Not quite sure if this is the right spot for this, but here goes.

DH's grandmother died on Friday. It's his Dad's mum and he's not particularly close to his Dad's family. The funeral is Thursday which is normally a daycare day for DD (22 months). It will be a small funeral with only family and then a hotel lunch afterwards. It'd be good to take DD to see her family as we don't see them much. But it somehow doesn't seem appropriate, especially since we do have care arranged for her that day.

Would you take a toddler to a funeral?