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Thanks Saffy, I've had the Mirena before at the same time as a D&C, I only spotted for about a week then it was nothing at all for the 12months it was in. I'm hoping it doesn't come to that either, AF has just finished but I'm trying not to chart it and just live life at the moment. GL friday :)
Hi all
Still checking on you all everyday but not posting much !
Saffy FX for you scan friday not long now ! I am sure your bub is nearly here just need a little help in catching him/she !!! as we all do on this thread !! DS and DIL are fine and Jessica is being well looked after, DS is showing DIL how to do things he has had many years of practice lol !
Alice hope your ok and your charts are looking good for you !
too many shoes hope you decide to stay on here with us trying and trying you have to be in it to win it ( a baby I mean ) feels like that sometimes when you have been on here over a year but we have to keep trying if we really want the end result of a BFP we all feel like giving up I for one give up every month AF turns up only to start counting the days all over again !! who am I kidding you never really give up on your dream !
Luna hope your hcg is gone now !
AFM well had a pos opk of 2 very dark lines yesterday so I guess I am ovulating any time now so been DTD when necessary and now I guess I am in the TWW, the clomid wasn't too bad although over the weekend I was in agony felt like my belly had been kicked by a horse and couldn't even lean against the sink to wash up without pain and discomfort but all settled now so I am hoping we got to get a good egg and now we just wait and wait and see !!!
Hello my lovelies,
Sorry for the absence, been drifting along feeling a bit disconnected from everything but had a night over in Sydney during the week helping out a friend with something and seem to have turned a bit of a corner, so that's good. Life coming back into focus and feeling more a part of it all.
Saffy, good luck for tomorrow's scan - hoping you get a good egg count. Grow follies, grow!!
Possum, I've been on a cake-athon mmmm and I've had a few glasses of wine....and a coffee...I even had a packet of chips on my way home so yeah, living pretty dangerously at the moment LOL...ah so sad (as in pathetic) but never mind! Glad chocy is helping you though sorry AF showed her face. Yes, the dream of a take home baby...that's a powerful one. It's hard watching friends reach - and then pass - milestones like that. And I don't think the fact that you already have one baby means you're not entitled to feel all the things you are feeling about wanting another one. We can all relate and we're here for you and will hopefully see you settled into the PAML thread soon. Good luck this month.
Crafty, good lord that pain does not sound good. Do you normally get O pain? That's pretty severe. I hope it has gone now. I can't help being a bit worried about you taking medication without an FS to keep an eye on things (sorry for being a worry-wart). Maybe you laid a double-yoker?! :) I hope you caught it and your TWWs are over soon. Fingers crossed.
Luna, grr the hcg lingering around. Are you doing any exercise? I wonder if that might help get things moving around any faster? Thinking of you.
Sunbeam, I'm picturing you lying on a deck-chair, with a ****tail in hand and a bright blue sky above you. Hope you're having a relaxing time and feeling rested and refreshed x
Clairesmummy, that's super confusing?? I know a mc can really throw our bodies around and lots of women in here have had weird cycles so lets just hope yours goes back to normal really soon.
India'sMum, how's DH's eye? All better I hope. Any luck on the :bd:?
Ferrals, we miss you already but glad and relieved for you that you are finally where you belong - enjoying this precious pregnancy. Has the tag party happened? How was DH's little girl? She must have been over the moon.
MatthewsMum, how are things with you? Where are you up to??
Toomanyshoes, Mildez, Porsche - hi to you all xx
Who have I missed? :pink-babydust::stickyvibesboy: to everyone
Hi Girls,
it turned out that I had an ectopic pregnancy after all. I actually tried what Alice suggested and went to the gym, felt c*** that night, so I thought things were moving. But on Monday, my hcg went up to 2600, so finally after 2 scans, they found the pregnancy in the tube. Good news is, it was very small, so I got the shot of methatraxate and my hcg will be monitored weekly. Hopefully I will not need another shot and there will be no damage to the tube.
The sad thing is, from what I've read everywhere, you have to wait at least 3 months after ectopic, to let the tube heal and to wait for the methatraxate to get out of your body, because it can cause birth defects. If you get 2 shots, the wait is 6 months, so I am hoping to avoid the second shot. But even the 3 month wait depressed me and I think I am ready to throw in a towel. They say after 40, the mc risk is 50%. If you had an ectopic, your risk of another ectopic is 15%. I am looking at those numbers and it is very hard for me to convince myself that I have a chance for a healthy pregnancy. And in 3 months, I will be 3 months older. I am ready to quit, but the thought that I will not have another baby makes me just so sad.
I will be taking a 3 month break for sure then, I did not decide yet about the future. I will be stalking you ladies, because I think a good success story is what I need to lift my spirits up. So good luck to all of you, I am keeping my fingers crossed and counting on you, do not let me down.
Kisses.
Hi all
Alice I am ok really just had a few twinges but nothing I can't handle and yes I did take a bit of a risk I know but I was so desperate to try clomid to see if it helped me and the Drs say Im too old anyways I am fine now and just awaiting the outcome I guess, TWWs are not my favourite time but has to be done, thinking that maybe I should just accept my fate and give in gracefully if I don't get a BFP by christmas as my age is against me for sure and with a 60 odd % of misscarriage at my age can I really take another loss if I managed to get a BFP I think no is the answer to that one, DH made me promise not to take clomid again so I guess I am back to just living on hope and thats not really enough for me month after month,
Luna I have had a very healthy boy when I was 43 and yes there is a higher risk as you say but there are also women out there still haveing babies at 43 44 45 46 and even 47 so I guess we have to decide how badly we want another baby , I am sure your 3mnth wait will go by quickly and your body can recover well from you ectopic in that time and well I will probs still be here trying and I will be 46 in April next year !!!
sunbeam hope you had a good trip sure did miss you in here !!!
Saffy how did it go ? its your turn for egg pick and trans !! came around quickly hey !!!
guess ferrals is moved on out of here now she got good news miss you babe !!!
matthewsmum you still around ? how you doing ?
afm just trucking along in this TWW wondering did I catch the egg and is it just the one !!!! oh dear guess its gonna be a long long TWW the longest ever for me !!!
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Hi ladies-
Luna- I can't believe you have an ectopic, that took a while to find. I hope you only need one shot and its good news that your tube is still good. :hug: 3 months sounds a long time but it will go quickly.
Alice- glad you are feeling better I was wondering if you had disappeared cos you were unwell- onwards and upwards though! I am a cake addict too, I would bake all the time but have to restain myself else I would just eat cakes constantly!! How did your visit with the TCM go?
Crafty- I got swollen ovary pains on clomid but it goes quickly once you O, I hope this will do the trick and that you don't end up with triplets!
Hi to possummagic, toomanyshoes, claresmummy and anyone else xx
Good news for me :dance: I had a great scan, 5 follies on the R side and 6 on the L that are all between 10-18mm, so I'm booked in for EPU on Monday- can't believe it si actually happening, I'm so excited, I am feeling positive :D
Luna-the odds play on our minds i had a 1 in 4 chance of having another sick baby and i beat them and was in the 3 out of 4 this time so you can do it i know it seems like the chance is slim but it really isnt look at the 50% chance of a healthy pregnancy not mc and the 85% chance of the next pregnancy not being eptopic those odds are still good i had the 75% to 25% odds and i snagged it so dont give up.
Crafty-I still stalk i miss you girls but i am finally enjoying my pregnancy i have a nice belly going on now and our girl kicks up a storm so i am in heaven i am keeping a close eye on you girls and praying for some good luck for you all.
Alice-all the tags are off and we have even brought some more stuff and laybyed a pram so its all happening.
DH's daughter is over the moon she cant stop talking about her baby sister comming and is even picking names it is wonderful.
Ferrals, I miss having you here but not for the reasons you had to be here, IYKWIM. So happy for you and for DH and his little girl - she must be over the moon. My niece got a little sister when she was 21 (different mum) and she is so in love with her - has pictures of her on her phone and on the computer at home, she talks about her endlessly. I had a bit of a lurk in the PAML thread yesterday and was glad to see everyone was doing well but it also made me a bit sad to be still here. I don't want to be a downer by posting there for so will enjoy your visits here instead. Don't forget about us!
Crafty, here's hoping my love. Ferrals is right, in a way we can't think about those statistics because each go is a new chance and plenty of women beat those odds and who says that can't be you, or me, or Luna? Will be watching your TWW and hoping for the best for you. Damn doctors really annoy me that they won't help you. It's your body and your money after all!
Luna, I'm so sorry...:hug: was really no expecting to read that after all this time but glad they found it before it caused problems for your tube. I had to wait 3 months after my mc before trying again...and it turned into 5 months so I really do understand how you feel, you just want to try again soon. The 3 months went fast for me in the end and I used the time to concentrate on getting my general health better so maybe give yourself a few goals and hopefully it will pass quickly. I really hope you don't have to have the second injection. Have you spoken to them about being on antibiotics when you are ready to try again? I think you definitely should do that - lots of docs over here recommend it when there have been tubal issues to deal with any lingering infection etc that might cause problems. The one I was on was called Doxic but probably has a different name over there. Exercise will help get the drugs out of your body quicker too so when you are feeling well enough I'd recommend trying to do as much as you can. We'll miss you here - please drop in and say hi. :hug: xx
Saffy, :dance:CONGRATULATIONS!!!:dance: wonderful news!! Good luck for Monday, I hope you get lots of excellent eggs!! Oo so excited for you it would be so good if you were one of our next BFPs!! Good luck!!!
I have another bad day again yesterday - made myself go out and be around people but it was very hard. I know I have to get through this sad time I just hope it passes soon. I can't believe that I won't have a baby, I've always thought that it would happen eventually but I'll be 42 in a few weeks so feel like it is slipping away. Gotta believe in that little frostie and maybe when we feel up to it we can register out at Westmead for a last go.
To Luna and craftymummy9
I will be 47 in November, and have been trying for 2 yrs with my new man. Miscarried at 6-7wks in May 2009. Not that this is meant to cheer you up, but at least we have something in common-age. Don't know if I've told you, but we have very very minimal hope at using IVF bcos of my age, therefore our only hope is through a donor wherever she is. What makes me so upset when I come to think about it is that with all this technology they cannot enhance your egg quality. We've been married for nearly a year now, our anniversary in November and after I miscarried we made a conscience decision not to try for a bubby prior to the wedding for obvious reasons. Whether that was the right thing to do or not-whether through that decision we missed our only other chance I don't know, but sometimes it has me thinking. But of course when November came around we were raring to go and off course nothing happened. Then got bad news back that my levels and ovarian reserve were good or what the doctor would say "they were consistant with my age" iF I have one more professional tell me that I will scream.
I/we would dearly love to have a child, I don't know how its gonna happen or if it will ever happen. What we really want is to hear from a little guardian angel-if you know what I mean
So would love to hear some more stories from older trying to be mummies again
MY LEVELS AND OVARIAN RESERVE WERE NOT GOOD, :doh:
Luna - I did wonder why things went on so long for you. At least with the ectopic being found you now have an answer. I don't think you have to make a decision about stopping until after the 3 months you are advised to wait. Take that time to just live a life without the pressure of TTC and see how you feel in three months. I think Alice's advice about spending that time making yourself healthy is very good advice. I was advised by my own doctor not to try after 43 but I lost a baby 3 weeks before my 44th birthday and I find it too hard to stop just after a miscarriage so we kept trying and now I am now don't know when to stop. I have had doctors since who advise me to keep trying. I often wish I could stop but I know that I can't change my mind in a couple of years and say I wish I had tried a little longer so we will keep going until the end of the year and then have another think about it.
Saffy - Good luck for Monday sweetie.
Alice - I really feel for you. I think children can come to us from different places though and your dream might be fulfilled another way. I will tell you a story (but I am NOT suggesting this be your path). Friends of ours tried unsuccessfully for years to have a baby. They decided to place themselves on the adoption list and requested a baby but it's really hard where they are to get a baby via adoption (they live in Canada). After a couple of years on the list they were asked if they would accept siblings, two girls aged 4 and 7. And so they gave up their idea of a baby and embraced a new dream when they took the girls in. The following year they were contacted by the authorities who told them the mother of their girls had given birth to yet another child (her 8th I think) and this baby girl was instantly given up. The authorities wanted to keep siblings together so they asked our friends if they would consider adopting this baby. And so the dream they thought they had to give up was reborn and now they have a baby. I think you will be a mother one day. It will likely be to your little frostie but it could also come from somewhere unexpected. I think you were meant to be a mother as you have such a good heart.
AFM - AF showed up on day 27 so I doubt DH's eye injury would have made any difference. It's made me feel really sad but I am having a lot of health problems at present so it's possibly a good thing.
1+2=3 - Sorry, we posted around the same time. Welcome to the thread. I am also older at 44. We have been trying to have our second baby for over 2 years. I have sadly lost 4 to miscarriage which the doctors tell me is due to age. We are still trying but thinking we will need to stop soon. I wish you all the best and hope that it isn't too late to achieve your dream. I hope that guardian angel is out there listening.
Alice: I can feel the ache as you write and so wish things did not have to be this hard for you. I hope that you will still get to be a mum in one way or another. You seem to have lots of love to give. In the meantime, i hope you don't begrudge yourself a little foodie comfort. We all do what we can to get by and a little wine, cake and chocolate are not such a terrible thing. (Well, it works for me anyhow- the cake and chocolate at least. I don't have much of a taste for wine). Maybe too it's the limbo time that is the hardest. You've just finished a cycle and maybe are wondering what to do next? When you have a more definite plan (whether it be a time frame for having your 'frostie' or going on the list for fostering) perhaps you will start to feel more energised?
Luna: sorry to hear about your ectopic but glad they found it before it did damage to your tubes. I'm sad for you that you face another TTC wait but hope that it will go quickly for you. I was told i might need methotrexate to clear my last pregnancy. The issue with it (and why you have to wait to TTC) seemed to be that it decreases folate stores. I asked my dr whether i could have a blood test to check my body had enough folate before trying again and he seemed to think so. Just thought i'd pass on this information in case it's of help to you.
India's mum: Sorry AF arrived and that you are having some health problems. I hope things look up for you this month.
Ferrals: So lovely to hear that you are enjoying your pregnancy and to think of all the excitement for all your kids thinking about the baby sister that is coming.
Saffy: Good luck for EPU!
Craftymummy: we'll be in the TWW with you to keep you company : )
1and2=3: Welcome to Belly Belly. That is very hard that you have not yet had your dream fulfilled. Are you trying now without IVF or actively looking for egg donor?
Toomanyshoes, Clairesmummy and anyone else i missed, hi : )
AFM: Starting to get EWCM. It's only day 9 of my cycle. Not sure if this means i'm about to ovulate very early (it doesn't usually happen before day 12 for me) or whether this is a sign that 'o' is coming in 3 or 4 days. I can never remember whether EWCM is meant to start exactly at 'o' time or a few days before. Excited to be trying again this month knowing we are ready to TTC again without the uncertainty we had last month of whether to go for it or wait longer after mc.
1+2=3 Welcome to our thread. There are quite a few of us here in our 40s so we understand well what you've been through and are going through now. We all hope for a miracle and it's not impossible just seems remote at times. Are you going to try using a donor? Best of luck to you x I don't think most doctors understand the emotional side of TTC, we hear a lot of things we don't want to hear and I can relate to you feeling fed up with it.
Possum & India's Mum, thank you both for your lovely posts. I'm so grateful for the support I've found here. You ladies rock xx
Possum, EWCM usually shows up a few days before you O - can be three or four days - and then disappears quite quickly afterward so you will probably o around your usual time. Good luck!
India's Mum, I'm sorry to read you are having a lot of health problems at the moment. I hope they are not too serious and you will be well again soon. Thinking of you.
Sunbeam - come home we miss you!!
Hi to everyone else xx
Thanks Alice, hope you DH and the chooks had a restful weekend. Did it rain like crazy where you live? It was pouring here. I got drenched walking home from a friend's house.
Hello all
1+2=3 welcome to the thread I am sure you will find lots of support here and as Alice said quite a few of us in our 40s some waiting for number 1 some of us waiting for a sibling, no matter we are all here as we have lost through mc and finding it very difficult to get UTD again ! I am not sure if you have kids already but I do and its as hard for me as for anyone wanting there 1st baby, but I have managed to get pg 3 times in my 40s only to have mc sept 09 at 13wks but after a long hard year I think I am on track again my old body took a while to get back to normal and to even get a normal cycle but I did get there in the end, I feel if we keep trying and beleive in ourselves then anything is possible ! so take it easy and try to realax and hopefully you too will get a BFP soon, as for ovarian reserves I guess your results were just consitant with your age as are mine but most Drs work on statistics and well I am by no means an average statistic I have gone against all the odds over the years so don't let it put you off !
possum great news on your EWCM but just DTD as much as you can until around day 19 just to make sure ! I have a lot of EWCM still and have had it since day 10 and now I am on day 23 so who knows whats the story with that but I did do opks and got a possitive one on day 17 so maybe think about doing them too jsut to make sure FX this is your month !
Sunbeam where are you ?
Alice sorry your still having bad days me too some days are just the pits and others are not so bad so I guess we have to take the good and the bad hey !!! I am sure your little frostie will give you a long awaited BFP but in the mean time keep trying natural like you never know !!! I was waiting for my 2nd try at IUI after having success in 1991 and low and behold got a natural BFP in 1995 against all the odds so never say never ! You are so lucky to have chooks my kids would love some, we got guinea pigs and a dog as we live in a built up area but would love to move oneday onto an acreage and have a pony and some chooks !!!
Luna hope your ok not too much pain and bleeding
saffy hows it going ? when is egg pick day ??
indias mum hope your doing ok hope your health probs are not too serious !!!
afm well day 23 lots of clear mucus but nothing more than that no pain no tingly or sore bbs so no idea if we will get a BFP or not probs more likey a BFN as normal !!!! oh well onwards and upwards as they say but am getting more and more used to the idea that my time is up !!! I am at peace with it but will keep trying anyway just to spite myself LOL !!!
Luna - You poor thing, it’s so slack the Dr’s have taken this long to give you a definate answer, hopefully your lvl’s come down very quickly and you can start TTC again sooner rather than later :hug:
Crafty - Anything happening yet? Dying to find out if the Clomid worked!
Saffy - Great news about the scan, how did today go?
1+2=3 - :hug: welcome to the thread, I hope you find the comfort and support you need during this time with these wonderful ladies.
India’s mum - Sorry to hear this cycle was no good, hopefully your feeling better and DH’s eye’s back to normal and you’re both in your prime for the next cycle!
Alice - It’s awful your having such a hard time :hug: I really hope you’re feeling better, keeping everything crossed for your little frostie!
possum - Hoping you caught that egg!
AFM - I couldn’t help myself and looked up when I would ovulate, was over the weekend and DH parents were staying with us. Trying very hard to just stay casual about it all, not think about symptoms, look at dates etc but boy it’s hard. So many girls I know are due between now and Christmas, think I’m going to have to stay away from Facebook or I’ll end up in tears again. At least DH mother behaved while she was here, the weekend actually went better than expected other than them dropping not so subtle hints about us moving back to Brisbane.
Hi girls,
just reporting in to say we had EPU today and got 10 eggs!!!!
SOOOOO happy, was gearing up for 5 or 6 so I didn't get disappointed, now they have to fertilise!
Sorry no persies, will come back tomorrow or later when I am not so tired, good luck everyone xxx