Functioning at work

[Shell30]

Hi Every-one

Very recently I have started having great trouble functioning at work. I have become so affected by my situation my concentration has gone and my work is beginning to suffer.

Has any-one else experienced this and have any advice?xx

[dusty]

Hi Shell

I'm sorry you are finding yourself in such a position but I think it is normal to experience this as a LTer/IVFer. Looking at your signature you have had a lot of hard times and disappointment and it is hard to cope with all that without time and good counselling in my experience.

I was a LTer for 5 years and had many many knocks. There came a time about half way through that I just couldn't cope anymore with life and work and IVF so I took leave from my job and had time out with my DH's support to work through mild depression and had to learn coping strategies and explore alternatives for my life with or without kids. After 4-5 months of counselling and support I gradually wanted to go back to work and get on with life but it wasn't easy. It was a low period in my life but also an amazing turning point from which I grew stronger in many ways and could see other things in my life that were not just child focused.

So please don't feel you are doing anything wrong. When faced with constant disappointment and stress like LTers are its good to recognise that this is all part of the grieving process.

Can you talk to your boss and share that you are having a difficult time emotionally? I found that really helped for me and got a lot of time and support from my workplace (I accessed all my sick leave).

xx

[oneday86]

I think its very normal, IVF is a long emotional, physical and financial struggle. Ivf has become my whole world, i live for the next cycle or the results. I work in childcare which makes it extremely hard seeing children 5 days a week and parents come in pregnant, i find iv lost patience with the children and im not enjoying my job at the moment but i have to be there because we need the money. So dont feel like your the only one because i also feel the same. xx

[Shell30]

Thank-you guys.

I think going from being such a happy energetic person to what I am now is tough to adjust to.

It can be difficult holding on to the light at the end of the tunnel can't it Xx