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I like the idea of 4 or 6 as well. I am happy to keep going until the body says stop. I had hoped to be pregnant with the second when Noah was 3 months old but that wasn't to happen with the night time b/fing, so hopefully this one isn't a frequent night feeder so I can start on #3 right away. With a bit of luck it could be twins or triplets :lol:
I am currently pg with #5 but this is our last. I will be 40 when this one comes and the body can't take it any more lol. I would love to have more but just not give birth to them. If we could adopt then I would be in my element :)
Am having problems deciding on a vehicle too. Is our pajero big enough or will I have to go to a bus lol.
Oh well still have a little time to decide
Kim - You`d be fine but I think your having a little blue one this time ;)
I always said I`d like 4 children but lately I`ve been thinking 5 would be nice, DH doesn`t mind how many we have which is great but as he says we have to find our illusive #3 first before #4 and 5 are thought about.
We just had #4, and whilst I was pregnant, DP was saying, "this is it, no more". But when I suggested a c-section and getting my tubes tied, he said "no, what if we want more". After #4 was born (4 weeks ago), DP started talking about how we would do things differently "next time". I always wanted 5 kids, and even had names planned from when I was about 11 years old!
We both come from small families (I have one sibling, DP is an only child), so we are loving having a big family!! Our biggest concern is that I turn 35 this year (and have been considered high risk in my last 2 pregnancies), and we have twins running on both sides of our families! So if we decided to go again, there is a high likelihood we could end up with multiples!! (doesn't bother me though!!) :cryinglaugh:
Someone mentioned doing the school run with a newborn - my eldest had just started kindy when #3 was born and is now in year 2 - it's not really so bad doing the school run with a newborn!! (But this is my 2nd time doing so!!)
I was re-reading this thread and cannot believe I have anything new to update/add from my last post - but I guess I do. For the most part I am very happy with the 4 we have. I stress too much over the "what if's" financially, etc. with each new pregnancy or when things are not going too good. The older I get this stress / depression seems to get harder and harder. If money was less of an object, I think I would want to remain open to the course of life or DW's desires. One thing is for certain, I could not imagine life without one of this little ones ? I love them so much.
That said, with and immediately after our 4th child, DW was saying she was very much done. I have now noticed in the last few weeks a waffling of that position. Not only is she indicating a desire down the road to have another, but last night she basically said there was no way we could only have one more because of her stupid odd/even number issue. So having number 5 would never work, we would have to have two more. This woman is killing me (I love it though)! So who knows, we may have at least 1 - 2 more. It will be hard for me to say no to DW, I don't feel right simply denying something as basic as mother hood to my wife. It is a large part of who she is so how can I take that away from her? Furthermore, I find her completely irresistible when I know she is fertile - and that is the one time each month she is ready to go..lol. This alone is going to make not having any more children very hard to do.
One thing is for certain, if we have more she will want to make a move soon due to our ages. So I guess stay tuned to my signature as it will probably indicate upcoming changes...lol!
I'm not even sure how many kids I want, or DP wants.
If I had got a got this for #2, then I wouldn't mind if we only had two... but since we've got 2 boys now, I still really want a little girl deep down... BUT what if we try for a little pink one and get another boy. I just don't know. Lol.
All the 'what ifs' they're never ending.
DH and I both want one little girl.
But my feeling is that we will have two kids.
Well...IM PREGNANT with #5!!!!!!!!!
Had a few not so nice comments but who cares!! My hubby, kids and I are stoked about it. I think this will be it for us...but like my friend said thats what I said after I had my 3rd and then my 4th.:lol:
CONGRATS Jami80!! LOl, sounds like your friend knows you to well.
I suppose there is a day where you truly feel it, but I have also read enough from women with 5 and more children who once they are up there in thei 40's start to fear the day they "can't" hav more - I think that one scares me more. What if my wife is "never" done...lol. What if she is one of those ladies who ends up having so many kids (so many based on our original thinking) that she ends up never wanting to be done, that she can't amagine not being able to have more when her body / soul craves another little one. LOL - I fear that may actually already be happening!
I already posted that we are planning number 6 next year, but last night, hubby was talking about having 7! I think 7 will be enough for me im 31 with 5 so if i stick to my rough 2 year gap ill be about 35, and that is when i said i would stop having babies. ;)
3 is my cut off. already have 1 DS. So now trying to #2....so its working out well so far lol ive always wanted 3 kids.
Dh is 1 one 3 sooo i dont need to convince him lol
I I haven't posted for ages so thought I would put my 2cents in. I have just have number 7 and already decided this is not our last. Having a baby in the house is delightful! I think we will just keep going until we/God/our health/other? says enough. :)
We said #3 would be the last. Now I just don't feel complete still.....i want #4, and maybe #5 (haven't told Dh that much yet! lol). I worry about how I would cope though? I love my kids more than anything and I dont doubt I would be able to love more but I worry maybe 4 is too many? I struggle now to find time for all of them.....
I would like 4 babies - I'm half way there, just trying to get the 3rd. I aways thought 5 growing up would be a great number because my mum's from 5, my bio-dad is from 5 and I am the youngest of 5 from a blended family.
I definately don't want to stop at just 2 - the rest of my family have all chickened out at 2, so I'm the only one left to have anymore. I already have a girl and a boy, and everyone was like, well I supposed you'll stop now you've got the "pigeon pair". Hell no, I want my daughter to have a sister and my son to have a brother.
Looking forward to making and meeting some new souls.
PamyK, I thought that too, and now I have 3 boys and 1 girl, so I kinda don't want to stop! My DD already has a "princess" mentality, so I think we need to try again for another girl! Snap her back into line! lol! Everyone thought I would stop at 2 as well (eldest 2 are one of each!) my mum even said she didn't see me having any kids at all!! :rolleyes:
GL with it all!
I've been getting quips from my mum (believe it or not) that she wants lots of grandkids just not all from the one person. I mean she had 4 and myself and my brother are the only ones so far to have kids. When this one comes she will have 7 grandchildren. My brother and sil have stopped at 2 and we are not sure if the other sibs will ever have kids.
My DF and I are looking at each other lately saying "what are we doing having this 5th one??????" lol. Our other kids have been playing up so badly and then we think about the ages we will be when this one is like 20 and we just groan (60 for me and 68 for DF) as it is going to take that long for us to have some us time lol. That is if the others don't come home. Might have to move and not tell them the address lol.