Why is ok to say, skinny and not fat?

Her size comes from her boobs and her curves. It's all about where you carry your weight. My body shape is very different to most of my friends who weigh the same as me, I carry it in proportion and still have a very defined waist, larger boobies and the butt to boot ;) And it also comes from knowing how to wear your clothes and tone your arms. It's not about what size your clothes say, what your BMI is or even what the scales say. It's more about healthy lifestyle. You really cannot define a women's health by the size of her clothing. Because shape is very different to weight and unhealthiness.

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Her size comes from her boobs and her curves. It's all about where you carry your weight. My body shape is very different to most of my friends who weigh the same as me, I carry it in proportion and still have a very defined waist, larger boobies and the butt to boot ;) And it also comes from knowing how to wear your clothes and tone your arms. It's not about what size your clothes say, what your BMI is or even what the scales say. It's more about healthy lifestyle. You really cannot define a women's health by the size of her clothing. Because shape is very different to weight and unhealthiness.

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Exactly. Thank you for saying it better than I! lol

I don't think she is oversized though? :think: To me she is just a gorgeous Goddess with large breasts!

I think though it's important to remember it's not necessarily what size clothing you wear but having a large belly or extra adiposity is a health risk no matter how much you exercise. For example Magda looks gorgeous (as do all women!) but she is still carrying too much weight for health around her middle & especially her neck. (Neck adiposity is a risk factor for cardiac conditions) That doesn't mean she hasn't done an incredible amount of work. Shown immense fortitude on her journey. Just that despite that she still for health is overweight. Regardless how much we want to be PC and say: "we're all different" yadda yadda. It's the adiposity around organs (& this usually is reflected in abdominal adiposity, neck adiposity, upper thigh, backside and upper arm)

This is a completely different subject to weather or not a size 16 looks gorgeously sexy! She may or may not - but we do know the things above generally tell us you are at higher risk of early death to cardiovascular disease, cancer, diabetes and other illnesses. :hug:

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It's the adiposity around organs (& this usually is reflected in abdominal adiposity, neck adiposity, upper thigh, backside and upper arm)

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I agree regarding the carrying fat on the tummy/neck, but I thought weight on thighs and backside was considered fine for women - I always have large thighs, at 65kg I have a large bottom and thighs but no fat elsewhere, I would have to be a skeleton before the fat would move from that area.


PS Anyone else notice the weight watchers online ad popping up at the top of the page - haha, how coincidental!

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"Gee, you've stacked on the weight!"

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LOL you'd will be surprised some people will actually say it, my close friends will tell me and my Mum will say it to DP or i if we 'have' put on weight ... she doesn't hold back BUT then if i lose weight my Mum makes nasty comments like have i stuck my fingers down my throat :o, but i feel like saying " Nah Mum you've got the wrong daughter, the other one has had bulimia not me " !!

Kass when i was your age i got down to 51kilo's yet i'm 5ft5" and i thought i was still over weight yet everyone else told me i was far too slim and looked ill :shakehead:

Oh dear don't think WE can win either way :rolleyes:

Kass if you eat anything like i have seen your DD#1 i can vouch she is one very good healthy but big eater, i love it and wish my own DD would eat ALL those good things like artichokes & olives like your DD :pray:

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I agree regarding the carrying fat on the tummy/neck, but I thought weight on thighs and backside was considered fine for women - I always have large thighs, at 65kg I have a large bottom and thighs but no fat elsewhere, I would have to be a skeleton before the fat would move from that area.

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I didn't word that well. Different body shapes are more predisposed to "excess weight" related issues. Bums and thighs are not excluded - however you are absolutely correct. It is normal, beautiful and gorgeous for women to have hips and butts if that's their shape. Just that excess weight on this area can predispose. We know that it often shows high estrogen tendencies etc etc etc. Please know this isn't good or bad or indifferent. Just that generally speaking when we carry excess weight on these areas our risk factors increase. Some people can put on weight and get larger all over (I am one). Some it goes straight to the hips, butt, neck... We know that this is more of a problem. As is excessive abdo adiposity.

I was speaking with some girlfriends today over coffee about this post. One is a GP one is an RN and the other a physio... Each of them agreed that our acceptance of a larger sized body being normal has happened in our society with terrible consequences for our health, our fertility and our future. Whilst we are bombarded with those waif like models (some of whom may be naturally waif like!) we have rebelled to seeing a more round body as "normal"... Whilst it may be normal for some for many of us it's the affects of our abundant lifestyles & lack of physical activity that is rife in today's society.

It's really a hard one as it is dangerous turf to talk on. :hug:

Have you noticed though, that if you are now obese you are the new object of public scorn? Read comments following any story about how an overweight worker lost thier job for something completely non-related to their weight or another subject completely, and it appears to be be completely ok to insult, humiliate and scorn them. Somethings people say are extremely cruel and insulting and if said about someone of a different race or culture would be removed because of racial villification. IMO by the media focussing on how good being thin and fit is, they are alienating and ostracising a portion of society. I am not saying being obese is healthy or good in anyway, but it has come down to the fact that the last group of people it is entirely acceptable to discriminate and villify are the overweight.

Absolutely I have noticed that. Just as I've noticed that anyone really thin is automatically thought to be bulimic etc. I think judgements on others is a dangerous ground to walk on. This however is different to speaking generally about the way our society has changed healthwise...

It's a tough one hey. :hug:

I was talking to the woman I work with today about her adult daughter, and she was telling me her daughter suffers from IBS. A few years ago she went to Europe, before she was diagnosed, and got extremely sick from eating all the rich food all the time. Her sickness continued when she got home, she continued losing weight, everything was just going straight through her. It took 3 months to get a specialist to listen to her, because they all took one look at her and assumed she was anorexic or bulimic :o

I didn't realise until this thread that it really does swing both ways :shakehead: I'll definitely be more careful about what I say to my slender friends :)

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It truly is a symptom of our times isnt it? I have IBS so I get how it can affect you so badly - poor honey.

It does go both ways doesn't it my love - and both ways I think are difficult. :grouphug: