How long do you sign their name for?

[Arimeh]

I know this is a sensitive subject and I mean absolutely no disrespect to anyone who has suffered a late loss.

My sister gave birth to a beautiful girl angel in March 2007. She then went on to have a healthy, beautiful baby girl in March 2008.

She still signs all cards and letters etc from her angel, as well as her other kids.

DH doesnt' think this is normal - he thinks it is weird. I don't really have any opinion on whether it is weird or not - obviously she feels its something she needs to do - but I am wondering if other ladies still sign from their angel children, or its something that goes in time.

I'm just curious I guess, as to whether its not normal, and if I should suggest further counselling or something? i dont' really want to broach the subject with her though, as I get quite upset talking about my niece to anyone.

I guess I'm wanting to show my DH that it is normal to do this.

Thanks for any replies, much appreciated

[diannescruffy]

Hi,
Personally I've never signed my angel babies name but yesterday my DD7 was writing a Christmas card and she signed in her angel brothers name and I thought it was so so sweet. I think it's just a recognition of your sisters angel baby.

Regards,
Dianne

[Arimeh]

Thanks Dianne.

That was a very beautiful gesture from your daughter. You must be very proud to have raised such a sensitive, thoughtful girl.

Thank you for answering

[widdly]

My cousin and his wife lost their second baby girl at 26 weeks, Millie Violet. For at least a few years afterwards they would sign their cards with all their names plus "Millie in the Moon". I thought it was a really sweet way to remember their precious girl born too early, but i must admit that was the first time I'd ever encountered this. Im not sure if they still do it, but they lost Millie about 5 years ago now.

[Arimeh]

Oohhh thats such a lovely expression!!!! I love it...

I was thinking of giving my sister a card at xmas (since Phoebe isn't here to help celebrate it) just wishing "Phoebe dancing in the sunlight" a merry xmas or something..

I dunno.. its hard.. I don't want to upset her but I want to acknowledge her.

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

I've never come across it Mel, but I would think that if she's signing for her angel, then it wouldn't be upsetting for someone else to acknowledge her as well - if it were me I would find it incredibly sweet, and give that person a rib squishing hug and a thank you next time I saw them!

Perhaps she's still signing because she doesn't want OTHERS to forget - and therefore by you acknowledging her angel, she might feel more comfortable to let her go, as she knows she won't be forgotten.