Oh boy...i just went out in my lunch break to start on some xmas shopping and there were so many babies and toddlers in Target I had to walk out! It was just too much for me...I kept staring at them all in that slightly scary obsessive way that women who really want a child sometimes have and in the end, just made my retreat!
I can tell now this busy Christmas season is going to be a bit tough....with babies and children everywhere.
Just a little observation really, I am sure I am not alone...
Im sorry you felt this way today. And yes, you are not alone at all.I was also out yesterday shopping and there was new mums and little babies everywhere. How do I cope? Well, I try not to look at them all. Try to avoid them... But when I do look at them, I realise how cute they are and I try to picture myself in that role one day.
It also helps to look at the Mums with troublesome toddlers that are driving them insane . At this point I have a quick smile to myself and realise everyone is going through their own battle in some way or another (not that I am trivialising yours at all though).
Big hugs to you Possum. I am always amazed at how strong you are and Im sure you will pull through this.
oh possums hun i no how you feel ive just come home from getting my grocries and if i see one more pg belly today i think ill go crazy it hurts to see this for me rite now BUT we will get ther hun i no this
we should be big and fat this xmas i no but the universe has different plans for us hun.
hang in there and just no that this time next year we will have our joy bubbas
big hugs from me to you
A girl I know came into my work yesterday with her newborn and I just waved to her from my end of the office. I felt really rude and it made it harder as one of the guys in the office got him out of the pram and was holding him but I couldnt do it. Would have burst into tears after the week Ive had. And how do you explain that to someone?
I havent even tackled the shops yet!
As Smithy said, HOPEFULLY it will be us this time next year
Cant wait to start the New Year fresh and get Christmas celebrations out of the way. Have to get through Christmas day first
:hugs: tania. that must have been so hard and awkward for you.
possums, sometimes i think every pregnant woman on earth has moved to my town! but i'm usually fine, just look on in envy or focus on the shoe/clothes/jewellery store instead.
to make matters even worse for us out of our eight closest friends (who are coupled up), six have had a baby in the past 2 months or are due very soon. i swear to god it's a conspiracy against us!
Its so good to be able to share common experiences with people who understand it all
My close friends have already had kids ageing from 3 - 8 yrs old so I feel totally isolated and left behind when it comes to my friends.
Now my younger cousin has had a baby before me only a month ago so Christmas is going to be even harder.
Am feeling a little down this arvo as a friend from work critised me for not wanting to put up a Christmas tree saying "you have to get into the spirit of Christmas" to which I replied, well I dont really feel like it under the circumstances. People just dont fully understand. I mentioned to her about the article on here about Coping with Infertility at Christmas and her response to me was, well I have to cope with being alone this Christmas (as in being single) and I didnt say anything in the end. Wasnt worth it.
Im starting to get annoyed and p*ssed off with people. My DP and you girls are the only ones who can understand.
Sorry to vent. Needed to get it off my chest.
Hope you all have a good weekend.
Cheers,
Tania
Last edited by MissMagpie; November 28th, 2008 at 11:47 AM.
Someone once gave me the advice of thinking of these new mums as having gone through what we have had to go through/currently going through to get pregnant. Maybe thinking that they have had to have IVF etc and now they have their little miracle would help??? I know if helped me.
I have to say that I have caught some of those longing looks from other women that I used to give. I just want to hug them and tell them it will be alright, their turn will come.
I'm always cheering you on Possums.. you are going to be a wonderful mum very soon.
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and in the end, just made my retreat!
. At this point I have a quick smile to myself and realise everyone is going through their own battle in some way or another (not that I am trivialising yours at all though).
oh possums hun i no how you feel ive just come home from getting my grocries and if i see one more pg belly today i think ill go crazy
it hurts to see this for me rite now BUT we will get ther hun i no this
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