Do you wake them to go at night?

[Pandora]

DS is ocasionally dry at night, but not frequesntly, and same with his day sleeps even if they are only an hour or so.

Should I wake him at night before we go to bed (around11) to go to the toilet? He normally goes to bed around 7:30-8

[Lulu]

We did for awhile - 11pm seems to be the right time for it! After all the years of M fighting sleep it seems he now has trouble waking to pee. He tosses and turns about 11pm still, so I just call out to him to get up and wee - he is 5 now so I want him to be able to wake himself to do it

[Bathsheba]

Yep, this is my DH's job. At the moment he takes both our boys to the toilet at about 11pm just before he goes to bed. I usually go to bed before DH that's why it's his job.... plus he kind of likes it... he likes carrying them to the toilet with their faces tucked into his neck and then carrying them back. They both hardly even wake up... both go straight back to sleep afterwards. I'm so glad DH is diligent about this. Accidents are rare. 3yo DS still wears a pull up but often it's dry in the morning. We also did the night trip thing with our DD. We do it until they are able to wake themselves up and go in the night by themselves.... I think DD was about 6 or 7 when we stopped.

[lilima]

I was thinking of doing this. My good friend is a continence nurse and she said not to. Apparently as they are not properly awake it is basically the same thing as weeing in their sleep, and they won't learn to wake themselves up. Don't know how much truth is in that though.

[~Kim~]

Megie, I had heard that too.
We did try it for a bit, but Darcy's just not ready. I made no difference to her.

[Bathsheba]

Hmmm... I can see the logic behind that... but DH does talk to them a fair bit... they kinda nod in their sleep. DD, once we stopped taking her, never had any accidents. I don't know I'm pretty sure they would have been more distressed by wet beds in the middle of winter.... maybe in summer we might see if our 5yo can get the hang of going by himself... I might get DH to stop carrying him at least.

[Nai]

We haven't done that with DD1 at all and she rarely has night accidents. When she told us she wanted to wear undies to be we told her that she had to be dry 5 nights in a row and she could. The next 5 nights in a row she was dry so she got to wear undies. In the first couple of months she wet the bed about once a fortnight and would just come and wake me, I would change her and the bed and she would go back to sleep. She is now down to about one accident a month.

We make sure she goes to the toilet just before going to bed and she doesn't have a big drink before bed either. She has a drink with dinner and if she is still thirsty can have a small cup of milk.

[Lulu]

. I might get DH to stop carrying him at least.

Yeah, dp kinda liked the snuggly bit too but when he isn't here I'm not prepared to carry a 5 yr old anywhere

Poor DS, he finds it very hard to wake - I mean you can tell he is trying to wake but it turns into a nightmare sometimes with him kicking and screaming so I either call to him (next door, paper thin walls) or gently steer him towards the loo.
Sometimes he still wets about 4am too bugger.

[~Raven~]

I was thinking of doing this. My good friend is a continence nurse and she said not to. Apparently as they are not properly awake it is basically the same thing as weeing in their sleep, and they won't learn to wake themselves up. Don't know how much truth is in that though.

This is what I've read too. Will have to dig up the book to be sure of the theory behind it.

I can say though we tried it with both boys and it didn't make any difference. They would wet again before the morning

[Visitor8]

I did it for the first month of night training when Chase was 2 and Jaidan 3. I stopped after that and we haven't many accidents since then. Only when they are sick.

[aussienic]

We always did for a while.. Then we just used our judgement. ie how much they had to drink how abig a wee they did before bed kwim? We found our Ds3 would become a little unsettle. Just extra tossing and turning around 10pm and on those nights we would take him

[BekZ]

Thanks for posting this RayRay. We are still waiting for the night DD1 (3 yrs and 9 months) becomes slightly dry overnight. We have been blessed with a super sleeper but unfortunately she won't wake for a wee. In an effort to get her dry we have just purchased a set of bed overlays, I have a lady making a cloth pull up style night nappy and we are trying to cut her 7pm milk. We have tried cutting the milk out before but she then asks for water or she just gets a drink from the tap anyway. I don't feel right denying her fluids either.