How late is "leaving it too late"

[Matryoshka]

I keep getting that you mustn't leave it too late, and that DH was fully TT by age 2.

So for a boy, i'm curious, when is leaving it too late to start?

To be honest he's showing *most* of the ready signs, but i just can't commit to doing it consistently at this point in time. Is it really so bad to hold off another couple of months?

[~Trish~]

Man, I got the same from MIL, "Both my boys were completely TT'd by 2". Hmmmm....you can remember 30-odd years ago that clearly can you?

DS#1 was trained by the time he turned three. The best thing you can do is not put pressure on yourself or your DS and don't worry about what anyone else says. I took a very relaxed approach (I was pg with DS#2 so I was probably a bit lazy too!) and it worked for us. I started when he turned two, but felt he wasn't ready, so waited a few months and slowly tried again.

So in my opinion, I don't think it's bad to put it off another few months. Your sanity is more important and if you need to focus on other things right now (like we all do) then do so. They all get there eventually, there is no "rule" that says they have to be trained by a certain age. Just ignore other people's comments .

[*Ang*]

Alex still isnt tt and he is a month ahead of your DS Tanya. Like you we havent been able to committ to it consistently due to a lot else happening so we are hoping in the next few weeks once DD is at full-time school that we will be able to do it.

DD was tt by 2 but she really was exceptional. I know a few boys who are tt at the 2.5 age and a couple who were only tt at age 3. I am hoping that by 3 Alex will be tt as that is around the same time new baby arrives.

So in answer to your original question I wouldnt be too worried just yet.

[Matryoshka]

Thanks ladies... can anyone show me some documented proof that he won't be in nappies forever??? she is literally very anxious about this and so putting on the pressure.

[~Trish~]

Ask her where the documented proof is that he will be in nappies forever! I would think the older they are, the more they understand and want to be a "big boy/girl" and would therefore be easier & quicker to train?

[Lulu]

I have never heard anything about 'leaving it too late' - for what?
In my experience the later you leave it, the quicker they do it.

[Matryoshka]

*sigh* i know... just too late in regards to it being really hard to get him out of nappies - ie, in time for school. Not saying it doesn't happen but i've not come accross any kids still wearing nappies to school. Think she just thinks that because her DS took 1 week to train by age 2, that my DS is behind as he's 26 months now, and because he's ahead with everything else milestone wise.

Have googled and most info says boys take a bit longer, usually a bit later and anywhere from age 2.5-3.5. Apparently 30 years ago they started earlier though, i assume because it was easier than washing heaps of terry flats.

I really just need to reassure her because the pressure isn't helping me.