do you ever get told....

[airline]

Hey girls
do you ever get asked why you come on this or any other forum to do with conceiving/babies/ivf etc etc? DH, even though he is amazing, often will see me on here, and tell me to stop reading in case it upsets me or something along those lines.

I admit there have been many times, when maybe it isn't wise to go online because my head's not in the right place, but even though I have friends who've gone through IVF, I don't generally want to call them up or go around and say, 'Hey, how you doing? I feel like **** blah blah blah blah." so instead I come on here.

I made the mistake of smsing my close friend (3 kids all naturally, no issues), and saying I should've gone out with her tonight (DH working)...she asked why, I said that 'the internet was evil' and I was gonna go do some ironing and watch some tv. She referred to a previous conversation saying that I might not always understand her DH but she doesn't understand what I sometimes do to myself.

That upset me. I'd rather have had a, well if there's anything I can do...or a call if you need to comment, not a why do you do this to yourself. I do it, because I go to a place where people understand. People have been there, or are doing it, or in amongst it, or have been through something similar. You can read about others' long strived for successes and rejoice, or tear up because you've just read a heartbreaking story.

I've never, not once picked up the phone and called a friend or seen someone when I've been balling my eyes out. I've no idea what they're doing, they all have families or are pregnant, are all busy, busy people, I get that. So I come on here. It always gets me through to the other side, one way or another.

Anyway, I'm sorry for the rant, just feeling lonely, and needed to offload

[Caramello]

Hi Airline,

I have had people questioning why I come onto BB - but more to do with counsellors and Natropaths rather than friends....

I can empathise with the loneliness you are feeling - sometimes it is only the people that have gone through a similar situation that understand the sadness that you experience.

There are times also when I need to take a step back from BB. I suppose it is a question of balance.

I'm sorry that you are feeling lonely. Here's some hugs

[airline]

cheers Gargy, you see that's all I needed to hear thank you

[MummaSue]

I come on here because there are women who understand. I don't have many people in real life that I can chat to about this who do. There is nothing wrong with that at all babe!!

Big hugs to you babe

S X

[airline]

cheers sue. I poke my tongue out at people who don't get it

[redlady]

Hello,

Huggles to you. Sometimes I get questioned why Im on here. Well I agree with airline, most of my friends are busy getting pregnant or have their family already. They are naturally involved with their own families. And usually don't understand how hard it is for some people.

I know I haven't started sniffing or injecting or being harvested for eggs or implanted. But I do read the other lovely ladies stories.

Redlady