I'd send a text/e-mail with what your DH likes.

I have no qualms with someone saying they like/dislike a certain food and I'll do that food (or not) for an event: I'll do food my SiL likes for DH's birthday party so long as he doesn't hate it. I made a birthday cake with Liebs for MiL, who had no say in the cake. I made it, I get the say. Or rather, Liebs had the say for that one.

But if I were throwing a party for someone, I probably would ask if they especially wanted anything.