Hi there

Firstly so sorry to hear of ur loss

I too have a incompetent cervix.

With my first pregnancy at my 12 week scan It was
Discovered my cervix was quite short (2.5cm) anything under 3cm is a concern. I was put on bed rest and re-scanned at 14weeks and it had dropped to 2.3cm.

We decided against having a stitch done and at 20 weeks my cervix was 3cm... My OB kept memon bed rest from that 12 week scan..
At 21 weeks I went into labour, and it was stopped. Unfortunately my waters were bulging and I got a massive infection and my bOdy couldn't fight it even with a million different anti-b's and at 22w1d I delivers our DS....

My OB immediately diagnosed the incomPetant cervix and said a stitch was a must for me. He was also devastated that we all (incl himself) decided that we wouldn't do the stitch.

I was scanned before I fell preg again and I have a abnormallly short cervix before the strain of a pregnancy is added...

When I fell preg with DD I was put on bed rest at 8 weeks along with pogesterone pessaries to keep my cervix calm and stable.
After my 12week scan came back clear I was booked
In for my stitch to be done and had it done at 15 weeks, it would have been earlier bu t my OB wantEd a specific assistant.

I was in hospital over night and it was done with a spinal block and light sedation.

I stayed on bed rest from 8 weeks till 24weeks, then I was allowed off bed rest until about 28weeks.

I would definitely be pushing for a stitch if they have diagnosed u with IC, the way I see it there is no point risking anything if u can avoid it.

What state are u in?