Only one FET in. Twins run in my family, but not identical. H & H is all I ask. I guess I'll know how many on the 23/3 when we have a scan. I still don't quite get how they'll see anything cos our baby will be so small, but it will be a very special day DP has already booked it off. His boss know's mine doesn't so he can be honest, I'm at the dentist alot. LOL.
Firstly I would like to acknowledge Mollygirl and Loula, your sad news seem to have gotten a little lost or been missed in here. I am so sorry to hear of your news, I had been so hoping that this was to be your month, you both deserve a BFP almost more than anyone, and I admire your strength and courage to keep persisting in this struggle, I know that some day soon your efforts will be rewarded and your pregnancy and life with your new baby will be all the more richer, your bond stronger, and you will be better mothers for having to have gone through this journey. Something those women who get it easy will never understand. I saw this quote somewhere:
Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of day saying "I will try again tomorrow".
You both are the most courageous women I know. I hope you can move forward with hope and see you both back in here soon.
To Murph, the biggest congratulations to you, this is the most wonderful of news, and I look forward to following your journey in the PALTTC threads. Best wishes.
To Greemslw, congrats to you too, best of luck for a H&H pregnancy.
To everyone else in your TWW, sending you lots of and hope to join you in here soon.
feeling a little bit low today - I had a small spot of blood when I wiped today (sorry for TMI) I am officially at 4 days past transfer and thinking no this isnt going to happen now and still have this crazy mild cramps.
Now reading obsessively on the web about implantation bleeding instead of doing work!! 1 more week till testing and I am getting antsy, was feeling very restless last night.
CONGRATULATIONS Murph! Hope you have a healthy pregnancy
It must have been such a hard decision to make not go to the funeral but it was all worth it in the end. Sorry to hear about your friends loss. Lots of mixed emotions for you at the moment.
Loula - sorry to hear your news. Hope all goes well with your NP and see you back in here soon. Take care.
Buggirl - hopefully that spot of blood is due to implantation. Have heard it can happen around this time. Hang in there.
AFM, still have a head cold and feeling very average but am still at work. Im worried that being sick will affect implantation. I also wanted to know how people coped with getting BT results while at work? I was going to ask for next Friday afternoon off but have just realised that 2 other people will be away that day and I work in a small office of only 10 people. We're already 1 person down due to 1 of the girls being on maternity leave. Im a very emotional person and reacted not very well last time when I found out I had a small reading. I had already gotten AF when they called with the result so knew I wasnt pg. Im trying not to think of the worst but am preparing myself just in case. Any advice would be great. Thanks girls.
I too went to work on the day of my BT (first IVF cycle) I had to be be there because we had an important meeting on and I couldnt miss it. I was such an emotional wreck by the time the meeting finished and I ended up leaving work early (I have a very understanding boss) and I luckily didnt get my results till I got home in the afternoon (gave me time to have a good cry and relax watch some crap TV). This time I am going to call in a sickie cos I just couldnt handle being at work, infact I feel like calling in a sickie now!!
Is there anyway you can leave early perhaps? I would only go to work for as long as you can handle it, emotionally its just not worth it - and if your workmates dont know trying to explain why your upset (which I hope you wont be!! ) will compound everything. Also how effective is anybody when they are acutely stressed!!
Everyone in my office knows. I work in a small, open plan office so a bit hard to keep it a secret. I totally agree with the productive side of things. I was going to leave at 1pm but it would still put pressure on the rest of the office for the afternoon. All I can do is speak to my boss and tell him and see what he says. I have cried lots in the office so far with my cycles so they understand. But as usual, Im always thinking about work!
I too ended up leaving early last time when the clinic called to say I had a reading. I was a total mess!
My boss is very strange. He's known about IVF before I even started. Gave him reading material from the clinic which was especially for employers yet he has been very casual about it. When I went for my egg collection, he said good luck and he hasnt said anything since! I dont want to keep going on about it but it would be nice if he was more sympathetic and understanding about it all. After all, Ive been here for 19 years!!!
sorry Loula and Mollygirl that it was not your turn this month.
a bug congrats to Murph let's hope that BOB is on a winning streak this month!!!! i think it is my turn for a
MissMagpie, i totally understand how you feel about your boss. i get a bit like that with my friends when they don't ask about my treatments or TTC in general.
i don't think it is done on purpose, but certain people just don't know how to go about asking personalquestions and feel they may upset you if they ask the wrong one.
you need to put yourself first and not your job. i know that is hard but you are way more important then any job. i found i was worried about my work too much. i fixed that by quiting!! i know i am lucky as not everyone has that choice.
Sorry to hear your boss has been so unsupportive - and I guess in an open plan office its difficult to hide these things.
I'm wondering about the whole "who do you tell" thing, with our first try I told lots of people but found it devastating that I then had to tell them all we weren't successful. This time with our first FET I have told no one!! What have other people done? Do you have a strategy for dealing with this?
Hello everyone,
thank you all so much for all your thoughts, messages and congrats. Each wish is like a bit of borrowed hope that pushes me to believe that this might just work out. I will have to leave this thread now but couldn't go without thanking you all and wishing you all well in your own personal journeys.
Kittycat... I reckon Dr Bob and the progesterone overload did the trick...I'm on three forms of it!! oh and the accupuncture. For me to register now after never ever before, I'd say my problem is the progesterone. Good luck with your treatment!
MisssMagpie, I've known my own Dad for 35 years (strangely enough) and the poor bugger didn't have a clue what to do when it came to IVF so we had a huge talk. I write him updates every week so that he never has to wonder and feel out of the loop. we have to understand these poor silly males, they don't know what to say. they care but they don't want to risk saying the wrong thing. Dad said, "what would I say..."good luck" and I told him that would be fine. I know what he means and I know he's interested in what we are going through. Anyway, maybe your boss cares too, maybe you could talk to him about why he doesn't ask.
Well, thanks again for all your support. I'll be thinking of you all.
Buggirl i was just like you and told everyone i knew that i was doing IVF (even people i didn't know!!) i even got to the stage that i was telling people it had worked and that i was so confident as i felt pregnant (had a small HCG reading so had sore boobs and nausea) It was the hardest thing to go and tell everyone that it was a BFN. They were understanding but it made it so much harder.
In December when i did my first FET i told no-ine. That was also hard but in a different way. I am going to be trying something different this month and only telling 1 friend and my sister-in-law. You do need to have someone other then a partner to talk to. Especially a women when you are having hormone issues!!!
Murph, i am truly so happy that you are finally UTD. Progesterone is also a problem for me, so i will hit BOB up for the full amount too!!!
Hi, just spreading some positive sticky vibes to Tania and Buggirl, is there anyone else still in their TWW? If so, love and hugs to you too. I hope you all get your BFP this month can I can't wait to join you all in here too. xx
will be joining the TWW tomorrow, i can't believe it our last FET. then we off camping at the beach for 4 nights, had a relaxing massage today, chat when i get back from camping prob next wed. yeah!!!!!!
btw a big conrats to those BFP's , i am so excited. yeah !!!!!
God this wait is killing me! Bought some chocolate to console myself and am now just relaxing on the couch watching some TV. Planning on a fun weekend - am off to WOMADelaide - if that doesn't distract me I don't know what will!!!
Thanks to everyone for their replies and thoughts. Its greatly appreciated. Think I will speak to my boss next week about the 13th and see if I have at least have the afternoon off for when I get my results.
Not much happening with me. I dont feel ANYTHING! Im getting worried as Im now 6 days past transfer and would have HOPED to at least have sore boobs by now. I dont know when implantation should have occurred. I have had different things told to me by the nurses, one saying it take a few days, another said 5 - 7 days and another said they dont really know! So Im not sure if its happened as yet or will. Its really stressing me out and I HATE the fact that you have to "act" as if your pregnant only to maybe told in 2 weeks time, sorry your not pregnant.
Ive got 2 social outings this weekend and of course cant drink. Ive cut back LOTS since TTC but would have been nice to have a drink or two this weekend. Ive been sick all week and am now starting to feel better. It just feels like I am in limbo, if that makes sense. When people ask, so your not drinking, I cant really say, well I might be pregnant. They'll be like, huh????
Sorry to vent girls. I just feel ripped off and cheated like so many of you girls, that we have to all through this whole rollercoaster ordeal to get our one precious gift in life, a beautiful baby.
I hope you all have a good long weekend (for those in Victoria!)
So agree Tania with the drinking of alcohol. I am a pretty big drinker normally so its hard when you are not sure if you could be pregnant or not. And when I was in TWW last time and not drinking I was dreading people asking me why are you not drinking. I was constantly thinking are people noticing I'm not drinking etc
When I am not sure I have the odd drink but do cut right back.
Anyways hope you can enjoy yourself when you go out.
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Thank you so much
my thoughts are with you for the future.
I am so sorry to hear of your news, I had been so hoping that this was to be your month, you both deserve a BFP almost more than anyone, and I admire your strength and courage to keep persisting in this struggle, I know that some day soon your efforts will be rewarded and your pregnancy and life with your new baby will be all the more richer, your bond stronger, and you will be better mothers for having to have gone through this journey. Something those women who get it easy will never understand. I saw this quote somewhere:
and hope to join you in here soon.
and still have this crazy mild cramps.
Hope you have a healthy pregnancy
Hope all goes well with your NP and see you back in here soon. Take care.
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) will compound everything. Also how effective is anybody when they are acutely stressed!!
let's hope that BOB is on a winning streak this month!!!! i think it is my turn for a
i know i am lucky as not everyone has that choice.
to everyone this month!!
to everyone and LOTS of
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