I'm sorry, this is long, but...

...HELP!!!

Saturday just gone, we started toilet training DD (turned 2 last month). We decided to start because DD took her own pants and nappy off and was getting her potty out of the bathroom. So Sunday I put DD in a pair of undies as soon as she got up and took her to the toilet every 60-90 minutes. We had a couple of successful wees on the loo and just 1 accident all day. She even asked to go to the toilet when we were at the shops.

The second day we had 3 accidents and 1 success on the loo (although she was happy to sit on loo most of the time). DD told me when she had an accident.

The third day was similar to second.

4th day was at child care. I rang them the day prior to discuss what we were doing and they were happy to do what we were doing at home i.e. undies all day except sleep time and pull ups when in the car (normal nappy at sleep time). When I picked her up, she had had 3 accidents but they were still optimisitc. DD hadn't told them she was wet when she had an accident. They told me this was likely to be because there was too much to hold her attention and she just wasn't focused on her accident.

5th day (today)... same as yesterday. Except I'm getting mixed messages from CC. They rang DH at work to tell him DD had fallen and hit her face. They also said DD had happily been sitting on loo. No mention of accidents. But a different girl (DD has just moved up a room and the girl from the new room had left the message with DH where as her old carer was there when I arrived tonight) told me they don't think this is working. They don't think DD is ready for undies at child care. She told me that DD asked for a nappy during the day (at home she has a tanty when we pull out a nappy). Without actually saying the words, I was being told they aren't happy to support us with undies at CC. I voiced concern at giving up so early and at having one rule for CC and another for home - I don't want to confuse DD. They agreed about needing to have a consistent message. They also suggested we use pull ups at childcare instead of undies...

Now, here's where I need help because I don't know what to do. DD's child care provides all nappies for during the day except the one she comes home in and goes there in. I can't really afford to provide pull ups for them (they don't supply them) on top of her fees (it would be different if we were at home). I do use pull ups for DD if we're going somewhere I'm not sure about toilet access or when she's in the car.

I suggested perhaps we put undies on DD under her nappy so she feels when she is wet and they still take her to the toilet every 60 - 90 minutes. But is this taking a step back for her psychologically? Because she is wearing a nappy...

Do I give in and put her back in nappies all the time?

Do I persevere and keep going the way we're going?

I'm really at a loss and don't know what to do. I don't want to undo what we've done and I don't want to make it harder for her...especially down the track. please help!!!

MG