Two in a row - do I need testing...?

**Cricket** · May 28th, 2015, 04:35 AM

I will discuss this with my family doctor soon, but I wondered if anyone here could share some thoughts/experiences. I have had 7 healthy normal pregnancies, and now 2 miscarriages in a row, at 7 weeks and 10 weeks. Both times the baby stopped developing well before the miscarriage actually occurred. The first time I miscarried, I figured it was just one of those things - I was beating the odds with 7 babies and no trouble. But two in a row makes me worry a little. I am a healthy weight (142lb/64.4kg), eat well, exercise daily, and generally feel well. I am 34. DH and I have no family history of genetic issues, and our children are all healthy and well. What do you think? What questions should I be asking? Should I be asking for specific tests? I'm not quite sure what I need to do here. Any suggestions would be helpful! Thanks!

**AlligatorsMum** · May 28th, 2015, 10:03 AM

sorry about your m/c cricket. ive also had two (one before, one after DS1) from what i have read they tend to do testing after 3 miscarriages. i have no idea the basis of this, but i do recall reading that information somewhere.

I hope you dont have to worry about it and you go on to have another healthy pregnancy very soon.

**Cricket** · May 28th, 2015, 10:51 AM

Thanks for your reply AlligatorsMum. I hope so too!

**ladybirdflies** · May 28th, 2015, 02:13 PM

Sorry to hear about your recent loss Cricket. I had two miscarriages(5 weeks and 13 weeks) in a row a few years ago after three normal and healthy pregnancies and births. My second miscarriage had complications afterwards,they reassured me at the clinic that two is common and ok. When I was well enough to get pregnant again I was pretty scared and for the first time asked for an early scan, I was extremely anxious and had an incredible sonographer that cried with us as we spotted a heartbeat at 6 weeks. I would say after as many babies as you have had it would not be genetic. Are your cycles normal and healthy??

**Cricket** · May 28th, 2015, 09:40 PM

LBF - that is encouraging to hear. Thanks for replying. Sorry to hear about your losses - it is hard, isn't it?
My cycles are pretty normal I think. Not quite 100% regular - often vary a couple days from month to month, but other than that, normal.

**ladybirdflies** · May 28th, 2015, 10:01 PM

I had such a different experience with each miscarriage, much like birth itself. The first one was quite beautiful and labour pains followed by passing the baby, I had a 'high' afterwards, not in a creepy way just those endorphins working overtime... the next one was more difficult as I didn't expect to happen again, added to that I almost passed away because of complications after the miscarriage, I was in bed extremely ill for months. During this time, I had dreams about this person (baby) trying to come into earth, even still after two miscarriages and my own near death...I was so incredibly sad and hopeful all in one. Looking at babies really hurt for months, and the due dates coming and going hurt, but each step was another step taken, and now we have our two year old that has filled us with such love and we all wanted her so badly, we walked through the gates of humility to meet this babe, I felt like the miscarriages and lead up to her life were preparation to be ready to mother her, it was such a life changing experience on a very deep level!

Glad to hear your cycles are all good... maybe just see what the Dr suggests, I hope you get to meet a healthy baby in your family soon.

LBF - that is encouraging to hear. Thanks for replying. Sorry to hear about your losses - it is hard, isn't it?
My cycles are pretty normal I think. Not quite 100% regular - often vary a couple days from month to month, but other than that, normal.

**Mumma T** · May 31st, 2015, 10:18 AM

I have had 5 pregnancies with 2 little boys to show for it. I have diabetes which adds some extra complications into the mix but it was actually my endocrinologist that pushed for me to have testing if i lost another, i was currently pregnant with number 5 so they put me on a few extra things like high dose folate and low dose asprin and i had an early scan to see everything was ok. I carried him to term and had my tubes clipped as i couldn't deal with any more losses. Both my boys are perfectly healthy and happy.
I was 38 when I had my last and the ob did mention that as you age you can experience more miscarriages as the eggs are older and tend to have more chromosomal abnormalities.
I'm sorry for your losses and i hope you get your earthside baby soon

**Joeve** · May 31st, 2015, 11:41 AM

I had three before they tested me further. I think in lots of cases they wait for three. It's too heartbreaking I might be inclined to say you've had three to get the ball rolling?
I have a blood clotting issue which wasn't discovered until the testing after 3.
Good luck

**kristi14** · June 1st, 2015, 12:24 PM

Hi Cricket, yep, after a big run of blows i went on to have #5 and #6 successfully, then i had another miscarriage, I then waited a year and fell pregnant with #7 and then waited 3.5yrs and had #8.

The age gap from #1 to #8 is 14yrs 9mths. At present #1 is 15yrs 3mths, #8 is 6 mths.

It is true what they say about as you get older too, over 35 (not sure if you are) and they label you of "advanced maternal age" and suddenly you have all these risk factors according to them that you didnt seem to have before. I found that big time with #8 as i was 35 turning 36 when i had him.

**Cricket** · June 2nd, 2015, 09:34 AM

Sorry to hear about your losses Joeve. I'll maybe ask about clotting issues when I see my GP.

Kristi - I'm not quite 35. Not until October.

DH and I were thinking that this would be our last baby, and I thought it might be good to be done before I was 35, but I guess that's not going to be the case. (Providing we are blessed with another one at some point....) Our oldest, as you can see from my signature, is 11, turning 12 this year, and our youngest is 21 months. I'm from a family of 8 kids as well, with a spread of 19 years. I was the oldest. I like having my kids close together though, and I'm sad that there is going to be a 3 year gap (+/-) between our current youngest and a future baby. But I guess this is out of our hands, so we'll just take it as it comes.

On the plus side (not really) I saw the dentist today and can now get my dental work caught up... 6 fillings to be done. OUCH.