At the moment my sister is having an awful time with her son. He will turn 3 in July, and as he is a big boy he's in the largest size of nappies they can get now (he's already taller than some 4-5 year olds).

This stubborn little nephew of mine absolutely refuses to be toilet trained - apparently he has told my sister that he is completely uninterested. My sister doesn't seem to want to force the issue, but her husband is getting a little antsy about it all.

The current idea they have is to put him in training pants rather than the disposables they normally use, so that when he does go he's left feeling rather uncomfortable to perhaps give him a bit more incentive to start using the potty/toilet. The problem with this is that my sister wants something like terry toweling undies, but wants a plastic cover over them. We suggested pull ups but her DH said no, as they would still be absorbent enough to keep him comfortable.

So, I am appealing to all the wonderful BellyBelly ladies out there on her behalf - does any one know where we may be able to find such training pants? Or does anyone have ideas as to how we can convince this little boy that using the potty/toilet is a good idea before he completely grows out of nappies all together?

Perhaps I should add a little more on the nature of my nephew - he is a perfectionist. From when he was very young, he would never do anything in front of people until he could do it perfectly. He did all the things like rolling, crawling, walking, talking by himself and never let anyone catch him doing it until he could do it perfectly. The first steps anyone ever saw him take were when he stood up, and walked straight across the middle of the lounge room. None of this holding on to furniture, none of the take two steps and fall down. I suspect the toilet training issue may be scaring him because it is going to be something that people will need to see him do imperfectly before he gets it completely right.

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