well this has been something that I guess I knew was coming but I'd like some advice,
how would you go about this?
Would you deliberately ignore someones calls and invitations to family outings etc if you didn't want to be friends with them, and hope they get the hint....
OR
Would you politely tell them that you don't want to hang out? either in a text or phone conversation so it wasn't EXTRA awkward.
OR
would you just make up excuses, always being too busy or sick etc?
how would YOU personally handle a situation where someone was trying to be a friend and you didn't want to be.....???
tell them straight out, some people realy dont take hints to well. you may feel bad or mean for telling them straight out, but it will stop alot of frustration if there the type of person who just dosent get the hint, or realy thinks your just busy and will be able to hang out the foolowing week, kwim?
Tell them straight out. I would hate to be on the receiving end, and someone ignoring me or lying to me when I wanted to hang out with them, only to find they didn't want to be my friend. I could have been using that time/energy on someone else.
yup, tell them like it is - tell them you don't want to hang out for whatever reason. don't ignore them - it may seem rude to say it to them outright, but it's far ruder to jerk them around, thinking you are busy when you're actually avoiding them
I'd like to say I would tell them outright, because that's what I think is the right thing to do. However I dont think I'd have the guts. so I'd probably ignore thier calls for a while in the hope they lose interest or get the hint or just hang out with them anyway depending on how much they irritate me.
It's sad, but some people just don't know how to be honest about things like that, especially if it's nothing you've done.
Honestly, even though I would want to do the right thing, the thought of actually saying something like that even in theory (and I have said it once irl) makes me uncomfortable and hot and cold. No one wants to hurt someone else.
If it were me I would guess 'they're just not that into you/me' it's probably not personal. It's a shame they aren't treating you with dignity and consideration though, it's the least you deserve.
Well I have called once more today and no answer... I really don't want to just drop on so I'll guess I'll wait a bit... They have my Tupperware containers too
What would YOU do?
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so I'd probably ignore thier calls for a while in the hope they lose interest or get the hint or just hang out with them anyway depending on how much they irritate me.
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