Gunna be tough few days.....

Fi :hug: So sorry to hear about your loss.

Fi, like I said in your other thread you have an great attitude. I haven't heard many people so open about making another baby. I believe every thing happens for a reason. I am sorry for you loss and hope all goes well today.

Hope all goes well today Fi. Thinking of you.

I'm so sorry Fi......

Thinking of you both today.

All the best for today Fi, I will be thinking of you.

I'm thinking of you too, Fi. Hope those buggers at the hospital do the right thing for you today and it's over and done with sooner rather than later.

Thinking of you, Shane and Jenna. Such a horrible and sucky thing to happen!

Let me know when you want to go on that bender!

:hugs:

Like Bec said, you are one AMAZING woman!

Fi I'm so sorry..........thinking of you.........

Well Geelong hospital strikes again. After starving myself all morning, I get in there to find the theatre list is choccers, and they probably wont fit me in today at all.
So I'm booked in for 7am tomorrow. She has given me the tablets to insert up there at 5am, and she says I should be home by 5pm.

It was lovely to walk past all the mums that have their babies on CTG's and on speaker, and getting to hear lots of little heartbeats. Oh - and then it was a midwife that I talked to on the phone the other day asking for help. She even remembered me. Wasn't that nice. I did get a bit short with her, and she didn't come back after that.

So the saga drags on. Apparently they dont book other procedures for saturday morning, so we just have to hope that lots of mums dont need c/s tomorrow morning, and there aren't too many fights and car accidents in Geelong over night.

Fi

Fi what a bummer for you that they couldn't do it today after all.

I really hope that they have their act together for you tomorrow & all goes smoothly.

Oh pffft. What a load of balone Fi! This is just awful and should NOT be happening!!!

What are the tablets that you mentioned?? When I had my D&C, I was 11w (well "should" have been) and our little one had died at 8.5w. I didn't have to have any tablets inserted at all??

I'd be a bit concerned about doing that too, if you've got no guarantees that you'll have the D&C tomorrow?

Fi so sorry you had to go through all that today.

I think it's horrible that they stick you with pregnant women when you are going through a m/c. I was lucky and was sent to the day ward and no one around me was pg. I guess different hospitals do things different.

:hugs: to you both.

That's good that you were sent to a separate ward Michelle - I wasn't so lucky when I was in hospital for my D&C.

I was put on the maternity ward - I found that SO distressing. I could hear little babies crying and see PG women walking past my room. It was awful.

Fi, So sorry to hear your news hun, and bummer about being set back for tomorrow.
I am thinking of you, Shane and little Jenna at this sad time.:hug:

Fi , i've just read your news ..... am so very sorry to hear this .... Big hugs to you :hugs: will be thinking of you tomorrow, hope it is all over quickly for you xx

Oh for goodness sake!! Urrgh... They just have no bloody idea, do they??
I am soooo sorry, Fi. The hospital has treated you appallingly... just so angry for you. I really hope tomorrow it gets all over and done with.

Fi.. I'm soooo sorry!!

It's such a rotten thing to happen, and it sucks even more the way you've been treated.

I hope that everything goes smoothly for you tomorrow and they have a bit of thought for your situation and don't put you through more pain.

*hugs* to you, and I hope that with Shane and Jenna for support you can keep your positive attitude.

Fi, I'm so sorry for your loss. Not too impressed with how things have been handled by 'the system'. Big hugs, & I hope they treat you better from now on. :hug:

OMG Fi, you poor thing, Grr @ the hospital. :evil:

I hope everything goes smoothly for you and I will be thinking of you tomorrow. :hug:

If you don't mind me asking, what are the tablets for?? When I had my D*C I never had to have to do that and we lost our bubs @ 10 weeks (roughly).

I hope you don't have to go to the Mat ward to have it done.

Like Michelle, I was in the day ward and like you had mine done on a Sat and all the women in there were having D&Cs. :(

OMG that sucks, I'm so sorry that you were sent away, I hope they get you in tomorrow :hug:

They told me that the tablets are to soften everything up, and make it easier to remove everything. They are misoprostol, which I've read up on. They look like an vaginal abortion pill to me.

I guess either way they want to get rid of it, so if they dont fit me in again, at least something starts happening because I still haven't started bleeding yet through to a pad - just lots of brown mucous when I wipe.

I've been told that I am to come in at 7am, unless the pain gets too much before that. Nice warning huh? She said to use a heat pack. Sounds all very unpleasant and painful. Lots of bleeding, lots of cramps.

The worst thing is I have to be admitted in the emergency dept, because nowhere else can admit me during the weekend - so back to the scene of the crime.

The theatre they will use is next to the birthing suites, so I will hear babies cry I guess :( I'm OK with that, I just think its terribly tactless. Imagine if I didn't have Jenna to cuddle??? They have a gynocological room in the maternity ward. Its a big 6 bedder, so I guess I'm in there after the procedure. I will scream if they make me go back to the day clinic. Most of the mums are actually in there for problems and monitoring, so the last thing they need is to hear me blubbing away.

Bec did something very nice for me today. Although she should realise that I have cats.... but they only got one scone!!

Fi

Fi i so hope you don't have to go through a natural m/c. But if the pain does start and get worse please go straight in. It is one thing i wish i did last time.

:hug:

To soften everything up?! Weird. Seriously Fi, I never had to have anything like that. I don't want to be an alarmist, but I'd be worried about using them and then potentially not getting in for the D&C anyway, and being in a lot of pain.

It just sucks the way you are being treated! I just can't get over it.

Yes, it is tactless to put you near the birthing suites. I think I mentioned in the other thread that I was put on the Maternity ward before/after my D&C and it was awful. I felt like I was having it rubbed in my face. Not very nice.

Melinda - dont forget the fasting part..... I'll be in pain, hungry, thirsty emotional, and bleeding everywhere.
Man I am so looking forward to tomorrow!!! I better get up the road and get some maternity pads just in case. All I have is Libra Goodnights, and a few thing maternity pads, so it makes sense to have a few surfboards on hand.

I get what you mean about it sucking really bad, but I'm going to take the pills and be tough. Thats what they have told me to do, and I really dont want to be bumped just cause I didn't do what they said. Bec's SIL (I think...) ate a packet of chips while waiting in emergency, and ended up sitting there - in the waiting room for 5 hours until they took her through. And she was bleeding the whole time.

Surely it can't be worse than labour?? Specially Jenna's one. Oh god that was bad.
I wonder if they'll give me an epidural?? LOL.

Yep, IKWYM about fearing that they'll bump you if you don't do what they say.

Pain, thirst, hunger, emotional, bleeding = what a combination. Just freaking awful. Make sure you have some strong pain relief in the house too Fi - just in case. If things do move along before you get to the hospital or before they do the D&C, yep, you will need plenty of pads but also some pain relief. I won't lie - it's not nice.

But having said that, the chances are, that if you are bleeding like that and in pain that they will see you asap. Well they should anyway (I guess there's no guarantees with what you mentioned about Bec's SIL).

Geez, I tell you what, all of this just makes me want to ring up Geelong Hospital and give them a really serious pasting! Wrong, wrong, wrong!!! This kind of thing really does a persons head in. It's times like these that I think hospitals/doctors etc just don't understand the emotional side to this. And even the physical side of it they're not handling appropriately! Sheesh........

Well there is some slightly postive news.

I called the birthing suites, and THANK GOD I actually got the midwife who delivered Jenna (in so much as a natural birthing midwife can with forceps in a theatre).
Anyway - I basically trust everything she says. So straight up she said, the meds are apparently what they are doing now for some people as well as curette, I would be unlucky for the pain to hit within 2 hours, BUT if it does, to come in immediately, bugger their 7am timeframe. She said if I'm in the sort of pain that needs something, I shouldn't be at home.

Andy is such a champ, just the best midwife you could ever have hoped to have, and she is on tomorrow from 7-3:30pm. She has said if I need to talk, just to get them to call her, and she was really happy to hear we were all well (under the circumstances ) and about her influence in getting Jenna to feed well. She was the one who taught me "big wide mouth Jenna" and "nope - no good, take her off and do it again".

So thankfully one of my angels will be there looking after me if I need it. I have lined up the babysitter (my SIL) if things get ugly, surfboards are purchased. I think I'm ready. It reminds me somewhat of my induction in a way, except not as exciting, and I dont get the great end result.

But talking to Andy has lifted a huge weight off my shoulders.

And as for pain relief - we have the market cornered ;) You name it - we have it including valium, morphine and plenty of panadiene forte. I wont take any though cause it might be an excuse to bump me.

Thanks again for everyones support, hopefully this mess is almost over.

Fi

That is great you have been able to tallk to someone and feel a but better.

I took panadiene forte when i had my last m/c and it helped so much with the pain. I never went through a natrual labour but i said to someone give me a c/section any day of the week than have that pain again.

Oh Fi, it all sounds terribly awful, again I am so sorry that you are going through this, it sucks big time that you are not being taken better care of at the hospital, there should be a special hospital for things like this, seems like it would be better, but as if there would be funding for that.

Anyway, I'm glad you found some comfort thanks to Andy, she sounds like a gem, I'm so happy that she was on the end of the phone for you, and it sounds as though she will take VERY good care of you if you need her.

Once again I will be thinking of you tomorrow (not that I have stopped thinking since I heard your news), good luck, and take care :hug:

Oh Fi, I am so very sorry to hear that you are going through this! I hope the night and tomorrow goes okay (well as well as it can - ykwim), shall be thinking of you. Lots of hugs.

Im really sorry for your loss fi.

Fi,
Iam really realy sorry for your loss.

hugs
Lesley

Dear Fi;

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.

I hope everything went as well as it possibly could, today.

Best wishes and :hug: for you.

Maybe I should drive you home in the back of my car... only I don't have a van.... maybe I should buy one???

It's been a while since you've posted Fi, so I'm hoping that this means that you've been into the hospital and had the D&C.......


Thinking of you........

Hi All,

Thanks again for your thoughts. Its all over and done now, and it wasn't too bad. I dont even remember going under, and although waking up was pretty horrid the recovery nurse pulled out a hand knitted teddy bear for me to cuddle. She must make them and give them to kids and mums who have lost little ones. So its Jenna's new toy - she can look after it for me.

I wasn't in the maternity ward in the end, so that was good. Jenna was a dream, and Shane did a great job too.

So hopefully I'll have some nice things to announce in a few months time, and hopefully thats all my bad news for a while.

Fi

Thank goodness that's over for you Fi (IYKWIM).

You are in my thoughts.

Glad for your sake Fi that all went smoothly today.

Thinking of you & hope that you are taking it easy.

Huge hugs.

I'm so glad that it's all over for you now. I look forward to hearing that nice announcement in a few months time :hug:

Take care

Thinking of you Fi :hugs: :flower:

SO glad it's all over for you, matey. Was thinking about you allllll day and praying that they didn't push you back once again.
So lovely of that nurse to give you a teddy. Great to hear that there is at least SOME compassion in that place.
Wishing you all the best for a smooth recovery. Hugs to you and to Shane and Jenna. Such an ordeal for all of you.
I will pop around next week (will call first).
Take care and HUGE :hugs:

Fi, I am so glad its all over for you. I was thinking of you. :hug:

I hope we hear some good news from you soon.

Take Care