Hollye - how exciting you get to see your bubs in just over a week. You'll have to let us know how it goes
Sally - YAY on the house, if I was already in WA Id help you move, lol
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Hollye - how exciting you get to see your bubs in just over a week. You'll have to let us know how it goes
Sally - YAY on the house, if I was already in WA Id help you move, lol
Goodmorning girls,
Congrats Sally on getting the house!!! Also Brendans milestone..one whole year our of hospital, thats great!!!!! Gee they grow up so quick dont they.. :)
Yes i get to see bubs in 8 sleeps now. Thinking of spending the next week in bed so it goes quicker..lol.
Hope everyone is doing well and i hope u all have a great day :) xoxo
Hello!
Hollye. They do grow up quick.... but I'm lucky that because he has done things slower and is delayed... I get to see him develop slowly. I have to think of the positives!
Sal, thanks :) I'm used to moving all the time. I've moved soemthing like 20 times since i first moved out of home at 17. lol.
Well i've started to move things in.... Brendan is asleep so i'm having some "me" time! there is no rush to move in. I'm moving slowly over the next few days. DP and the other will move in on the weekend, so long as i'm sorted by then, we'll be right! hehe
take care.
Congrat Bianca on finding out your expecting a little boy
Hollye sorry to hear you've been feeling off but as Sally said its just part of the parcel of pregnancy. I'm glad things are going well for you & bubs & good luck at the ultrasound.
Sally congrats on getting the house, hows things with Nigel?. And WOOHOO on Mr B reaching his milestone of 9kgs.
Ali sorry to hear your girls & DH arent well, i hope they get better soon.
Sophie has started to roll over from her tummy to her back, so far shes done it twice in the last week, ive written it in her red book (qlds health record book is red). Shes only have 3-4 bottles a day she cut herself down, she doesnt appear to be loosing weight so im not concerned at this point, but when i get her weighed next i'll just mention it to the chn or dr (whichever 1 i go to) shes taking a full bottle everytime and her bottles are 200mls now. Need to get the 3month teets for a bottles in the next fortnight. I got my 1st AF post birth and it stuck around for 2 and a half weeks!!, was the longest AF of my life. Not much else happening here, Sophie's just sleeping and im off to raid the cupboard for something for lunch.
Goodmorning!!
How is everyone?
The move has gone quite well. Brendan sleeps in his own room now. There just isn't any room in my bedroom. the rooms are really small!!
Things with DP and I are ok... Still a few issues. I'm giving us the duration of the lease to work things out. So whether that be the 3 months or 6 months. I dont have any inet any more, only when I'm at mums.
Take care everyone!
Hi everyone, hope you dont mind me joining in here too! I'm 22 and mum to 4 aged nearly 2 to 6.5 (eldest is my stepson who lives with us 75% of the time).
Sally I see your a premmie mummy too, my 5.5 yr old was 9 weeks early and 1260grams. I read your excitement about hitting 9kg, I remember that so well.. i still have excitement when he gains weight, I cant wait for him to pass 15kg now as he seems stuck at 14kg and his two younger sisters are overtaking him!
Welcome Charmaine,
Add your msn addy to your profile so we can chat, lol.
Hope you enjoy our little group.
hi Charmaine!!:
How are you? I'm on LAP too :D Brendan is a 30wker and was 1545gms.
Hey
Not sure if this is where we do the intro thing, but anyway, Im Tara live in Bundy 23... Married with 2 kids one is nearly 5 and the other just turned 1.... I love being a young mum and still get asked regularly if they are my kids, lol
Hi Tara, welcome to BB!
Im Ash, 20yo, and have two month old Alexander.
I also have identical twin sisters that are only eight weeks older than alexander.
Most people find that a bit weird!
Add me to msn so we can chat!
Hi Tara & Charmaine :D
welcome to BB & i hope you enjoy it here :) i am always up for an advice you wanna share about your experiences! im just over 10wks pregnant with my first bub...im a uni student studying nursing :D
So this is all new to me & any help will be appreciated...feel free to add me to msn :)
Welcome Tara!!
grrrrrrr why do people look down at u when u say ur pregnant and they find out ur only 20??? its really irritating me. Its like so wat we are a younger couple and been together since i was 16. When they find out we have been together since i was 16 they look down at me too....but they dont know my situation. Why are people so quick to judge? is 20 really that young?? ive been TTC for 2 years and now i feel like i have this hanging over me coz of what other ppl think. sorry i just had to vent.
Hey:
Im studying nursing too at CQU, 2nd year. What uni are you at? My msn is tmkelly13@hotmail.com
see ya
Holly, it's tough I know. But it keeps happening. Apparently the worst is when the get to school age and you have ALL the other parents "ganging up" IYKWIM.
Some people forget that at times there are actually are highschool sweethearts that you know, last. My grandparents were together when she was 14 or 15 and have now been married more than 40 years. My 40 year old stepdad just left my mum because he couldn't hack it. So, sometimes it IS the older people who just can't "deal".
And wait for it, when you cop slack from people who should be holding a certain degree of professionalism - like the MCHN nurses I see. I think I'm going to stop going. Thy talk to you in a very condescending tone as if you're young means that you don't know jack about anything. I got so sick of it I cut her off and used to just speak over the top of her. It can be very frustrating.
None of the mothers in my mothers group speak to me, well one does, and the only reason is because she has triplets and she tends to ask about the twins a lot.
Holly just tell people that age with regards to parenting is a very subjective thought, and due to this anyone that doesn't know you had no right to judge. If you can say that, and believe that, what people say will begin to bother you less and less as time goes by.
The other thing is, they have nothing to prove that we make bad parents. 50 years ago, young parents was the in things to do. I don't know why they have their noses out of joint because honestly, isn't it only our parents that should be pining for the loss of "a better life we could have had"?
My Mum didnt care that I was pregnant, she had an accidental pregnancy too, but she said that because I was always so ambitious she had seen "more" for me (ie, the high flying career I always wanted), apart from that reason she didn't care. So really, is that the only thing, that people think we should be working?
Because honestly I was useless at Uni because I wasnt enjoying my course, I was useless in the workforce because I couldn't find a job to stick at, and I had the overwheling desire to be a mother (cluck cluckity cluck since I was what, eight years old), so why not be here?
And anyone stupid enough to think we do it for the "baby bonus" or the pension is ridiculous. Hmmm you try and raise a child on $4000, ooh and the measly amount that's barely enough for rent & food. D1ckwads.
Sorry, long ramble.
Thanx Ash, that made me feel better. I find even when i take my niece (aged 5) to and from school i get the weirdest looks from the other mothers. Its like they are all sitting around going "whos that", "omg does she have a kid that goes here", "ive been told shes only 16"...iykwim
I dont see why its so bad being a young mum. I mean, i feel great when i think ill only be 38 when my baby is 18. Because i also lost my dad just before christmas, i have always wondered if only he was a little younger when hhe had me (he was 38) then i wouldnt have to lose my dad at the age of 19.
I think ive been lucky with doctors so far. I have explained to them that i dont know much about this whole pregnancy thing and they seem to be explaining things without making me feel too dumb. But more than likley i will come across one during the pregnancy.
As far as my family goes, my mum knows i was TTC for 2 years so she is over the moon about bub. Shes being the clucky nanna hehehee...
I find my sisters giving me stupid advice, i mean i like advice but telling me how they will help if i cant get the baby latched on etc...im like give me a break im only 13 weeks. So in a way that makes me feel dumb also. But i do have one sister in paticular that has decided to ignore me. Since i told her i was pregnant which was around 2.5 months ago, i havent heard from her. I used to hear from her every 2 days or so. She has 4 kids, and mum said she is probley jelous coz her baby wont be the centre of attention. Im like...wow do ppl really think like that. anyway im rambling.
Oh and this baby bonus...i tell ppl i pregnant and thats pretty much the first thing that comes out of their mouth ' oh atleast u will get 4/5000"....wtf!!! like i care. i dont want money for having a baby and i can say that, that money wont go very far. grrrr!!! but then u have woman that are llike 30-40 and everything is right for them coz they are older, but there is so many woman out there aged 30-40 that just do it for money etc. It makes me angry, why do we get singled oout? What is the publics acceptable age to have a baby???
like u ash, i have allllways wanted to be a mum. Im finishing my hairdressing course next week just to shut ppl up. But i know what u mean about ppl thinking "why isnt she working"..thinking we have pretty much runied our lives...well im sorry to say to all them stupid people out there that think that...having a baby is FAR from life ruining!!!!!!!!
i better stop or i wont shutup :)
:hug:
Having a baby is "never" acceptable, lol!
It wouldn't matter if you were twelve or if you were fifty, some part of society is ALWAYS going to judge. And I don't think we're singled out, I know at times we probably feel like we are, probably because media and society have given everyone the general perspective that young people shouldn't have children... But I don't think it's just us.
I think the mother's that have babies at thirty probably get told they're only having children because the "clock is ticking", or because they're married and it's obligatory. And mothers that have babies at forty probably get told they're too old for children, and it's not fair on their children as they won't have their parents for a long time, etc. A LOT of the things that get said about ALL different age groups... it's just it, having babies is just "never" acceptable.
I do think that younger couples are often isolated because there is "no acceptable reason" for them to be having babies at that age. I feel as though we get looked down upon because we haven't tried to have a career - I guess people expect we should be contributing to society. And I suppose with so much attention to improve the rate of students finsihing high school these days it is expected that they will continue their studies and 'do something' with their life. What i don't understand is why having children first is such a demise to this plan? I still fully intend on having a fulfilling career, but I wanted my children young so i could enjoy life with them. So I have the energy and vigour to be their soccer coach, to run around with them at the park. You know, I can still go out and get drunk with my kids when they turn eighteen if I want to. I LOVE the close bond I have with my mum from being so close in age, It's like there really isnt much of a generation gap, and I really want to have that sort of relationship with my children. Why should I be judged for that?
At least older couples that get pregnant "late" may have needed to take measures with assisted conception, may not have foudn the right partner or been married, etc. But there definitely is always a reason for anyone of any age to get picked on about their pregnancies and/or decision to have children.
Speaking of married, that's another thing, in this day and age, why is marriage still so important to bringing a child into this world. Don't 50% of marriages fail anyway? Sorry, we have an amazing commitment to one another, being married is not going to change our abilities to raise a child. All it is, is a signature on a piece of paper, a name (husband/wife) and a shiny thing on your finger. Really, what does that say about commitment? Nothing, sorry, i can go to a registrar and get married if I want to, but I don't see the necessity. It is not going to increase the chances of our relationship holding together. We can take vows as a couple without having taken them with marriage. Spending gross amounts of money on a wedding does not ensure you will last. It's a risk you have taken to say, yup, we're sure this is worth it, but commitment is shown in so many other ways.
My personal 'right now' view of commitment is staying with your accidentally pregnant girlfriend you have only been dating for three months.
Gotta love the liners from people when you go and say, Oh, I'm pregnant and they're like, "Is that congratulations then??". Of course it it. If it wasn't congratulations do you think I would be telling you, as if I'd run around willy nilly telling people that I'm pregnant if I'm having doubts about keeping the baby?
Or the inevitable, "so why did you keep it?". That one makes me fume.
I still think that yes, sometimes there are ages that people get pregnant that seems 'unacceptable'. But truly, there are so many cultures in the world that still have arranged marriages and kids popping out kids when they're only eleven years old, that people should be well aware that this is what our bodies are made to do.
Yes Australia does not have that culture, and yes, our life expectancy is a lot longer than some of those other cultures, so we needn't have children so young so as to ensure our ability to, BUT we are also a nation that believes in Freedom of Speech are we not? Is this not an issues that counts under freedom of speech. Freedom to make our own decisions, freedom to live our own lives. I think so.
And just as an add note:
We are also a nation (well maybe only VIC) that legalises sex from the age of 10 years old, with the provision of less than two calendar years difference in age, and from the age of 16 freely. So, yes having babies is a lifestyle choice, but is having sex also?
yeah i see what ur saying Ash.
With the marriage thing..that ****s me!! people are always asking me now im pregnant if Matt and I are going to get married before the baby is born. When i say "no", there goes that judging again! It annoys me when people just want to get married just coz they are having a baby. I believe having a baby is the best way for 2 people to be joined. I dont plan on getting married for a while yet or ever! As i have always said, why get married when theres a chance of divorce. To me marriage complicates things coz u feel like u wud have an "obligation" to be a good wife/husband etc. I also dont see the need for marriage. People have this expectations of this "perfect life" and hay, wake up..its not going to happen. But then again, what is everyones opinion of a perfect life. I love my life but i dont see it as being perfect. I actually had a lady come into the salon and she was told that i was pregnant and when i seen her she looked down at my hand for a ring. I was like WTF!!! it annoyed me like u wouldnt believe.
As for my career, i still plan of having one. I want to own my own salon and im still taking steps to make that happen. Just coz u have a baby, ur life doesnt just stop. Im planning on going to Tazzy next year and i got asked, oh are u still going now u will have a baby?? grrrr! ofcourse im stilll going. Just coz im a mum doesnt mean im incapable of going on a damn holiday!
Does anyone find that when young people have babies, everyone thinks it was their parents fault. Like "oh that child wasnt brought up propley" ..?? i have come across so many people like that and now when i see them people i know thats what they are saying about me. Its not my parents fault. I had a great upbringing. They did nothing wrong as this is what i WANTED!!!
im outa here to get sum lunch talk soon xoxoxoxoxo
Holly i replied to this before but it got wiped because of an error.
I think people look down on the way we are parented a lot of the time. Althought i have a young mum myself so that may increase the prevalence. I was brought up knowing that it was ok to be a young mum, that we did just as good and job etc, etc. Maybe because of the way I have been educated like that people look at my mum and see her as a bad influence.
I don't know, quite honestly, i don't care and I'm so sick of it too.
Next time someone asks me how old I am I swear I'll tell them I'm 25.
Tara - Im at La Trobe Bendigo :D sweet looks like were both in 2nd year..i so cant wait until this year Holly - is over hehe have you done your first semester placement yet (ours was for ACUTE)? i finished mine last week as i did mine mon & tues for 7wks..i think it worked out better that way as what we learned that week in the skills area we put into practice at the hospital! my placement was in a hospice & so many people hated the thought of going there but i absolutely loved it...its a totally different style of nursing & i think its amazing what they do to make peoples last days or weeks alive memorable & comfortable :D
No matter what you do or where you go there will always be people who judge you for being a young mum! i know that because since i have found out i have been judged by so many people & told that im ruining my life but now i just see this as a new beginning...i am still going to finish my nursing degree as i love it so much & i will still be a family person, im so happy now & have come to terms with being pregnant that i dont care what other people think!
Its funny though because before this all happened i had planned to be a mum at about 25 after i had my career on track & ready but now i am greatful that its happened as i know uni & everything will always be there :) Funny story after i told my mum & she calmed down she was like "i bet that my nana (her mother) will say that i am following in my mothers footsteps & she didnt bring me up right"
well that was nearly exactly the first few words that she said once i told her but i dont care, i do idolise my mother for so many things & if i turn out like her i will be happy :D
As long as your happy Holly thats all that matters :D
Sorry about the long post & i hope it makes sense :P
Hello
Welcome tara!
Hollye.... sorry for the comments you get :hug: but we all get them at some point!
Not much happening here.
hope all is well.
Hi ladies, sorry I've been MIA - I've been so busy! started working shift work and it's kinda killing me
Hope all is well
Hey
For any one thats interested i just uploaded a few more pics of my baby girl that DP took today!!
Hope your all well :)
Hello :)
meg, I'll check out your gorgeous girl now :D How is everything going?
Not much happening here.
Happy Anzac Day!
Take care
Hi Girls
Welcome Tara!
Hollye - I am what is considered to be 'acceptable' because we were married before conception. most of the judgement is to do with traditional beliefs, and that divorce is harder to do that just breaking up iykwim. the idea is that divorce makes people think about it before splitting up. but most people now realise that relationships take work, even the couples that have been married for 50+ years argue, but they work on it. we have a rule, never go to sleep until the argument is sorted out. I also have said to people in the shops that yes i am young, but i was just ready young. different people are ready for different things at different times and what suits one doesn't suit another. I also look older. most people have to pick up their jaws from the floor when i tell them how old i am. i look at least 25. the photo on ymnm2b is not flattering.
Hope everyone had a good ANZAC day :D
Meg - i will have to check out your new pics :D i love looking at pics but i will have to do it later as im on my way out the dor to work in a sec :)
Hope everyone has a good day
its quiet in here...
Sure is quiet in here today..
well a little bit of an update here :) i went to the GP & all seems to be good as my uterus is measuring a good size but he thinks its a little bigger then 12wks & is interested to see what the next u/s shows & we decided that im not going to have the NT scan which im happy about as it wont change anything & would cause stress for no reason! my Bp was also good but he was surprised when i stepped onto the scales that i have lost 10kg recently which we dont know how as i havent really had much m/s & i am eating more then usual...but all is well :D
hope everyone else is doing well :)
Hello everyone!
How are we all?
Not really much happening here. Brendan has his 1yr corrected check on wed, with the paed. He'll be 1 yr corrected on Monday. Hopefully they can fix his tongue tie there and then, I really dont want to have to wait much longer, he is already delayed for corrected age... and i just want him to catch up!
Have a good weekend!
Good luck with the tounge tie Sally!
2 weeks till challenge time. bit apprehensive about it.
Ali, have I missed something? Challenge time?? Thanks... I'm really hoping the paed can fix it.
dairy challenge, for Em
Good luck Sally, ill have my fingers crossed for you and master monkey!
Ali, all the best for the challege... i guess you're worried about her being sick? Isn't there a way to do it otherwise? Instead of yoghurt/custard/etc, can't you just give her a half feed on normal formula instead of lactose free? It just seems like a big step to go from nothing to giving it all at once?
Then again, im clueless :)
custard yoghurt and cheese have the lactose already partially broken down. she cant have any normal cows till 12 months. all the info is in my blog.
Ali, hope it goes well... without too much discomfort for Em. What does the challenge involve?
Ash, thanks
Here is Em's action plan.
The custard/yoghurt/cheese is 1 meal each and see what the nappy contents are like. and if she gets a belly ache and if she starts refluxing. fun, not.
doesn't sound like fun, I hope she will be ok. Poor lil mite.
Hello!!
How is everyone?
I have some exciting news... my lil man is 12 months corrected age TODAY!!!
:happybirthday: (corrected) Brendan! hope he has had a good day!
not much happening here, just waiting for some work. hohum.
:happybirthday: happy corrected birthday Brendan :happybirthday:
Im very well thanks :) how is everyone else?
not much happening here just got some balloons as an early bday present yay