Oh sweets, how sad for your family.....

I too have a big family, 6 kids so far, and have had my share of losses....

Each and everyone one hurts just as much as my first, at which stage I didn't have other children, so I understand how you are feeling, and horribly insensitive some folks can be....
I am so so sorry you are going through this, you will find a lot of support from BB, its a wonderful place here sweets....