oh hun i am so sorry to hear of your loss,
i too have been through some of the situtaions that you are going through now. i wanted to get pregnant again as soon as we lost our little girl but DH didnt want to. after a bit of a chat with him i figured it was because he was scared. Im not sure if that is the same for your DH but maybe a nice long chat with him will help.

People dont think about what they say/ do before they do it sometimes, but also alot of people have no idea what you are going through and even if they did know what you are trying to comprehend they have no idea what to say or do to help you.. trust me after i lost Kyarna i tried to help another mummy through the loss of her baby and i had no idea what to do.
i am really sorry if none of that helped,
actually the best thing i found was to talk and i didnt feel that i could do that IRL so i used alot of forums to express my feelings. just make sure you dont bottle things up, it cdoesnt matter if you think it sounds bitter or mean or even silly, i can tell you that there are ladies in here that would have thought the exact same thing
Once again i am so sorry for your loss