Working Mummies Support Group

Hope you are better soon PN.

Back at normal work today - think last week will be longest away trip - anymore and will only be overnight. I am happy about that as DS seems to have struggled more this last time - his behaviour was awful on Friday but seems more back to normal now apart from wanting feeding all the time which is unusual for him. Perhaps because Dad went last week too and being ill he just noticed me missing more.

Did tax return the other night seems tax man owes me loads is a bit annoying that couldn't just be taxed right from start - anyway if family tax and childcare reconciliation don't take it all will be a nice buffer for next time I am out of work I suppose - also reinforced I need to ask for more money if contracting again, but a perm job would be so much better

Sounds like a plan, wysiwyg :)

Hi Ladies,

Hope you are all keeping well.

Struggling a bit here as DS is teething really really badly. He is waking so much overnight we are having to tag team it.

Would you consider going back to a company if they had made you redundant in a previous position? I am really not enjoying where I am and saw my old work have a position available.

Nutter hope you are feeling better and wysiwig I hope your DS settles back down again quickly

If I enjoyed the workplace I would in a heartbeat

Yes I would go back - I was made redundant and then went back as a contractor and I would go back again as contractor or permanent. Often redundancies are no reflection on persons involved and often get rid of very good people so if I liked the company and workplace I definately would.

How is everyone?

Mum has gone home so life is back to normal hectic pace in the mornings and evenings I am working. But kind of nice having a bit more space and DH and I getting evenings to ourself. DS cried at end of our first Skype call with her but now seems ok with her not being at his beck and call :-).

Boss wants to talk to me tomorrow about future plans - not sure what I want really - can be trying working environment sometimes as I find it hard to keep my mouth shut when not doing things in best way and the rest of the team are really nice but never question anything. On the other hand part time work is hard to come by so maybe should just suck it up.

Having my mental health week here, even though not as relaxing as planned. On the Jury Duty roster, so I can't plan any day till I find out if I am needed or not. Also the weather is terrible, so some of the stuff I had planned just can't be done.

We are about to hit a busy time at work, so getting prepped for that. Fingers crossed it all goes well.

DD2 keeps on saying her tummy hurts on the days she goes to childcare, as opposed to kinder. She keeps on saying she does not want to go and wants to stay home with me. Hard to explain to her that mummy works and the benefits of mummy working. I feel for her and do struggle with how to handle it. Really cannot wait for school to start next year.

wysiwyg - good part-time work is gold and I realised long ago that no matter what the job there will always be some downsides. I suppose it is just weighing up if the job is worth the downsides.

Hi ladies

I've just come across this thread and was hoping to join in. I started working again a few months ago working part time but have now come back fulltime this week. My daughter does 2 days with the grandparents 2 days at creche and I work from home 1 day. Just wondering how you ladies go about planning your days. At the moment I get up about 5.30 to have a shower breakfast etc then I wake up my daughter and get her ready for her day. My husband does shiftwork so I cant count on him all the time. By 9 o'clock at night I'm exhausted.

Happy for any tips that might help

Hi ladies
Ill be back to work in 1 and a half week and kinda looking forward to it!!

Dd2 is a hard velcro baby who is still being bf.

She refuses to drink anything but bm and even ebm is not good enough.

Been trying to get her use to my
Mum and dd rather starve until i feed her around 4ish.

I will be returning full time leaving home at 6 am and earliest ill be back is 6pm

Not looking forward to that part i will definitely miss my girls!

Im getting anxious not about work but about dd2 and her feeding issues and how mum can handle her.

Will definitely need alot of support and a shoulder to cry on from you girls soon :)

I've been sick now DS is sick :( so I'm off work with him which isn't good with my contract expiry coming in 4 weeks. I'm quite nervous. I'm also 8 weeks preg and having a moral dilemma as to when to tell them

4 days until I'm back at work :( I don't wanna go

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I've been sick now DS is sick :( so I'm off work with him which isn't good with my contract expiry coming in 4 weeks. I'm quite nervous. I'm also 8 weeks preg and having a moral dilemma as to when to tell them

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I had a similar situation on a contract between DD and DS, with the being pregnant and deciding when to tell them. In the end I told at 8 weeks because I wanted them to know at point of renewal, I was fairly convinced they would still renew but prepared that they might not. In the end I think it worked in my favor as the amount of work they had fitted perfectly with amount of time I had before would want to finish up and I think it in a way made it easier for them to renew as knew were definitely only committing for a set time and I wouldn't be trying to extend it by creating work I would be motivated to finish IYKWIM (in my arena it is not uncommon for contractors to string work out to keep contracts going). The company had been my employer before DD as a permanent though so I did have quite a good relationship with people there, which also made me want to make sure kept them informed.

Is tricky though as there is no right or wrong time to tell about pregnancy. Also remember is unlikely they would have any moral dilemmas about letting you go. I assume here in Aus that contractors can be let go at any point without company even having to give a reason? E.g. Unfair dismissal regulations don't apply?

I need to call fair work cause I want to know if they offer me a perm job and before I sign tell them can they change their mind and take offer off table.

BD - that is tricky, a hard situation to be in. Hope it all works out.

Tough one BD. It is so silly really, employers have issues with women and pregnancy, but seem to have no problem if they hire a guy who then quits around 6 months later as he is going overseas (planned since well before starting).

Yep it sucks especially working for a global Company where your just a number

I had the situation where my employer knew I was pregnant and they told me that if I wasn't pregnant then I could have anything I wanted...but because I was pregnant I was a "liability" and my contract wasn't being renewed. So if you really want the job, I wouldn't say anything. I loved my job and still haven't forgiven them. I'm lucky I have an even better employer now...I just don't want to go back yet!

Tough decision, and one which you might need to make based on where you see the job going long term.

If (for example) they're going to feel tricked and trapped, and behave badly, is the workplace going to be a crummy plane later? And are you planning on going back after this baby? How will they be then?

Are you confident that you will be prepared to fight for your rights and demand equal treatment etc ongoingly - or will it be a source of stress, disappointment, etc, and cause you unnecessary stress and pain at a time that should be happy and calm?

Or are they going to be professional and treat you like any other pregnant employee?

Or are you unsure about whether you will go back to work, after this precious bundle arrives?

Big decision. Take your time deciding.