4 year old won't number 2 on the toilet!

[bailey99]

Does anyone have any tips for getting a 4 year old to do number 2's on the toilet? My son took to toilet training easily and was pretty much trained in a couple of days, but he refuses to poo on the toilet and insists on having a nappy on to do it. We have tried lots of encouragement, praising him, bribing him, begging him and even telling him we don't have any nappies - he just held on all day, I could not get him to give in. He has started day care this year and we thought that maybe he would see the other boys doing it and want to copy, but he still won't budge on it - stubborn little bugger. Does antone have any tips or advice??
TIA

[three4me]

You are not alone. My eldest was over 4 before he started doing it in the toilet. Like you we tried everything, in the end I allowed him to use the nappy to poo but he had to sit on the potty to do it. Slowly I cut holes in the nappy without him knowing. I started off with a small hole in the back so the poo would fall through - so he would see that it wasn't such a big deal. I never made too much fuss about it, just wow look at that. Each time I made the hole bigger until before long we were just left with the band of the nappy. It took ages to get rid of that band but in the end he would sit on the potty without it, once we got to this stage we finally advanced to the loo, putting toilet paper over the water to ah, avoid the splash.

LOL I can't believe what we had to do to get him to poo in the toilet. I know exactly how you feel. My DS was still pooing in Nappies when he started Kindy, he just waited till he got home to go.

Try not to stress, it will all come together (sooner or later)

[bailey99]

Thanks for the suggestions and reassurance three4me. I think it is just good to know he's not the only one. Lol about the holes in the nappy. I might try to get him to sit on the potty in the nappy, that might help. Thanks again

[~Raven~]

Bribery was my trick! Chocolate frogs worked for my little guy.

Have you tried a potty? See if you can bribe him to do one one that and take it from there.

[tears_of_joy]

I cant help with tips or advice but can reassure you that yep its not just your DS and he will poo in the toilet eventually. I worked in childcare before DS was born and it was suprising just how many children boy and girl that would not poo in the toilet, and yes there were quite a few of our kindy aged kids too.

So have a hug hun he will get there

[Je$$_84]

WOW, is it great to hear from someone having the same issues- although at least your DS will hold out for nappy... Mine will just poop in his undies all day... He's just over 3 and its driving me INSANE.....

He's been TT since he was just over 2 #1's easy as but #2's he went ok bout 4 months into the TT... now i'm not sure if its lazyness or something but we can go through 10 pairs of undies in 1 day...

I tell him to hop on and try and he sits there (after a 10 min struggle to get him on) then its "i cant do it" he gets off and sure enough 10-30 mins later he's pooped his pants... I smell it before he finnishes and make him get on but he "cant do it" again and the whole cycle starts all over again....

Everyone keeps saying its a boy thing.... i'd love to hear any suggestions...

We've tryed bribing, praising, cheering when he does the slightest bit on there... even tryed leaving pants off all day but he just goes where ever he is...

Love the idea of the holes in the nappy but as i said he'll go in undies- not holding on for a nappy....