Not sure where to even start, I knew this day would come and it scares the crap out of me. DS16 got drunk last night for the first time at a supervised party but what scares me the most is that alcoholism runs in DH's side of the family. Once I got to DS last night and saw him I instantly got flashbacks of the past. I know this doesn't mean DS is going to be an alcoholic but it's just so hard to deal with. FIL died 2yrs ago from alcohol related disease, some people just don't understand how terrible of a disease alcoholism is, I just don't want my boy to suffer. Obviously from now on he won't be going to ANY party without me sussing it out completely but I can't supervise him 24/7. Deep down I knew he would experiment with alcohol but right now I wish alcohol never even existed, it just causes too many problems.
DP's mum is an alcoholic and he has never touched a drop cos he has seen first hand what it does and he knows it's in his genes. Talk to your boy explain the dangers. Our girls will grow up in a dry household as we don't drink but i'm not stupid i know there will be parties etc. when they're teens. I just hope that by us being open and honest and teaching them that they have the genes and what alcoholism is and the effects on your body and life they will be sensible. Not looking forward to teenage years...
Alcoholism is in my family - my grandfather will not even have a bottle of wine in the house for Grandma to cook with after watching what it did to his father. My parents decided to take the aproach of letting me drink at home with them - if they had a glass of port with dinner (which they did most friday nights) I was offered one too (after I turned about 15-16 I think by memory). Then when I was 18 and we went to parties as a family where alcohol would be there I was asked if I would like a can or two of something to take with me.
Basically I feel they taught me how to enjoy the "odd glass/can" and not go stupid. I'm now 30 and have been drunk enough to throw up 3 times in my life, have never had a hangover and know how to go to a party and enjoy a drink.
We do not have alcohol in the house and never will and the children know why. Responsible drinking is one thing but just doesn't exist with alcoholics.
I have many not-very-fond memories of my sister's late teenage years and early twenties. She would drink quite a lot then throw up. My most vivid memory is when she came stumbing home drunk one night (thank god for the taxi driver who physically put her in the car, rummaged through her bag to find her mobile and called me to let me know he was bringing her home. I didn't even pay him and I have no idea what taxi company he was from but he was an angel!). She was so far gone she was hallucinating. She saw martians on the lounge room floor and the front door was talking to her. I was so scared. Mum and dad weren't home and I had no idea what to do.
Thankfully, she is now a mum to 3 kids and she has eased up a lot and only drinks occasionally now.
Anyway, the point is, my parents couldn't get anything through to her because in her words "they don't want me to have any fun". Yeah, must have been a thrill to puke your guts up every week. My parents made me research the effects of drinking on teenagers and young adults in all its glory in a bid to stop me doing the same thing. Some of the pictures I saw where so revolting. Now I very rarely drink and have never been drunk.
Maybe get him to research it on the internet (with you watching so he goes to the appropriate sites rather than those that glorify it) to really drum home the ramifications.
Hugs huni. My uncle died last year of alcoholism related illness. It's understandable why you are concerned hun and hopefully he will have learned a lesson xxxx
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DP's mum is an alcoholic and he has never touched a drop cos he has seen first hand what it does and he knows it's in his genes. Talk to your boy explain the dangers. Our girls will grow up in a dry household as we don't drink but i'm not stupid i know there will be parties etc. when they're teens. I just hope that by us being open and honest and teaching them that they have the genes and what alcoholism is and the effects on your body and life they will be sensible. Not looking forward to teenage years...
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