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N2L.... TBH, I don't know :( I think I have a time frame in my head rather than a number of cycles.... I think we will keep going for another 5 years.... but that's an awful lot of cycles.....
I know that DH keeps saying, we will just keep going until it happens... lets hope I'm not one of the ones it never happens for.
:hug:
N2L- mine is more about the money, rather than the cycles (as horrible as that sounds)
Although, being a newby- that might change.
We have a set amount of money saved up, and when that runs out- we will re-evaluate.
If this was mine or DH's first biological child- I would move heaven and earth and have no 'cut off'
I'm also worried about the emotional impact this journey is having of our relationship.
I know my DH will tell me when he's had 'enough', I'm worried that I won't have had 'enough' by then :(
I hope I haven't offended anyone.
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Hi N2L, Such an impossible questions that when you start this journey you hope you will never have to answer. I think when I started I naively said, oh 4 cycles, but now that I am up to my 3rd already there is no way I am ready to stop at 4. Now on this ride I'm not sure how I'll manage to ever get off. We have 6 bubsicles at the moment - so once all those frosties are gone then I guess - well I don't know - would need to re-evaluate then.
Thanks for adding me to the list Vic, you're a gem :) Hope you're able to relax a little bit more in this current cycle. GL hunni xx
n2l, I also think like Emma in terms of the emotional impact the IVF has on DF and I. To be quite honest, I could go a few more cycles (like maybe 2 or 3 but probably not many more, I really have to think about my age) but DF has already said that after this cycle coming up, we will re evaluate everything if does't work. I don't think he's got it in him like me to keep on going. Plus it makes it that much harder that he's 'afraid' of the cycles now as we had that chromosomal issue with the last pg, whereas in the past he thought we were invincible, now he knows that we're not. But I also believe that even if you have a number of cycles in your head that you're prepared to do, the emotional impact is harder to foresee.
N2L - I agree with the others, it's a hard question to answer.
In our case, my answer now is different to what it was before we were blessed with DD. DH and I had a discussion about what we would do if we didn't have kids, right before the TF that we got pg with DD from. We said we would sell our large family-friendly house in the burbs and move to an awesome city apartment, and do lots of overseas travel. In fact, if that TF hadn't worked we were going to take 15K from our mortgage and blow it on a 3 week euro trip over NYE etc. We had everything planned out, down to the flights we would book and hotels etc as pretty much as soon as we got our BT result we needed to book the trip. And we got a BFP. So, no trip. I think I had this mentality of let's make these plans and then hopefully we will have to cancel them.
Anyway, I digress. For us we were lucky that the money wasn't (at that stage) an issue - not that we're loaded but we were able to afford the 2 stim cycles we did and the transfers. Mind you it costs more these days. But I really really struggled with the stim cycles, I have a blood clotting disorder which meant I also needed clexane shots daily, which means you bruise more easily, and as someone who already bruised easily - well, my poor body got a thrashing. I also found it hard because my lining took ages to prep, I ended up on estrogen patches (on my butt!) as well as crinone and all the trimmings ha ha. Every time I had a scan it wasn't good, taking forever and infact during the stims I never got great hauls of eggs - 1st cycle only got 2 embies, 2nd cycle we got 7 embies. I'm not sure at what point we would have decided to stop, but I'm one of those people who truly believes if something was meant to be, then it's meant to be. So maybe we would have stopped after a few years (more than it took, itms)...
This time around I am not filled with the desperation I was the first time. Also we started with 6 frosties so rather than stims it's been easier on my body. Still very tough on the mind of course. DH and I haven't discussed how long we will try this time, perhaps we both naively assume it will work 'soon' because it worked 'before'. But, with 5 frosties now left, maybe if they run out and we have to do a stim... well I could do one stim for sure, maybe 2, but beyond that i don't know.
Everyone is different, in different situations etc and there's so many factors to weight in.
Emma it's totally normal hun. When TTC #1 we told close friends and family. I guess we thought we needed the support network etc. And yeah, it was great, but like others have said, it also sucked majorly to have to relay bad news. Repeatedly.:
So this time around we haven't told anyone, with the exception of my direct manager at work (to enable me to have flexibility/understanding when required, and she is about to start IVF to TTC #1 and I am the only one she's told about it. Plus we're good friends) and my acupuncturist (ha ha!) and a good friend in the UK (who won't tell anyone else). It's tricker because there may be times when I need to be at the clinic but need DD to be somewhere else but so far we are managing. And dealing with a failed FET was definitely easier without sharing the news with every man and his dog (well - you know what I mean!).
BB is where I get my virtual support network - everyone here is so amazing and honestly I don't know how I would stay (fairly) sane without these girls :)
N2L my cut off is also to do with funds, DH and I agree that we will continue as long as we have the money to do so. I think if we were not trying for our first we may feel a little different (or not), but for now we have the funds and I am still kinda young so I all full steam ahead for now. I do sometime feel that it is taking over our life though.
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4 June April 2012
Waiting for EPU/O/IUI/FET or just something to happen!
Joeve -
Jane - CD3
myturn - CD6 Stim Down Reg
Ree*Ree - CD6 FET
PlanetSashet - CD13 Stim
Andie78 - CD16 FET
Mrs P - CD18 FET
Miss B - CD21 Natural
Mrs Mac - CD43
Waiting for Transfer
Hanging out in the TWW (stalk them here:https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...180508-20.html
Bee27 - CD33 11dpt 1 x day5 embryo BT 06.06.12
Blossom73 - 9 day post transfer
Vic261 - CD25 7 dpt 1 x day 5 embryo BT 12.06.12
I feel like :crying:
Trying to organise payment for my first cycle- and my bank will only let me transfer $1000 per day!
That won't help me pay my bill :crying: :crying:
My CC only has a $3000 limit- so that won't help me either :(
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Emma - You can ask you bank to increase your DD limit for 1 day. My DH did this for all our cycles as he has a limit too.
They won't do it.
But the good news is my clinic had Bpay- so I just paid it like that.
Hopefully it clears on Wednesday.
Only hurdle being our child protection checks!!!!
:pray: :pray:
Ps thanks Porsche :)
Don't the banks do your head in?? It's your money!! I know our clinic just took 2 direct debits as we had a 5k limit.
Fingers crossed it's smooth sailing from here for you xx
I know what you mean Emma. We picked up our meds today (yeepee!) and I realised that our c/c was pretty full so I transferred some money last nigh, but of course it takes one business day to go through. I was so embarrassed this morning b/c I had to ask our IVF nurse to process the payment tomorrow. We didn't have time to get to the bank this morning b/c they open at 10 and our app. was at 9.45 :redface:
Hi Emma,
Sounds like you sorted our the payment issue, but just in case, we were able to transfer money onto our credit card. So it went into +. So whilst it only had a 3000 limit we were able to transfer the additional 6000 we needed from our saving / or home loan account (I can't remember) on to the the credit card to give us a total of 9000. Then the clinic just charged the whole amount from our credit card. As it was online, I think we were able to transfer the dollars in one hit too.
Sorry if I've explaned that poorly.
Anyone else feeling left out?! Its all happening in a good way in the TWW thread.
God I hope we all can share in good news miracles soon.
Dont worry. Not everyone in the 2ww had a successful cycle ;)
Ya, we won't have any friends soon :( But don't worry Jane and miss n2l, hopefully we will be graduating soon too!
Sorry if my post seemed insensitive or offended anyone. Just feeling down. Had a death in the family too which isnt helping my optimism much either.
Jane - we all feel that way sometimes... I certainly don't think anyone would be offended - we all feel left out, and hopefully we will all get BFP's soon too xxx
big :hug: look after yourself xxx
Jane hugs xx
I know that feeling so well I was feeling like that last month after my ivf went so wrong and it seemed to work for everyone else. Its ok to feel like that this journey is so hard. You just have to keep going.
Woke up this morning so scared. My BT results will come in this morning. I was so tempted not to get a bt because I knew it would stress me out. I said I am not getting another one til next week I just can't handle to worry about doubling hcg etc. What will be will be. So I hope it's ok for me to hang in here for a while longer :)
Jane - don't stress hun we all know what you mean/are feeling.
Joeve - fingers crossed for a great result today. People assume once you get that BFP you can relax but I was so worried when pg with DD, I don't think I stopped worrying until she was born! And I think I speak for all when I say you can chat in here anytime :)
Andie - do I remember right is it your transfer today? If so good luck!
AFM - just had my scan and lining went from 7.3 to 8.2 in a week! Woot! Thickest lining ever achieved :)
Waiting for BT result later today but I told them I'd like TF on tues 12 (ha ha, demanding!) because we are away on the weekend and get back in the city that day. So hopefully will get TF tues arvo ad then I will take the weds off work.
Currently waiting outside my acu clinic for my 8am appt (gotta love getting up at 540am to be the first one in line at the FS and the fit in acu before work!!) and treated myself to a coffee and this amazing freshly baked warm blueberry apple and ricotta muffin - YUM!!
Happy Tuesday girls xx
5 June April 2012
Waiting for EPU/O/IUI/FET or just something to happen!
Joeve -
Jane - CD4
myturn - CD7 Stim Down Reg
Ree*Ree - CD7 FET
PlanetSashet - CD14 Stim
Andie78 - CD17 FET
Mrs P - CD19 FET
Miss B - CD22 Natural
Mrs Mac - CD44
Waiting for Transfer
Hanging out in the TWW (stalk them here:https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...180508-21.html
Bee27 - CD34 12dpt 1 x day5 embryo BT 06.06.12
Blossom73 - 10 day post transfer
Vic261 - CD26 8 dpt 1 x day 5 embryo BT 12.06.12
Jane - I know exactly how your feeling. Its like a lotto and when some gorgeous girl gets their BFP there are less numbers for us. They are not any less deserving but when will our number come up?? When do we get to leave this thread?? I find it hard when I am in a cycle with others and they get the joy of moving on and I have to start all over again.
Mrs P - So happy that your lining is thickening up nicely. Good luck with transfer next week.
PlanetSasha - How is your cycle going hun? You must be getting close to EPU if you have not already had it. FX that you get/got a good haul.
Hi to myturn, n2l, Miss B, and everyone else.
AFM - Just plodding along...
mrs p - thanks, you have a great memory! great news about your lining! quick question: is your BT to check prog. levels? just wondering. :)
jane - i know exactly how you feel. i just keep hoping that one day it will be me. or you. or any one of the ladies in here. :hug:
joeve - best of luck today with your bt results. xx
afm - FET booked for 2.50pm today, hoping its not as ouchy as the previous 2 have been. i can really feel the catheter scraping my insides sometimes, anyone else get this? i spoke to clinic yesterday and apparently both embryos were still going, so interesting to see how they look today. wish me luck... im nervous as usual!
BT is in positive yay they want me to have another as they are not as high as they wanted but still well within range. Please a don't ask what they are as I am not going to focus on them and google like a mad woman like I have every other time.... Stating positive for now :)
Vic happy for you to update me on the list because good bad or ugly I am current pregnant and I am going to celebrate it a bit :)
Sorry Jane, I didn't think you were being insensitive at all.
Truth is this journey sucks. I have now done nine cycles in 18 Months (so, averaging a cycle every second month). Before that I did six months of clomid and before that several months of tests. Women I started with are now pregnant for the second time. Which is great for them but it kinda sucks for me :(
I loves youse all but I just want to be the one to leave for once!!!
Woo hoo Joeve!! :D Congrats again!
Good luck today Andie! X
Hi Ladies
Joeve - Congratulations!
Vic - FX.
5 June April 2012
Got their BFP
Joeve 5.6.12
Waiting for EPU/O/IUI/FET or just something to happen!
Jane - CD4
myturn - CD7 Stim Down Reg
Ree*Ree - CD7 FET
PlanetSashet - CD14 Stim
Mrs P - CD19 FET
Miss B - CD22 Natural
Mrs Mac - CD44
Waiting for Transfer
Hanging out in the TWW (stalk them here:https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...180508-21.html
Bee27 - CD34 12dpt 1 x day5 embryo BT 06.06.12
Blossom73 - 10 day post transfer
Vic261 - CD26 8 dpt 1 x day 5 embryo BT 12.06.12
Andie78 - transfer 5.6.12
Congrats officially Joeve. Fx that we can be feb buddies.
Congrats Andie. Hope transfer went well.
Its my last day of holidays. Boo. Back to work tomoz.
Thanks girls. Thanks for all your understanding. I really do feel sincerely happy for each and every girl as they get their BFP, just wish we were all joining them. Patience is clearly not my strength. Hehe. Anyways, feeling a little less crazy today.
N2L – you are amazing. I know that there are gorgeous girls who have been at this TTC for longer than me and I would happily wait another cycle if it meant girls like you could finally get their BFP.
Joeve- Congrats beautiful. So amazing. Hope you are managing not too stress to much – it thats possible.
Mrs P – Yay to thick lining and awesomely delicious bakery goods.
Vic – hoping that you will be one to hit the jackpot this time. And boo hoo to back to work. How I long for maternity leave. Not that holidays without kids and maternity leave with kids would be the same.
Andie – congrats on being PUPO. Praying for this little embie to stick. Stick. Stick Stick. If only these embies knew what big cheer quads they had cheering them on to stick.
Mrs Mac – dare I ask – AF?
Hope everyone else is doing ok. Baby dust to you all.
Still no AF for me Jane, beyond frustrated now. Thinking I'll ring the clinic tomorrow but I'm sure they will just tell me to wait.
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Andie - hope your TF wasn't ouchie this time! Silly answer but I'm not sure what they look at in my BT ha ha!! I think estrogen and progesterone. They never tell me the results! I'm doing a medicated FET so I presume that's what they look at.
Joeve - celebrate it, yeah!! Congrats again.
And just quickly - TF confirmed for Tuesday 12th. One week to go, pessaries start tomoz, awesome ha ha!
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Hope- I'm around if you need to talk about anything :hug:
Joeve- big congrats hun!
Mrs p- goodluck for your upcoming TF!!!
Mrs Mac- I hope AF shows up for you soon or you get some answers from your FS.
AFM- tomorrow I have my counseling appointment and appointment with my FS.
All our paperwork is in and hopefully our Bpay payment is cleared also....
Meaning I will be starting to Jab on day 3- which will be Friday!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am weirdly excited!
And N2L I want you to leave here too ;)
Sorry girls on my phone. But hope y'all doing just dandy :
Im just plodding this month while waiting for syneral to start and then AF and then it all starts. Long long wait
thanks for the well wishes ladies :)
transfer went well and i have one good looking, expanded blast on board (other one didnt make it). feeling a bit blase about this one, hoping it will stick obviously, but not investing too much in to it... even started thinking about my next transfer on the way home! whatever gets us through the tww, right?
mrs p - great to have your transfer date locked in - best of luck. xx (after my earlier sooking, transfer wasnt ouchie at all, bonus!)
sorry I didn't mean to post here, tapatalk loaded slowly and I unknowingly hit this thread and posted without checking. :/
Thanks Emma :hug:
Sent from the land of "iSomethings" so forgive me for any spelking misstaks ;)
Emma, I feel your excitement hun!! Looks like we'll be a week apart in our cycles, I am jabbing end of next week. Are you doing the short cycle?
Mrs P, I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday next week, GL hun!
Mrs Mac, hope AF arrives for you shortly :crossfingers:
Vic, boo hoo to the end of your wee holiday, I hope you had a great time. FX for Tuesday hunni!
Andie, congrats on being PUPO! And I can understand the 'thinking ahead' thing in case things don't go to plan. That's what I did the very first time I got pg, I had to cancel my app. to discuss another cycle b/c I got a +ve. GL hun!
myturn, I hope the time goes quickly for you hun, I am such an impatient person, this whole waiting around to do a cycle has done my head in! I'll have everything crossed for you sweets x
Jane, I'm glad you're feeling a bit better hun, I really pray that you get to graduate to the belly buddies very soon hun :pray:
Hi to everyone else out there!
Feeling a tad excited about next week, unless of course I conceive naturally, which would be an absolute MIRACLE :)
Miss B- I'm doing an antagonist cycle, if that makes sense to you :)
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