There are probably plenty of threads that you can read and I am sure others who we were on here during their experience will be able to provide you with the links. Just wanted to wish you the best of luck. Have been down that road and only found BB once pregnant. Its been a great place to get support and advice to help you through the journey you're about to embark on. Looking forward to hearing your good news. If I can give any help or support from my experience just give me a shout. Best of luck Xx
Like you, my DH had a vasectomy (thanks for that, Ex wife!) & we had ICSI to make our son. He's 14 months next week! How time flies. We're talking about making baby 2.0 soon, too. But I have the weaning hoop to jump through first.
I was pretty naive when it came to starting our treatment. I had assumed because we had no other fertility issues, we'd get pg on the first transfer. Nope. I set myself up for a huge fall on that one, didn't i?? Jack was our third & lucky-last embryo. The second of our frozen ones. Like an old popsicle left over from last summer (hence the nick name, Poppy, in utero).
I found writing a journal helped with the many thoughts I had, and just couldn't say to anyone. There are things, fears, hopes, etc, we can't say to anyone, even our partners. I always like to look like I have everything in hand, and verbally telling someone I'm falling apart on the insides... well, it just wasn't an option. So I wrote a journal to Jack. Initially, it was to 'Emby', then to 'Frosty', then 'Poppy', and when he was born, 'Jack'. I think one day it will be a beautiful story of how loved & wanted he is.
I wish you the best of luck. I'm not here all that often anymore, but you can PM me, or find me on facebook.
Be kind to yourself!
Jenn
Hehe - I can't blame the ex-wife for hubby's vasectomy. He's the one the made the decision to do it. He's told me he felt like he was being used by her for his sperm. She popped 4 kids out in 4 years...and hubby said that at 25, 4 kids is enough. So he had the vasectomy....and their marriage went downhill from that very moment and they split up approx 12 months later. When I first met him I didn't care that he'd had the vasectomy. My mother was not a phyiscal abuser, but she abused my brother and I mentally, and when I met hubby I had made the decision I never wanted kids cause I didn't want to run the risk of doing to my kids what my mother did to me.........very quickly changed my mind though when we went to Sydney on holiday and I saw my hubby with his kids.
I don't know that I would neccessarily call myself naive, but I'm HOPEFUL that we'll fall pregnant first time.
Hubby is VERY fertile when he had the vascetomy (they had him re-do the sperm count 3 times before the vasectomy cause they thought it was wrong somehow!) and to my knowledge there's no problems my side.
Maybe hopeful is the wrong word....I'm crossing everything it is possible to cross that it happens first time. It's taken us many years to get to this point. I don't think our bank balance could cope with repeated re-tries, and we aren't getting any younger.
I have never written a diary or journel...might need to look into this one though cause I hadn't even considered the thoughts/feelings you can't say aloud.
True! I can't blame her. And I don't. As expensive & invasive as it is, I wouldn't change what we have because... well I love what we have! He had the vas because they decided they never wanted kids & she was having health issues from the pill. Two years later she decided she *might* want kids, just not with him.
He initially said he didn't want kids, but he changed his mind, thankfully!
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