As the title suggests I have come out of BB hibernation to ask for some advice.
the back story:-

Miss4 (nearly 5) started TT when she was 3. Success fairly quickly with wee but then got really sick and regressed. After much trial and error we got that under control again. We have never had any success with bowel movements. She has done it on the loo every so often. As with every other milestone it is a case of "Done it now don't have to do it again". For ages she would take herself off and put on a nappy pant to do poo. She was always encouraged to sit on the toilet. I took a little positive in at least she knew she needed to do it and took hope in the fact it would come in time. (Some of you may remember previous posts about it)

Fast forward to this year. She is is 4 and regularly spoils herself. She doesnt even try to go to the toilet. She will quite happily sit in her soiled clothes all day if I let her. It is a struggle to get her to sit on the toilet to try. She will go and wee no worries.

Talking to her about it is like a never ending loop. Yes she knows she has to go, she can feel it, she is scared, yes she will come get us if she needs to go, she will try harder etc. When you ask what she is scared of it changes everytime. We have tried to be calm, sit with her, positive reinforcement. She has had a reward chart, 1 stamp for sitting and trying, 2 if she does something. She saves up her stamps and gets something with them ie 10 stamps for one ride on the carousel in Geelong.

I have had her checked out at the doctors, stool and urine samples. Nothing detected. She is not constipated, we have increased water and fruit consumption.

I know when they are scared it is very hard but does anyone have any advice??? any tips?? She is due to start school next year and I am worried this wont be resolved by then. The thought of her being teased at school just has me in tears.