We have been TT DS2 for over 1 month now. He has the wee's no problem. Takes himself and we don't even know most of the time. Poo on the other hand is another story all together. He point blank refuses to poo in either the toilet or potty He is 3.5yrs old and is well aware of when he needs to go, he just does not seem to care if he poo 's in his jocks. He almost seems happy about it???
I am at my wits end with what to do. I have been on the potty training website and purchased the reward chart with the 'crackers' for the poo to feed and still nothing.
I have gone through about 30pairs of jocks, I mostly throw them out if they are too bad.
I have tried rewards, discipline, the I don't mind attitude. When we ask him where poo goes he says "in the toilet"! If I ask him why he doesn't poo on the toilet he says " I don't know". I have also got the potty out again and suggested he poo in the potty incase he is frightened of pooing in the toilet.
He doesn't seem to wee and poo at the same time so he will go to the toilet to have a wee and then I go on poo watch and he will then poo in his jocks up to 30mins later.
Does anyone please have any tips or advice they used to help us get through this, I know this wont be going on when he is in school , it's just very frustrating at the moment.
DS has been toilet trained for about a month now, and has only just started being more regular with poos in the potty instead of the toilet.
Every time he does it in his undies, we walk to the toilet, and I say to him "its ok mate, next time try to get it in the potty" .. "ok mum"...
I found that if I let him go without undies on - he will poo in the potty. If we put undies on him, he'll poop in them. So I let him run around without undies on for a few days, and now - most poop ends up in the potty
He does the sticker reward thing too btw, so that definitely helps.
the only thing that had success for us was letting DS run around in the nude at home all of the time. When out & about I would ask all of the time & remind him it goes in the toilet. Think this scared him enough to hold on til we got home & undies came off & he would go in the potty. We also had several potty's in different rooms, that helped. But remember to still be on the watch when they are running around in the nude as they don't wipe LOL, can leave a mess when they sit down.
My DS did this, drove me mad, I posted on here about it too!
We were very careful not to carry on about it, our approach was to take him to the toilet, clean him up, reiterate that next time he should do his poo on the toilet (and he never did).
I know what you mean about the grotty undies...we always had a bucket of Napisan in the laundry sink with his undies in it and I went through so much Canesten in-wash germ removal stuff.
In the end out and out bribery worked. Chocolate. He was properly TT-d, day and night, poos and wees just before he turned 3.
We told him that if he did a poo on the toilet he could have a square of chocolate.
So the next time he did a poo (in his undies) he asked for a chocolate. We very gently said no, chocolate was only for poos on the toilet. Poor DS, he burst into tears, we took him to the loo, cleaned him up, gave him lots of cuddles and explained again that he could have a chocolate if he did the poo straight into the toilet.
The next day he very anxiously said he needed to do a poo (first time ever, he used to nick off and hide to do the poo in his undies) so I sat him on the loo, stayed with him. He said "I can't do it!" so I told him to just try and fart (lol) and plop! Poo in the loo.
First thing he said was "Can I have a chocolate now?"
Of course I made a huge fuss and he was allowed a chocolate, we rang Daddy at work and told him.
And we never looked back, only had one accident since then and that was just because he didn't quite make it to the loo with enough time to spare.
For about 3 months afterwards every time he did a poo he got a chocolate (so he was getting one every day), he would ask for it straight away. I was a bit worried about what I had started but I started distracting him to see if I could get him to forget or I would "forget". Sometimes he would remember later so I'd give him one then but gradually it got phased out. Now he just takes himself off to the toilet and will call out in a sing song voice "I've done a poo-oo!" and we wipe his little bum for him and away we go, no more chocolate.
Love the surprise the box one.
I suspect it's going to be an uphill battle as he is a very determined little boy, ahh well, that's what parenting is about sometimes.
We have exactly the same problem here. I think us getting upset over it has made it worse as he always poos overnight now when he is asleep.
We have tried bribery (we even offered a scooter which he really really wants) but nothing yet. Oh well. Am trying not to let it stress me. But he did used to go when he wore nappies during the day. Since he went into undies he won't go. We have tried going back but it hasn't worked either. Can't wait till this milestone is over LOL
kyrsalyss we are still at a stale mate with poo. It's looks like we are heading to the poo in his night nappy, although he will do it before he goes to bed.
I had one day when I stalked him and he managed two poos on the toilet. I made a huge fuss, gave him a reward, rangd Dad.
He seems to start on the toilet then say I am finished and the finish off later in jocks. So I think it's psychological.
We have resorted to putting a pull up on when I go to a play centre, as when we get there I don't see him, he is too busy playing. An also the gym creche as he is comfortable in that evironment and usually does a poo there too.
I got caught out two weeks ago at gym creche. He is only there for an hour, I walked and I could smell it (he had jocks on), I quickly took him home as I was embarassed.
I am trying to take the attitued of 'oh we'll get there, he want be wearing pullups when he starts school'
I just need him him to be trained by 4yr old Kinder next year
we don't have this problem yet, but probably because we havent merged to jocks because we figured ds isn't ready because he doesn't want to use the toilet, for anything!!
it seems as though nudie time might be the go, but it's too cold now for that, might give it a go when the weather warms up if he hasn't made the decision on his own by then, he will be 3 in August
My little boy will only poo in his jocks
He is 3.5yrs old and is well aware of when he needs to go, he just does not seem to care if he poo 's in his jocks. He almost seems happy about it???
, it's just very frustrating at the moment.
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