HEY

Thanks :) I'm still on board :pray: I really appreciate all the support. I've not long unpacked my things, my mum dad and i went up and collected bits and pieces. Probably won't be online tomorrow, I have to be in perth at 7 am, and I live an hr away!! loooong day...

Will see how things go! I'm happier with my own bed :D

Thoughts are with you!

Hi thought i would introduce myself here....seems this thread might make it after all! :D
My name is Naomi ive just turned 25 (OMG i cant believe it lol), Dp Rick is 27 (28 in Jan) and our little man is almost 5months old in a few days.
Rick and I have been together 5years next week. We struggle from time to time, expecially with the pressure of a newborn (who by the way said his first word on saturday MUM!!). We've learnt to a degree how to handle situations, but sometimes its very overwhelming and i feel at times im doing it on my own, but i know im not.
Im starting my nail technician course next week, so finally i will be able to have a "purposeful" break from the little one. Its only 4 sessions a week at 3 1/2 hr a session for 7 1/2wks! So my mum and Rick will be babysitting.
Rick has ever only looked after Lachlan at night by himself once, and that was when a friend needed to go to hospital (she recently had a d&c and was advised by her Dr to go back to hossy)but it was like 10pm when we left, even then when i got back at like 2.30am he was wide awake in his cot, i had to get him up and feed him (although he normally sleeps right through), All Rick said was he's been happy in there for the last hr, i was like WTF, he was too busy playing his game (had a mate over aswell!)

Anyway i think thats enough of me dribbiling crap.....
Hope to get to know you all

xoxo

Hello Naomi and welcome :)

I have bad news, little jellybean miscarried :(

take care

Hello & welcome Noami.

Sally- i'm so very sorry to read your news :hug:. I've been through a m/c myself so i dont have any advice. But can i just say take the time to mourn your loss and treasure what you do have.

thanks for the welcome ladies.

Big hugs to you Sally, I am so sorry to hear the news. I had read your posts and just wanted to give you extra special huge cyber hugs!! Please take care of yourself, and we are always here when you need us.
It was jelliebeans time to go, to watch over you from above, hold your hand and guide you through life until you become a family again.
You sound like an amazing women, i cant wait to get to know you better.

Hi everyone :D

My name's Hayley, I live on the sunshine coast in queensland - i'm 21 and DF is 22 we've been together for 5 years now and got engaged on my 21st birthday - I think i also concieved on my 21st *hehe*.
We have a beautiful 2 month old little girl named Scarlet Rose born 18/09 she was a bit of an oops (a very wanted but a little bit early kind of oops) as we were planning to get married around her birthday!

At the moment i'm a SAHM but planning on opening a clothing store in the near future - This will be my first business and it's a pretty huge (hopefully sucessful) risk for us.
Before PG i was a hotel manager which is now way to demanding because sometimes i had to be at work from 9am - 3am and the only other thing i have experience in is modelling... no longer an option for me either lol.

Welcome Hayley.

Thanks Naomi, I believe in things that are meant to be. Which is helping me heal. I also have my DS to look after, and just seeing his little smile makes everything seem ok, just for that little time.

Hi and welcome to Naomi and to Hayley - good to see more people dropping in!! i hope you both find bellybelly to be a rewarding experience - i have certainly found it to be a great source of both information and communication!

Sally, i am so sorry to hear your news, it is really not fair that things have happened all at once so i'm sending some more super huge hugs your way. Please come back and chat to us still!!!

I don't have much news, had my 26wk appointment yesterday, all is well, a bit bigger than expected i think, but not too much to worry about. Struggling to find a place to rent... have any of you other young mum's had this problem?
i haven't had a permanent address for six months, and so when we're doing our applications i just put my mums address which looks as though i've never had to have any responsibility for rent (which is a load of crap as my previous housemate just wouldn't put me on the damn lease after i moved in - and the b@$!@rd use to overcharge me, so i have NO rental history because my college record is baaaad because of clink screwing me around). Now centrlink are stuffing me around, again, as awlays, which i don't think im technically entitled to anyway because DF earns more than $40,000 a year and we are / will be officially living together when bubby is born. I do have a temp job but no payslips as yet, and none for another fortnight, so how the heck can i say i work there with no proof of income?
So combined with me not have had an income for four months, and no permanent address / rental history my application looks pathetic. And we can't really apply for 2 and 3br places with just DF on the lease because anyone with a family would get it over just him. That and i swear we're getting continuously turned down because we will have a baby. Starting to run out of time, and it's stressing me out maximally, because i jusr want to know that things are settled... omg long ramble, i am going to post again somewhere else with more, but thought i would ask the young mum's too.

Thanks Ash, I'm not going anywhere :) I still need to talk, and I love it here, especially talking to other young mum's. I HATE centrelink, I have to go in tomorrow to claim for the single parenting payment, in which I have to take all my proof of ID in AGAIN!!!! Good luck with it. I hope you get a house soon!

Take care

Heya there :) I haven't really been posting here but i thought i'd drop in and see how everyone's doing.

Ashlea - I'm so sorry to hear that you're having problems finding a place. That stuck a chord with me because we're having some problems with the rental market atm too and it makes me so angry the way our economy is right now. We've been renting our house for 2 years now, when we moved in the rent was $205 per week which was about right for where we were, then a year later it rose to $210 which was ok but then 2 months ago when we had 2 weeks of lease left without us realising it, our landlord sent us a renewal of lease form with the rent going up to $240 i could not believe it. and we had 2 weeks to either sign the thing or have no-where to live. We ended up signing on for another year and i've been through a real stressful time rebudgeting for it the past few months. Had a look at other properties around to perhaps move only to find that there had supposedly been some sort of rent boom and everything had jumped up like that.
I've been looking very seriously into private trust housing, you know like a housing co-op or something because we cannot afford for our rent to go up every year, not with our 3rd baby on the way...... and i reckon we'd get turned down anyway because of all the kids (even though they're technically not allowed to do that)
So yeah i understand how stressful it can be and i really hope you find a nice place soon!
Perhaps you should have a look into co-op housing too. they're just like public housing except run privately, the tenants run everything. the rent works the same way public does, its for low income earners and you pay 25% of your income as rent up to the market value of the property so its not a set amount of rent that goes up whenever the landlord feels like it (no landlord) and no inspections!!!! and it certainly looks more secure then renting if you want a permanent place aswell.

Sally - Big hugs to you hun! i haven't been through m/c before but it must be scary for you. At least you can be comforted in that you couldn't find a better place then here to find so many other girls who will understand, many of whom have experienced it before too and are full of hugs for you.

Hayley - good on you for having a go at your own business! it sounds exciting!

Naomi - I understand how it is when your partner isn't offering as much support as he should be. my husband used to spend too much time playing games too and it was so stressful sometimes. Its much better these days, we've had a few major ups and downs but we're pulling through and things are much better for us now. But i totally understand how hard it is to get them to switch the damn puter off for a while. The best advice i can think of for that is don't nag and approach him with annoyed tone because that'll end up annoying him and you and may result in an argument. Maybe try something like "i'll give you 10 minutes to finish what your doing and then i'm going to need you"
For some reason guys seem to respond better to "i need you" rather then "spend time with me and your child". and its kinda dumb but you need to treat them (respecfully) like a child LOL by giving them a time frame to finish and then a deadline. I hope things go well for you :)

Big hugs guys!

Sally - I'm sorry sorry for your loss, but like you said keep looking at ther good things you have like your son and when you feel down just give him a extra big cuddle that always works for me.

Welcome Naomi and Hayley I'm one of the old people in here, but I did have my 1st at 21 so do know what you girls are going through just a little down the track.lol

Hayley- wow opening your own shop must be scrary but I'm sure you will do well.

Ashlea- that doesn't sound to good with renting as you dont seem to have a history but like everything how can you get a history if no-one gives you a go. Good luck hope you find somthing soon. Do you have a back-up plan ie staying with your parents or friends. My sister always gets a 3 or 4 bedroom house and they dont have kids so I dont see why you wouldnt get one. Maybe when you go to put in your app go into the realestate and make sure that they can see your tummy so that they know that you are pg and will need the house or take a nice photo of yourselves and put it in with the app so when the real estate takes it to the owners they can see you are real people not just a list of names iykwim give them something that will make you stand out.

Well DH was just home for the week so I have been a bit quite but he left today so I will be back on for the next 2weeks, I got some photos of the kids the other day at the shop and I'm going for a viewing tommorrow so I hope they turned out ok.
not much else happening here so I will catch you all later..

HI Girls...

Hey Sally, sorry to hear about your loss!! My thoughts are with you and your little boy. I hope that you are doing ok health wise and looking after yourself.

Went for a antenatal appt yesterday and the midwife seemed happy about how I was progressing. My fundal height was 23cm.....5 weeks ago it was 15!! She had to look all over my tummy for bubs heartbeat as he was playing chasey. so funny felt like a can of worms had been opened up in there!

BOTH of our laptops have crashed and need new hardrives so that is why I havn't been on for a while. Waiting for them to get fixed so might be a while yet.

Talk soon.

Thanks Nina, glad to hear everything is good for you!!! Isn't it the best sound in the world, hearing bubies heartbeat??

Sally, i'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

My thoughts are with you and little Brendan during this very difficult time.

Hey all,

Well I checked out the photos of the kids that I had done at the shops but I didnt buy the package apart from the " free" one, I thought the photo's were ok but not great nothing I couldnt do myself the girl at the counter wasnt happy she couldnt believe that I didn't want to buy any well when the price was $500 for 5 diffrent sittings plus all the cr@py small ones you never use or $65 per photo I thought it quite easy to say NO. lol I couldnt believe so many people where buying them it would be cheaper for you to go and get your own camera and print them out for that price.

hope you are all doing well

thinking of you Sally :hug: How did your X take the news?

Ha, we won't go there..... my x is happy. I just don't get how he can just throw Brendan and i away like we are some sort of trash! The last 2 weeks of my life have been nothing but pain and misery and hes happy about it all. BASTARD!

Thanks for your thoughts... I am coping in my own little way :)

Hi all,

Im Lindsay 21 Dec 07 and my DH just turned 23 in Sept.

We have a DD turning 1 Dec 07 and currently PG with #2 due in July 08.