Thanks for all your input. I was reading it heading into surgery & it helped. The doctor removed the right tube. He said he used to try to just remove the pregnancy and save the tube, but found it caused scarring and reocurring ectopics. It went relatively quickly and I went home 3.5hours after surgery.

today is 4 days passed surgery and I woke up feeling fine. Which means I overdid things and now I feel terrible. It may be because I've run out of panadeine forte and AF arrived with a vengence. I dont feel well enough to drive yet. The biggest thing is not being able to bend down or carry things, so I cant even put a load of washing on. DH is home this week which is great but he's away next week so I hope I am able to do more things then.

as the physical pain improves, the emotional pain is kicking in. We lost another baby and part of my fertility. It just sucks. I feel like I cant do anything right.