How long after a loss?

Perplexie I understand completely where you are, until anyone can prove otherwise you are pregnant , viable or not.
In December last year we had our first positive test at 14 days post transfer and had slow hcg of 23, I was told then it wasn't going to be viable but had to have bloods done second day i had a brown discharge most of the time. My levels increased over the next week to just over 700 but should have been way up in the thousands by then.
I decided to actually enjoy the fact that we had finally gotten pregnant after a long ivf journey only to end up having a huge bleed, ended up in hospital and levels had gone right down, my body sorted it out all by itself and I didnt need any drugs. We had also had a scan at around 5.5weeks and they found nothing. All my home tests still showed up for weeks until my levels got down to 2.
I am sorry I am not sharing something more positive but as I had a very similar experience I thought I would share it. It is the hardest place to be in because you just want to know so you can deal with whatever the outcome is good or bad. I hope you are like others I read about where things turned out for the best. Sending you a huge hug xoxoxox thinking of you.

So sorry kerbear

It's a hard spot to be in. :-( this bub was conceived without clomid unlike our last pregnancy.

So over waiting... So impatient.

Hope they stop the blood draws soon.

Perplexie it is the hardest and emotional place to be in and I hope that you levels go up well and they can stop making you a pincushion soon. I am here for you if you need to chat just on me xoxox

I meant pm me oops :-)

How early did everyone have their scans and actually see something?

With my DD I was 4w5d when I seen the gestational sac and about 6w when we saw her little beany body and heart beat.

The scan I had a week ago, (5weeks) we saw nothing. Possibly thickened uterine lining but otherwise uterus was empty. I'm hoping my numbers go up for them to give me a quick scan over to see if there's any thing in my uterus as I'm getting more & more concerned this pregnancy will end up in surgery or methotrexate injections and heartache. I'm supposed to be 6w 2d today so should they see something tomorrow at my appointment? I suppose not with my low ish hcgs...

:'( feeling really disheartened with this pregnancy outcome. I really don't want to lose this baby as it will be our last pregnancy ever.

They should definately be able to see something at your scan. And *possibly*, but not always, a heartbeat. It is around 6w that the heart starts beating so dont stress if there is a bub measuring to dates but no/ slow hb.

With my loss I had a very early scan and before he started the tech said it might be too early (4w2d). So it is possible at 4w5d it was too early to see anything. Not that Im an expert.

I think it depends on the HCG. They told me the HCG had to be at least 1000 to be able to see something in a scan. I had slow rising HCG last year with my pregnancy that ended in a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks (numbers got up to about 18000 by 8 weeks by baby's size, but I was officially 10 weeks by AF). Bub was 2 weeks behind the whole time. I had an ultrasound at about 6 weeks (HCG was under 1000), should have been able to see the heart beat by then, but nothing. They also wanted to check if it was an ectopic pregnancy. The week after they saw a beating heart. The ultrasound specialist was negative from the start about our little one as the embryonic sac seemed very small. The first appointment at the obstetrician he thought it wouldn't last a week and a week later had a scan and bub was gone. We were prepared for the worst from the beginning, but as the baby grew and there was a heartbeat we had hope as well. I did not have any bleeding.
I know this is another negative story, but it doesn't mean this happens with your pregnancy. I have been following your posts and have been keeping my fingers knees and toes crossed for you that you're little one will be a sticky one. Hugs, honey.

See that's the thing. My last hcg test done 3 days ago was only 84. I have a repeat tomorrow but for nearly 6 weeks, shouldn't it be up around the 1000 mark at least?

I am so confused and overwhelmed with the way this pregnancy is turning out. :-( I hope I get some answers tomorrow. I'm physically and emotionally exhausted from this long winded beta hell journey.

By 6 weeks they should definitely be able to see something. If they can't see anything they really need to work out why.

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By 6 weeks they should definitely be able to see something. If they can't see anything they really need to work out why.

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That's what I thought ...

But they aren't doing anything apart from monitoring my hcgs ? Every 3 to 4 days.

Hoping they do a scan tomorrow and get a plan in place. I can't take this wait much longer. It's not doing me any good for my mental health.

Sounds like you need someone who is really listening to you and will advocate for you to find out exactly what is going on. Is there somewhere else you can go to get all this checked out??

Not really hun... The hospital I need to go to looks after high risk pregnancies (and with my pregnancy history I'm classed as high risk already...) There isn't another hospital that will see me and not send me back to this current hospital. My gp is also advising me to stick it out at that hospital but said you will probably know more in the next couple of weeks! Are you kidding me? Weeks? I can't wait that long to know what's happening.

I wish there was a doctor/hospital that could tell me what was going on or put my mind at ease. I'll be speaking to a doctor tomorrow and voicing my concerns and hope that they listen...

It sucks bad enough being in limbo, but it's even worse to feel like you're not being heard. I'd be very worried about an ectopic (especially since they couldn't see anything on the scan at 5wks) and I'd at least push to have them re-check for that tomorrow. It's all well and good to "wait it out", but you have to make sure there are no risks first.

That said, I hope all is well and that you get the happy surprise of some good news tomorrow.

Thanks hun. Yeah I'm worried about ectopic too.

Id rather know because I am home alone with my DD and I am so scared I will have a rupture in my sleep or something...

I am going to push for a scan tomorrow because surely by 6 weeks something should be visible there

I really need a plan. I don't think I want my hcg levels read anymore but I know they will want to until something shows up on scan.

You poor thing pixie!

Thinking of you and hope all is ok tomorrow, be strong and make sure you are heard and get everything checked. Will be stalking you tomorrow to make sure you are ok!

Big Hugs

Thinking of you and hope tomorrow brings some good news xo

I can't sleep :-( I'm so nervous.

I too am praying you get some good news today xxx

Good luck babe. I am crossing everything that you get good news today.

Go well today Pixie. Thinking of you x

Good luck today pp xo

Thinking of you today PP, I hope you finally get some answers

Bloods have been taken. Here's hoping... About an hour wait for results through the hospital, then I have to wait to talk to a doctor

Thinking of you.

Thinking of you also. Hope you get good news

Still in beta hell...

Levels today 4 days after last test are at 453.

Nothing visible in ultrasound in uterus apart from corpus luteum on left side.

Another blood test on Friday. Another ultrasound on Monday. Should know what's going on by then.

Did they check your tubes? That doesnt sound right hun. I am suprised they are being so relaxed about this. They really need to find if/where it has implanted.

:hug: Im sorry you didnt see a precious bubba floating around. :(

I know. Yep they checked tubes. Couldn't see a thing. I'm so frustrated. Pushed for methotrexate and they refused. They said hcg still rising could be viable.

It must be driving you mental being on this horrible rollercoaster. :(
I dont understand how they think its viable when there is nothing in your uterus. Could it be that you miscarried and fell pregnant again straight away?

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It must be driving you mental being on this horrible rollercoaster. :(
I dont understand how they think its viable when there is nothing in your uterus. Could it be that you miscarried and fell pregnant again straight away?

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Impossible.

You poor thing!!! No words! Sending you big hugs though!

I'm sorry you weren't given more answers today. I had a scan with my ectopic at almost 6weeks and they couldn't see my tubes (you can only see them if there is something wrong with them) my BHCG was around 7000 when they finally found it at 8wks. My hCG was slow to rise even went backwards but then took of like normal. I really hope you have success story from this pregnancy xx

I have been in limbo like this, it's frustrating and stressful :hug: I'm sorry you didn't get a definitive answer :hug:

:hug: hun.

Ah hun :( its so incredibly frustating. I was on this rollercoaster recently and it can send you mad. My girlfriend told me to just keep focusing of the positive symptoms that i was pg - so i wrote that down and stuck it around the house. it reminded me that no matter what happened, at that moment despite being in limbo, i was pg and i had symptoms to prove it. I hope that things work out xo

I'm so sorry Hun xoxox

Thanks everyone.

The doctors seem to think I ovulated a week later than I thought. Which now that I have sat down and looked at everything properly - it kind of makes sense. The wait continues. I have another BT on Friday and an U/S and a check with the dr on Monday.

For 5 weeks I thought my bloods were low at 453, but evidently they are within range??? So hoping they go up to be able to show something on the scan on Monday.

Out of respect for ladies who have previously experienced m/c& loss I wont be posting here unless I have confirmed m/c or otherwise.

Thank you all for your help and hugs.

I am so greatful for Belly belly... and the girls who are on it. You have all helped me so much. And I appreciate it so very much xxx

sorry double post xx

It would be great if the dr is right & this is all just a little "misunderstanding" :)

I will continue to follow/(stalk) you as I would love to share your joy if everything turns out fantastic & I would also like to offer you my support & condolences if the pregnancy becomes lost.

Hun I am sorry you are still in that unknown place, crossing my fingers that dates are just out and you have a sticky little bubba growing in there. Xo