I have a friend that has just failed her third IVF attempt. Her DH had cancer years ago and the FS thinks that his sperm count has been effected. I'm not entirely sure of the details, but as far as I know, there is no problems with her.
Naturally, she is devastated about this third attempt and I don't know much about IVF having not gone down that road yet. So I was just looking for some advice anyone might have for her.
TIA
ETA: I thought sperm would reproduce over the years and end up being healthy again?? He had cancer in 1999-2000, now in remission.
Last edited by Marley&Me; September 15th, 2012 at 08:29 PM.
The FS should know about her DH's sperm health and they would probably be doing ICSI if there are issues. Unfortunately there's not much else to do but keep trying
what N2l said.... if they are doing IVF then the FS should know the health status of both of them.... each cycle failing sucks and all you can do is pick yourself up and try again..... maybe she would like to join BB? that's been the best support I have found, and maybe she could ask all the questions she asks....
I wish I knew what else I could do too... after 5 failures (and many of the girls have MANY more than me...) it just stabs your heart every time....
Thanks N2L and myturn. I guess I'm looking for advice on if there is anything else that will help her DH swimmers. I know Zinc is good, no heat, no booze.......
It's strange because she mentioned that the FS can't be completely sure, but most likely it's the cancer treatments. I thought they would have been able to tell her more I guess. As far as I know she wasn't taking any drugs they were using natural ovulation. Maybe I will suggest acupuncture too....IDK
It all just sucks. I just feel for everyone who is on this ****ty ride
That is a bit weird.... Maybe they are 'semi okay' with only slightly lower or out of range stats.... So essentially the infertility is unknown....
I don't take any supplements.... They confuse me too.... I just worry about wasting my money.. When I last spoken with my FS he said the Folic acid was all I needed. Not even the elevit was necessary.
Your right, the whole stinking journey is unfair and craphola.
Yeah I know, it just sounds a bit odd. But she hasn't gone into details yet. I haven't seen her for a while and she just recently told me about the IVF.
I am having two IUI cycles when I book with a new FS and then probably starting IVF next year (if we can afford it ) So I will be joining the crapola train most likely. I will just tell my friend everything I have read/heard. Can't hurt I guess..
You don't have to be AC to join in.... Anyway if you are about to do IUI you will be - essentially.... Cause that's not natural conception... Really
Bit I know what you mean about being too obsessed... Lol. I'm not doing any cycles in there at the moment... But at least te girls know what I've been through, and what it all means, and that really helps. If I have questions or feel bad. There's so much support.
hi there, it might be a little too late but i had to respond to your post. First of all, wow!!!! you are a great friend!!!! i wish i had a friend like you to support me through infertility. unfortunately, they all afraid of me and avoiding me because they don;t know how to deal with me but no one just asked me 'how are you? is there anything i can help you with? do you want to talk about it..'. instead they making comments like 'you will be fine' it will happeen soon, right?... but i wish they would say i am sorry to hear that...and just listen and be supportive.... i dont;t know if it's just me or not but all those positive expressions and the stories about other people getting pregnant...do not help. and on top of that all my friends are having their 2nd and 3rd babies and i am still trying (it's been 7 years of 6 painfull losses). from my own experience just be there for your friend. call her as often as you can, take her out for coffees, movies, anything to distract her.... don't be afraid to ask her about ivf, procedures they doing, etc. it will mean a lot to her that you care and want to be apart of her journey. i hope i could help and i wish your friend all the best and hopefully soon you will be apart of baby talking, morning sickness and all that awsome stuff. good luck. xxx
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and all you can do is pick yourself up and try again..... maybe she would like to join BB? that's been the best support I have found, and maybe she could ask all the questions she asks....
) So I will be joining the crapola train most likely. I will just tell my friend everything I have read/heard. Can't hurt I guess..
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