Acknowledging her first birthday.

[DaintreeDream]

In September my brother is getting married, an old friend of mine will be at the wedding, we do not have much contact these days however he has always referred to me as the little sister he never had. The week before my brothers wedding would have been our friend daughters first birthday however sadly she was born sleeping, I would love to acknowedge her birthday, little B is my friends only child, but I do not know how or if to bring it up... please help me know what is the right thing to do?

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

Perhaps arrange for a bunch of flowers to be delivered to her with a note, 'Happy Birthday (name)'? That way you can acknowledge her milestone, but give mum some space as well, she might want to hide for the day.

[boobaloo]

maybe give him a balloon, and acknowledge that the day must be difficult, and that you hope he's doing ok... just something simple you kow?

[Lily Dust]

I like the combination of the 2 other posts. Delivery of balloons, balloons are innocent and child-like to me. I remember when I miscarried I wished I was given ballons...no idea why and then when DD was born a friend sent 5 ballons in all different colours and it brought tears to my eyes. I think what Berenice said about letting Mum have space is perfect.

What a beautiful and special friend you are hun x

[luna moth]

A pot plant of some sort? I think they make beautiful commemmorative gifts. I get so much out of the ones I've been given for various events.

[ButterflyForever]

How about a candle to light to remember her. I bought a beautiful butterfly one for my friend when she lost her Bub and someone close to me also bought one for me on my daughters first anniversary,it's very special to me.