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No, not a problem Suse, thanks for your words of encouragement, it's always good to hear!

ETA: Also, good luck with the impending birth of your bouncy boy!! I love the term "human jumping castle", i think this little one jumps around so much i should coin it too =)

Sally - Are you sure it's over for good or could he just be feeling over welmed atm as many men go though this in the first year after there child is born they feel as though there life as they know it is over, and there mate dont help eaither.

Good luck I hope things look up for you soon you can always have a cry to us when things look bad or you just cant cope. :hug:

Thanks girls. Unfortunatey i think it's well and truly over, he didn't just break up with me, he had planned when he was going to visit Brendan and of the things that are "ours" who gets what. He's planned too well for someone "overwhelmed". I came down to my mum's last week to give him "space", to think about things and i thought he'd realise how much he misses us and our company. But it did the opposite :cry: he realised he likes being on his own and he said he was happier. This is so hard, I love him and i was trying to make it work with him. my children aren't going to have their father around :cry:

As hard as this is maybe it better that you find out now so that you get used to been a single mum before you have two to deal with. as my brother who( I'm not proud of this) left his wife 4 days after she had given birth to there 2nd child, so this was soooooo much harder for my Xsil as she didnt know it was comming she thought that she was going to go home to happy familys when in fact my brother did want to be in the relationship for many many month he just thought it would be better to wait for her to have the child before he left as he didnt want her to mc and blame him. I have always said that I would prefure to be still pg if they are going to leave as that way you know what you are going to have to deal with iykwim.. Hang in there you will get over this hurt.

The bit that really sucks is he knew he wanted out b4 i got pg :(

men really are hopeless when it come to communitication, shame he couldnt have told you this before, but you cant live in the what if's you just have to move on however hard that is. :hug:

I know, but it still sucks :) I'm trying to do what i can to stay calm. it's very hard. Thanks for the support :)

have you got a good support system who can help you out now and for when the other baby comes?

:hug: If i was anywhere near perth (in wa in general) i'd come play mum with you!

Thanks Ash, I've got my parents, I'm staying with them until bubs is born, then who knows?? :D

Hey Suse that's ok...it was nice of you to comment and lend us your support!! That's a really nice thing to do! By the way....Loooooove the code names for your lill boy! hahahahaha!

Sally....Oh how horrible of him!!! I feel so upset for you but you'll be ok. Chin up!!! You will be a great mumma, and if he just uped and left like that you don't need him anyway!

Thanks Nina & Ashlea! Nina - I love your ticker message!

BTW Sally - I'm so sorry to hear of what you're going through right now - especially after everything that you've been through with Brendan. You've already shown so much strength and courage - and I think that you are doing an amazing job in coping with it the way you are. There'll probably be times when you don't feel strong at all - try to be gentle on yourself and give yourself some time to heal.

You're in my thoughts sweetie...

Thanks girls :) I've just spent the last couple of hours at the hospital, they think I've got an infection. Little "jellybean" is still there, but it's not looking all that good. I wonder why everything always seems to happen at once??

Oh no!!!
Please let us know how it all goes. Positive thoughts and no more of that "it all seems to happen at once"
Like when you say "what next" something worse comes along!
Thinking of you Sally!!!

How are you sally? hope you and jelly bean are still ok, let us know

Sally sorry to hear your going through such a rough time at the moment, i hope that you and jellybean are ok. Thinking of you :hug:

Thanks :) I have to see out the weekend, then go in for monitoring on Monday, if I make it 2 monday. Will let you know.

Take Care

How are you Sally? Good luck tomorrow :hug: