Vicki that is horrible, I am so sorry honey.
Look after yourself :hugs:
Skye xoxox
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Vicki that is horrible, I am so sorry honey.
Look after yourself :hugs:
Skye xoxox
Vicki, I am so very sorry to hear this news. Please know that we are here for you if you need us. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Best of luck sweet stuff.
Vicki, my biggest hug goes to you. Thinking of you for the days to come, take lots of care of yourself.
Oh no Vicki, I'm so sorry.
I'd just read your first post and was composing a reply in my head to you as I was reading through everyone else's. I was going to say that I think that is Nurse Bernie's standard line. She wanted to send me to counselling as well and had me booked to see Frank the next day too.
I am so so sorry. :hug:
Take care of your heart.
Vicki
I am so sorry for your loss
Vicki,
I'm so sorry hunny. Please take care of yourself and your DH.
love
sushee
:hug: oh sweetie i was so sure it was going to be ok... :cry: I am so sorry... You and DH deserved this so much.... thinking of you...
love and hugs
leis xx
Vicki - I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. As already mentioned, take good care of yourself and remember we are all thinking of you and sending lots of hugs your way. :hug:
Marg
Vicky sweetheart - I'm so sorry! My heart aches for you petal. Take care of yourselves. :hug:
Oh Vicki,
I have just been through exactly the same thing. Take care and all the time you need.
Ann
A quick post b4 work, so sorry Vicki for your loss.....please look after yourself... me BFN yesteray, got the call "late" at 3pm so I knew, but I knew anyway....I actually felt more sorry for the nurse. I could tell she was really sorry. Having a few weeks break from the meds, and probably onto IVF after next appt w the doc....
Again, so sorry Vicki... take care :cry:
Sorry to hear your news Janee.
Ok girls. I've decided that we'll call February the 'bad' month.
Now it's March, I'm hoping to see lots of nice results for you all - onward and upward!
Sue
173 more sleeps 'til up up and a-w-a-a-a-y
sorry janee... wishing you all the best for the next ivf cycle... :hugs: stay strong.....
love leis xxx
Sue, February is a CRAP month.
It's a chemical pg, so it's on it's way out.
Also bad is that I have to get an Anti-D injection as I'm Rhesus negative.
Repeat BT now until it's all gone.
It felt good while it lasted.
It'll be an IVF after a month off now. Very dissapointed.
Good luck to everyone else on your cycles.
Janee- I am so sorry Janee. Big Hugs to you.
Thank you all so much for you much needed support. You all have really made this time so much easier. I have felt like I am so much stronger than I was the last 2 times. I am so eternally grateful to you all.
SuziQ- My head is totally not on this planet. Last time I miscarried I got into see Malcome straight away. So it makes sence to get straight into see Frank. I did not even have to pay today. We were totally shocked about that. Never before this week had I even been offered councelling. I was a total mess last cycle. This time I have been so together so it came at a bit of a shock. It was also Michelle who booked me in, But Bernadette did re-enforce it.
My Visit today went ok. We both have to have more tests. Then if they both come back alright we can start again. as I have to have provera to bring on AF I wanted to know exactly when we could start and DR said as soon as we get the blood work back. I was shocked with that as before we have always had to have at least a 3 month break. So it is up to us. and the blood tests of course. At this stage I am still in shock with it all. I have not slept since friday and it has finally hit me today. So we just no have to wait for blood tests!! always waiting...
anway I do truly from the bottom of my heart thank you all..... many hugs to all of you.
Tam,
the biggest hugs to you, mate. DH said to me when I told him that you're one person who's had so many ups and downs and have dealt with it with a great deal of dignity. I couldn't agree more.
You know I'm always just a phone call away.
love
sushee
Oh Tam, I feel for you. It's so unfair, there must be times you wonder how much more you can take. Damn chem pg's. I really think BFN's are better IYKWIM. Your strength and resilience is an inspiration.
I officially rename February "cr@p" month.
Take care of your heart and big hugs :hug:
Tam- I am soo sorry honey. big long hugs to you.
Awwww crap!! Bugger!! ****!! I'm so sorry Tam!! :hug:
Look after yourself sweetie :hugs:
Tam, Janee & Vicki, Sending you all a truck load of hugs as you all go thru this heart wrenching time. Thinking of you all.
Oh NO Tam and Vicki I send you heaps of cyber Hugs girls sooo very sorry for what you are going through. Hope you are taking it easy.
Ohhh Tam.... :fuming: How can life be so cruel.... ](*,) Take care of yourself and your family, and stay strong, sweet heart, as good things are just around the corner for you.... love and hugs always.. leis xx
Oh Tam, just read your post now...that is not fair! :( I kept thinking this week, well at least Tam got some good news from the clinic....I am so sorry. I hope you're doing OK. Looks like we may bump into each other in that wiating room after all.... have you noticed how serious some women are...and sometimes I think I'm getting a real looking down upon ...I mean I know we are all in that clinic because of a serious issue, but I always try to smile and put on a happy face in that waiting room, cause we're all in the same, or similar boat really aren't we? Anyway, I hope you're OK.... me I'm currently doing all the things I couldn't if I were pregnant...having a drink after work, eating dip, soft cheeses etc etc...oh and the BEST ever white chocolate cheesecake that I made myself...sending you each and all a piece in cyber space...ENJOY!!!! ;)
Tamtake care of yourself it definately is not fair
VickiI hope you are looking after yourself and DH
LeisHope you are well and thanks for the email on empty arms definately did need the tissues
Suzi Qnot long now until you go on the trip of a lifetime I cant wait to hear all about it
Hello to everyone else that I have missed its hard to keep up with you all these days.
Well if you remember back a couple of months ago I decided I needed to give up midwifery and have a break from babies for a while, well it has been going great but now I have decided to make more drastic changes in my life. We have put the house on the market and we are moving to Hervey Bay, I have a job (as a midwife lol) commencing on the 20th March so we are frantically trying to pack and clean the house ready for the big move.
I feel my heart is now healing and I feel a lot stronger than I did a couple of months ago, so once I get settled I will log on again and see how you wonderful ladies are going and hopefully we will have lots more graduates by then.
Take care of your hearts, your DH'S and each other
Me 34
DH 35
DD 13
DS 11
DD 6
3 X Angel babies :angel:
05 IVF ICSI#1 BFN
05 FET #1 BFN
05 FET #2 BFN
05 IVF ICSI#2 BFN
Good afternoon, thanks for the thoughts, they help immensely, it is good to have good friends like you guys.
I hope the other ladies with BFNs are feeling a bit better as well.
It feels a bit hard to know whether the m/c gives more hope or kills a bit of your positive thinking. Not sure at the moment, still waiting for the impending AF.
Janee, maybe we will meet during our IVF cycles... It is a bit strange the seriousness of everyone. Quite often I have to take DD with me & not sure if it affects anyone but sometimes she does put a smile on faces & 'lightens' the atmosphere a bit. I have got to know the nurses quite well (unfortunately because I've been there a long time) so I guess I do talk a bit & I am a smiler anyway, lol.
Shazey, everything sounds good. It is good that you feel you are able to move on. It is said that a change is as good as a holiday (but maybe we'll have to ask Sue about that later, lol). Crossing my fingers it all goes well for you, and you make it there in time for your first day.
Leis, I see you're going Platinum too, can't wait to see your 'sexy chick'
Bee, Heather, Nola, hope your cycles are going well.
Take care
Tam
I can't imagine how you feel but big {{hugs}} -the waiting is heartbreaking.
In the waiting room at our IVF clinic once there was this little girl about 1yr -18/12 months dancing,clapping and swaying to HI 5 on TV - she had a few smiling faces watching her too - not just me and my DH - roomful of us
Shazey -Cassie -OMG was a surprise you have sprung. That is less than 3 wks away.I hope the change is a wonderful turning point in your life. Hervey Bay is a beautiful place from sound of it. Goodluck - and don't be a stranger.
We will miss you. I really enjoyed meeting you and chatting about growing up YKWIM. What does your DD think ?
She was so cute and has spunky character. She was very funny too.
We might head up there sometime DH sister & family is in Gympie.
Take care of your heart and enjoy your new job.
Hi Girls,
Just wanted to say sorry again, Tam. It's so disappointing. Thinking of all you other ladies who have recently had BFNs and losses ... it's a hard road sometimes.
Shazey - Hervey Bay is lovely. I hope you enjoy the change and the beautiful climate.
Re the waiting room ... I used to sit in there with my eyes shut usually, pretending to be meditating. I would sometimes read but was incapable of concentrating and I didn't make eye contact with anyone. I don't know why I was like that but I found the anxiety would start building up on the way to the doctor's office and by the time I got there, my throat was dry and constricted and I could often hear my heart pounding. It got quite ridiculous. I'm not sure if it was because of my situation or the vibes coming off everyone else as well but there is a kind of feeling in those places sometimes that is hard to describe.
I once apologised to my doctor's PA because I was always forgetting something or appearing dim-witted while I was in there. I confided in her that I wasn't normally like that but for some reason, when I came in for appointments, I had to think about the situation and it made me a bit stupid. Not sure whether she believed me or not.
Leisa - looking forward to that sexy av. I'll bet she's a stunning surfer chick (like her owner).
Love,
Mel
Shazey! Wow, what a lovely bombshell that is. \:D/
Happy that you're feeling stronger but even happier that you're returning to midwifery (I always knew you would...) And, what better place than Hervey Bay? You lucky girl. Stay well, 'see' you when you're back on line.
:smt039 Melbo, always nice to see you popping in.
Hope you're doing ok Tam
Blue....where are you???
Hi to everyone else.
Sue
171 more sleeps until up up and a-w-a-a-a-y
Hi Guys thanks for your thoughts
Trish I too enjoyed meeting you and your DH and DS, Shayla is very excited about going to Hervey Bay, and yes she is definately a character, I will miss my gorgeous friend Tiggy who has been there for me through thick and thin, those gorgeous twins Ivy and Noah and all of Tiggy's family they have been like my surrogent family for so many years, and there has been lots of tears and laughs over this time.
But I feel for me to heal I need to make a new start and this is the perfect opportunity.
If your ever up that way any of you lovely ladies let me know and we will catch up.
Good luck with your scan soon Trish I think Boy and Girl.
Suzi Q Whohoo counting down those days do lots of shopping while your away and enjoy every moment of it. Are you sure you dont want to come to Hervey Bay instead LOL
Well back to the packing I brought a paper shredder yesterday it is so much fun
Hope the future brings happiness and all your dreams are fulfilled
Me 34
DH 35
DD 13
DS 11
DD 6
3 X Angel Babies :angel:
05 IVF ICSI# 1 BFN
05 FET #1 BFN
05 FET #2 BFN
05 IVF ICSI# 2 BFN, no snowbubs
Good morning all....almost the weekend...and a LONG weekend at that! Cannot wait to spend a few days chilling out. This is my month off...so no injections, no bloodtests, YAY!!!!! It's nice to have a break from it all.
I understand the stress and anxiety about the waiting room thing...and when infertility is often such a deeply personal and private thing for many of us, it's weird isn't it, knowing that all the faces in the waiting room share that common thread. Knowing Perth is so small and clicky, it scares me sometimes that I'll see someone from work there one day, or someone else that I wouldn't want t o see there. That would be weird and awkward. Anyway, I'm off to a naturopath next Friday, so will keep you all posted on that.
I think you're all wonderully strong, good hearted people, and I hope the universe realises what wonderful mums we will all be! Take care everyone.
Jane
Good morning. CD1 for me (quick turnaround time), so I'm in for my Anti-D injection & want to organise an appointment with the Dr to have some discussions. Not sure if I have to anyway since it's IVF again anyway.
Janee, I am interested in seeing a Naturopath because of my P4 problems. Could you email your email so I could discuss with you. Thanks
Take care, & thought I'd finally get a ticker (it'll help me remember where I am, lol)
Hey girls,
I know I've been a little sad the last few days about your news, Tam, but wanted to say how amazing I think you are. You're right, you are a smiler, and a positive person, and I'm so glad I'm your firend.
I remember that first time we met, you, me and Sheree, and you were the newbie, Sheree and I had been on the IVF wagon for a long time. I just so believed you'd be pg before either of us. I wouldn't wish having to go through the rollercoaster over and over again on anyone, but you're so strong, and so positive, and so dignified that if anyone deserves a break, it's you. It'll be soon, I know it.
SuziQ, so exciting seeing that ticker of yours counting down!
Heather, any news on the follies yet?
love
sushee
Just back home from Ballarat and catching up on posts. Tam, just wanted to say what awful news - but you sound like an amazing person and I wish you the best of luck with your next attempt - hopefully it will be THE ONE! Take good care. :hug:
Marg
Tam I shall let you know about the naturopath after I've seen her. I'm not sure what to expect, so we'll see..
Hope everyone's having an OK day.
Take care
i am studying to be a natropath, actually doing my 4th accreditation tomorrow. If I can be of any help please i would love to help. I major in aromatheraphy.
Take care.
Sushee, I :heartbeat: U, thank you so very very much. Like I said to my friend yesterday, I can get through this because I've got a lovely bunch of 'mates' on here to help me out with their understanding & experiences.
Janee & Nola, I guess I was just thinking if there was anything else I could do to help my P4 problems. I've never been to a naturopath before so don't really know what it entails/means.
I went to the clinic today to get my Anti-D injection. Whilst there I broke down because I passed a large clot (sorry TMI). Anyway, that started a good conversation with the nurse about my cycles/problems. It seems I don't absorb P4 very well. Also a worry about my m/c (5 in total).
It is thought I can cover the P4 problem with a fresh cycle (heaps of follies to produce the P4 after EPU) and also suggested we do PGD to test the embryos.
So DH & I are meeting with the PGD specialists Tuesday week to get the details about that. We figure that the upfront extra cost $2,000+ compensates for the cost of the unsuccessful cycles later down the track. Also too, it'll save the emotional heartache of unsuccessful cycles.
Hope everyone has a good weekend, we have a long weekend here, is that the same for everyone else?
Bee & Heather, hope your cycles are going well.
Marg, how long is it til your op, sorry I forgot. Did you get an u/s at your visit to check your fibroids.
Take care
Tam - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your forward thinking and willingness to jump back on the rollercoaster is admirable. All the very best with your next cycle. (Just a word about PGD though, it can be very tough to go through a fresh cycle and have nothing to transfer, and the phonecalls advising of the numbers dwindling can be hard. But you are a tuff cookie and will get thru it). Thinking of you possum.
:flower: Tam, the puddling up with the nurse is probably the best thing. Maybe the absorption issue is something a naturopath can help with. I used to go to a fantastic one - but a bit too far for you to travel :-k No long weekend here. Although, I had one as I had an RDO yesterday!!
Blue - are you hiding?
Hi to all
Sue
Hi Tam'
I hope the PGD testing sorts out your problems and can deliver you a :bfp: next time without the heartache .... Think of it as a fresh start... Fresh cycle, PGD, :luck: for a succesful outcome next time around. In the meantime, take it easy and relax.. i would recommend getting to the naturapath... my endo pain decreased by 85% from taking herbs....
All the best sweet heart
:wave: to everyone else...
:hbeat: leis xxx
Hi all you lovely ladies!!!
Jannee- I can just taste the cheescake now. Yummy!!!!
Shazey- congratulations on your upcoming move. Hervey Bay was surveyed to be the happiest place in Oz to live!!
Tam- I actully like seeing children in the clinic. As I figue that everyone there is for the same reason, seeing kids actully gives me hope that one day I might be a mother. one day it could just work. IYKWIM. I know reason says that the kids might not be IVF at all, but I like to think the ones I see are. I am sorry you had to have the anti D. But I am so glad you mentioned it. As I had to have it for my first to MC. And I was so tired when I saw the doctor that I totally forgot to ask! Luckily I did not have to have one. Only because I have to go the the local hosptal and last time I sat waiting for 3 hours. when AF is painful and heavy all you want to do is be at home in bed!!
SuziQ- it is exciting seeing your ticker counting down.
Leis- I hope you are healing nicely!!!
And everyone else I hope you are all doing well and enjoying the weeked!!! many hugs to you all