jelliebeans time to go, to watch over you from above, hold your hand and guide you through life until you become a family again.
You sound like an amazing women, i cant wait to get to know you better.
Hi everyone :D
My name's Hayley, I live on the sunshine coast in queensland - i'm 21 and DF is 22 we've been together for 5 years now and got engaged on my 21st birthday - I think i also concieved on my 21st *hehe*.
We have a beautiful 2 month old little girl named Scarlet Rose born 18/09 she was a bit of an oops (a very wanted but a little bit early kind of oops) as we were planning to get married around her birthday!
At the moment i'm a SAHM but planning on opening a clothing store in the near future - This will be my first business and it's a pretty huge (hopefully sucessful) risk for us.
Before PG i was a hotel manager which is now way to demanding because sometimes i had to be at work from 9am - 3am and the only other thing i have experience in is modelling... no longer an option for me either lol.
Welcome Hayley.
Thanks Naomi, I believe in things that are meant to be. Which is helping me heal. I also have my DS to look after, and just seeing his little smile makes everything seem ok, just for that little time.
Hi and welcome to Naomi and to Hayley - good to see more people dropping in!! i hope you both find bellybelly to be a rewarding experience - i have certainly found it to be a great source of both information and communication!
Sally, i am so sorry to hear your news, it is really not fair that things have happened all at once so i'm sending some more super huge hugs your way. Please come back and chat to us still!!!
I don't have much news, had my 26wk appointment yesterday, all is well, a bit bigger than expected i think, but not too much to worry about. Struggling to find a place to rent... have any of you other young mum's had this problem?
i haven't had a permanent address for six months, and so when we're doing our applications i just put my mums address which looks as though i've never had to have any responsibility for rent (which is a load of crap as my previous housemate just wouldn't put me on the damn lease after i moved in - and the b@$!@rd use to overcharge me, so i have NO rental history because my college record is baaaad because of clink screwing me around). Now centrlink are stuffing me around, again, as awlays, which i don't think im technically entitled to anyway because DF earns more than $40,000 a year and we are / will be officially living together when bubby is born. I do have a temp job but no payslips as yet, and none for another fortnight, so how the heck can i say i work there with no proof of income?
So combined with me not have had an income for four months, and no permanent address / rental history my application looks pathetic. And we can't really apply for 2 and 3br places with just DF on the lease because anyone with a family would get it over just him. That and i swear we're getting continuously turned down because we will have a baby. Starting to run out of time, and it's stressing me out maximally, because i jusr want to know that things are settled... omg long ramble, i am going to post again somewhere else with more, but thought i would ask the young mum's too.
Thanks Ash, I'm not going anywhere :) I still need to talk, and I love it here, especially talking to other young mum's. I HATE centrelink, I have to go in tomorrow to claim for the single parenting payment, in which I have to take all my proof of ID in AGAIN!!!! Good luck with it. I hope you get a house soon!
Take care
Heya there :) I haven't really been posting here but i thought i'd drop in and see how everyone's doing.
Ashlea - I'm so sorry to hear that you're having problems finding a place. That stuck a chord with me because we're having some problems with the rental market atm too and it makes me so angry the way our economy is right now. We've been renting our house for 2 years now, when we moved in the rent was $205 per week which was about right for where we were, then a year later it rose to $210 which was ok but then 2 months ago when we had 2 weeks of lease left without us realising it, our landlord sent us a renewal of lease form with the rent going up to $240 i could not believe it. and we had 2 weeks to either sign the thing or have no-where to live. We ended up signing on for another year and i've been through a real stressful time rebudgeting for it the past few months. Had a look at other properties around to perhaps move only to find that there had supposedly been some sort of rent boom and everything had jumped up like that.
I've been looking very seriously into private trust housing, you know like a housing co-op or something because we cannot afford for our rent to go up every year, not with our 3rd baby on the way...... and i reckon we'd get turned down anyway because of all the kids (even though they're technically not allowed to do that)
So yeah i understand how stressful it can be and i really hope you find a nice place soon!
Perhaps you should have a look into co-op housing too. they're just like public housing except run privately, the tenants run everything. the rent works the same way public does, its for low income earners and you pay 25% of your income as rent up to the market value of the property so its not a set amount of rent that goes up whenever the landlord feels like it (no landlord) and no inspections!!!! and it certainly looks more secure then renting if you want a permanent place aswell.
Sally - Big hugs to you hun! i haven't been through m/c before but it must be scary for you. At least you can be comforted in that you couldn't find a better place then here to find so many other girls who will understand, many of whom have experienced it before too and are full of hugs for you.
Hayley - good on you for having a go at your own business! it sounds exciting!
Naomi - I understand how it is when your partner isn't offering as much support as he should be. my husband used to spend too much time playing games too and it was so stressful sometimes. Its much better these days, we've had a few major ups and downs but we're pulling through and things are much better for us now. But i totally understand how hard it is to get them to switch the damn puter off for a while. The best advice i can think of for that is don't nag and approach him with annoyed tone because that'll end up annoying him and you and may result in an argument. Maybe try something like "i'll give you 10 minutes to finish what your doing and then i'm going to need you"
For some reason guys seem to respond better to "i need you" rather then "spend time with me and your child". and its kinda dumb but you need to treat them (respecfully) like a child LOL by giving them a time frame to finish and then a deadline. I hope things go well for you :)
Big hugs guys!
Sally - I'm sorry sorry for your loss, but like you said keep looking at ther good things you have like your son and when you feel down just give him a extra big cuddle that always works for me.
Welcome Naomi and Hayley I'm one of the old people in here, but I did have my 1st at 21 so do know what you girls are going through just a little down the track.lol
Hayley- wow opening your own shop must be scrary but I'm sure you will do well.
Ashlea- that doesn't sound to good with renting as you dont seem to have a history but like everything how can you get a history if no-one gives you a go. Good luck hope you find somthing soon. Do you have a back-up plan ie staying with your parents or friends. My sister always gets a 3 or 4 bedroom house and they dont have kids so I dont see why you wouldnt get one. Maybe when you go to put in your app go into the realestate and make sure that they can see your tummy so that they know that you are pg and will need the house or take a nice photo of yourselves and put it in with the app so when the real estate takes it to the owners they can see you are real people not just a list of names iykwim give them something that will make you stand out.
Well DH was just home for the week so I have been a bit quite but he left today so I will be back on for the next 2weeks, I got some photos of the kids the other day at the shop and I'm going for a viewing tommorrow so I hope they turned out ok.
not much else happening here so I will catch you all later..
HI Girls...
Hey Sally, sorry to hear about your loss!! My thoughts are with you and your little boy. I hope that you are doing ok health wise and looking after yourself.
Went for a antenatal appt yesterday and the midwife seemed happy about how I was progressing. My fundal height was 23cm.....5 weeks ago it was 15!! She had to look all over my tummy for bubs heartbeat as he was playing chasey. so funny felt like a can of worms had been opened up in there!
BOTH of our laptops have crashed and need new hardrives so that is why I havn't been on for a while. Waiting for them to get fixed so might be a while yet.
Talk soon.
Thanks Nina, glad to hear everything is good for you!!! Isn't it the best sound in the world, hearing bubies heartbeat??
Sally, i'm so sorry to hear of your loss.
My thoughts are with you and little Brendan during this very difficult time.
Hey all,
Well I checked out the photos of the kids that I had done at the shops but I didnt buy the package apart from the " free" one, I thought the photo's were ok but not great nothing I couldnt do myself the girl at the counter wasnt happy she couldnt believe that I didn't want to buy any well when the price was $500 for 5 diffrent sittings plus all the cr@py small ones you never use or $65 per photo I thought it quite easy to say NO. lol I couldnt believe so many people where buying them it would be cheaper for you to go and get your own camera and print them out for that price.
hope you are all doing well
thinking of you Sally :hug: How did your X take the news?
Ha, we won't go there..... my x is happy. I just don't get how he can just throw Brendan and i away like we are some sort of trash! The last 2 weeks of my life have been nothing but pain and misery and hes happy about it all. BASTARD!
Thanks for your thoughts... I am coping in my own little way :)
Hi all,
Im Lindsay 21 Dec 07 and my DH just turned 23 in Sept.
We have a DD turning 1 Dec 07 and currently PG with #2 due in July 08.
hey lindsay welcome to our little chatty home :)
This was posted by Sally, in the 'what do you classify as young thread', but im replying here...
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I went shopping with my Aunt today, and i told her about my friend who is 8 weeks pregnant with twins. My Aunt's reply was oh no. I said she's really happy, and in a stable relationship so why not? My Aunt said but she's so young, my friend is 22, she'll turn 23 just after bubs are born. Anyway when we got to the checkout there were these two girls there admiring Brendan and 1 said ooo I can't wait to have kids (she would've been 18ish), and the other said nah i'm waiting till i'm 28 or so(also about 18ish). I thought this was very interesting and I said to the girls, Age doesn't matter as long as you are in a stable realtionship and are 100% sure in what you want. My Aunt happened to disagree and said ooh noo even 24 is too young, you don't know what you want at that age. My Aunt had her baby last year at 34, she struggled so much because she was so set in a routine and a baby had come along a messed it up.
Wow Sally, and you let her get away with saying that in front of you?!?!
Sorry i don't mean to be rude, (haha i get pregnancy b***h-pants) i would be so offended if a 'valued' family member made that kind of remark in front of me, surely she realises you might be offended by this statement? And especially after just having lost your partner and having a m/c? Salt in the wound much? Was she born yesterday, does she have no sensitivity??!?!
I understand why my family or friends may not approve of my decisions (esp my grandparents, my mum was 18months younger than me when she fell prg so the sting might be a be a bit familiar to them, knowing how she struggled), but to blatantly undermine you, and your decision, and how you are doing, when you are right there?!
Maybe im over-reacting but oh my goodness i would be peeved. And from my aunties too, if they had said that i'd be like, "well as far as im concerned, it takes a stronger person to raise a child than it does to have an abortion..." and hope it hits where it hurts and hard.
ETA - Point of course being that you're younger than the friend you mentioned, and the age she stated... i forgot that bit in my rant and rave...
gosh i think im in a foul mood or something. that's some kinda mean up there. pmsl.
I simply told her, that the time was right for me and i'm happy and do not regret any choice i've made!
Sorry i hope i did not offend you!
that was a very rushed reply... I was very "put out" but ever since she got pregnant she''s been almost pushing advice on people. She didn't want any advice from anyone and told everyone to keep their noses out, which is fair enough, but now she is doing what she didn't want done to her! This may sound very biased, But my Brendan is better behaved and a much happier baby than my cousin. I fed on demand and till he was full, I never regimented a schedule as such, I work around him, feed him when hes hungry, let him sleep when he's tired. brendan has been sleeping through the night since 4-5 months old, I mean doing 12+hrs, he sleeps 2-3 hrs between feeds during the day also. My cousin is 11 months and still doesn't sleep through the night, she only gets fed at set times during they day and only gets fed a certain amount. Therefore is mostly grumpy and whingy, because shes still hungry! She's made to sleep a set times during the day. this may work for others, but my point is I don't tell her what she should do or how to raise her child, I don't judge her because she waited until 34.
No of course not Ash... i'm totally with you, i'm just trying to think of what I wanted to say :D i'm still a little slow....mushy brain from all the pg hormones.
I didn't say anything to her, because I didn't want to get into an argument... I think I have enough to worry about.
Gee Sally I think I would have been quite upset by your aunt if I was you, dont know if I could have taken it so well. lol but then again I am a biggggg wimp so I more than likey would have. When DH and I 1st got together at 17 and we told his mum that we were engaged the first thing that she said to him was " You dont have to marry them when thay get pg anymore, you can just walk away and it will be her problem not yours." well I wasnt pg and didnt have our 1st baby until after been married for 3yrs but thats her I guess. I should have know then what she would be like as now she in 10 times worse. If your aunt puts you down then maybe you shouldn't hang out with her, sound like you are doing all the right things with Brendan.
I too think it is easier for young mums to silp into motherhood as we didnt have a routing to ruin, we never got to run a business before we had kids where everything had it place so we dont think our kids will just be the perfect texted book baby iykwim.
It's funny you say that, I totally agree. When my cousin was born, my mum and my grandma tried offering advice with some problems that my Aunt was having, and my Aunts reply was "I've read all the books I know what I'm doing". Well, that's were the problem is, most birthing and babies info books are written by men, most of whom probably don't have kids! lol, Anyway, after not taking advice from other mum's my Aunt ended up with Mastitis, she had it for a week before going to see the dr, A WEEK!!!! My mum and grandma told her that's what she had, but My Aunt knew better than a mother of 3 and a mother of 6. I take in all the advice I can get, whether I choose to use it or not is my discretion, but at least I know that once I've tried everything there is always something else to fall back on.:
Hi ladies, I'm Catherine. I'm 20 years old and have just recently left my partner of 2 years. I am looking for my own place atm. I start my new job on Tuesday, as a child care worker. I'll be working 3 days a week. Custody of our daughter is shared, mainly for convenience for us both. As I'll be working 3 days a week, he'll take her and I'll have her the rest of the time, as he has uni. The break-up was mostly my decision as I wasn't happy anymore and needed intimacy and romance.
I have gotten lots of advice over the year and most of it I just ignore. We don't know how to politely tell someone to mind their own business in the shopping centre or bus or whatever. But yeah, I give advice to those who want it and always say, that that's what I did/think and that she has to make the decision right for her.
Tali, wow your MIL is a b!tch to say that right in front of your face! I'm sorry but omg that's so mean, and if you were expecting, how can she just tell her son to just make it all your responsibility? Wow, that's just wrong. Ok I'm going to stop venting now.
hello Catherine :D How's Elouise today??
That cold is not too bad, just a barky cough and a runny nose. She's napping on my lap atm. How's Brendan today?