DD is 3 in August and I REALLY would like to TT her soon, in fact was thinking school holidays is a perfect time as I'm home so that is next week.
Trouble is she is showing no interest in it whatsoever! ATM she has a very nasty nappy rash which has even broken the skin. I always say that "big girls do wee wee and poo poo in the toilet" and she gets it, she says it back, she just has no interest in doing it herself. She does occasionally ask to go to the toilet but when i take her it's more of a "sit and read a book with Mummy" moment rather than her doing anything on there.
About a month ago we got rid of her bottles and she says now "i'm a big girl" but I'm not sure how to approach the next "big girl" step.. Needing some guidance or direction on what I can do/try to get the process started but i'm expecting this is not going to be an easy thing as she is not at all fussed having either a wet or dirty nappy - she essentially ignores it and doesn't tell us unless we see/smell it. She does occasionally say "i do a wee wee" or "I do a poo poo" but it's either during or after the event and it's not every time.
Hopefully next step is TT and then the final big girl step of no dummy! Both of which i don't think are going to be easy or smooth.
My DD was only a little younger than yours when we decided to TT. We used the Positive Parenting model and did a whole heap of role play.
Pretty much the idea is that you plan a day when you will be home all day (or for a couple of days in a row). Grab her dolly and talk her through dolly needing to do a wee. First dolly comes and tells mummy that she needs to do a wee, then you take dolly to the toilet/potty, pull down her undies, sit dolly on the toilet and dolly does a wee (it works best if dolly is one that you can fill with liquid and squeeze so that your DD can see the wee coming out but we didn't have one and just tipped a bit of water into the toilet to give DD the idea).
Then we practiced DD being the mummy while I played the dolly and we took dolly to the toilet. Then DD practiced being the dolly.
Once I thought she had the hang of it, I gave her lots to drink, put some undies on her and we waited.
In the end, I had the potty in lounge room in front of the TV. DD held her wee for four hours and I was getting ready to put a nappy on her for nap time. We decided to put her on the potty in front of the TV and let her pick a DVD to watch. 20 mins later she did her first wee in the potty! It took a couple of days for her to get the hang of it but she never had an accident - more that she would hang onto for too long because she hadn't quite figured out how to let it out.
TT her for poo took another long 6 months (she would hold on and do it in her sleep or get really constipated). So I would say focus on wee to start with.
My DS is 3 in October, so a bit younger, and up until 4 weeks ago he also showed no interest. What we did though was have undies around for him and would ask him if he wanted to wear them, most often he would say no. We also had the potty around all the time, and again would ask him. This was over the course of around 6 mths and about 4 weeks ago he finally said, yep and since then has basically trained himself and has barely any accidents. My DD also trained herself but she was a bit younger, however with both my advice would be, don't push it if she isn't ready. I really think that if you offer the opportunity and keep talking about it that when they are ready they will let you know!
If she is not interested and you try to persuade her then you risk making her stubborn to do what she wants and remain in nappies so don't make too big a deal about it. In this situation with my children (2 of mine were not interested) I used a potty rather than the toilet and kept it in the livingroom for easy access. I got a packet of chocolate drops and they got one every time they sat on the potty, and 2 if they did anything in it. If she likes stickers or has a sticker chart then that would work well too if you don't want to use a food reward. Anyway that worked with my kids but as I say don't put too much pressure on her and if she really doesn't want to then just leave it and try again in a few months.
DS1 is nearly 3 and not at all interested! He went thru a phase a few months ago at going and sitting on toilet and flushing then wee on floor or in nappy when put back on!! We keep saying to him big boys go to the toilet and he cracks it!! He goes to CC 1 day a week and OCC 5 hrs a week so sees other kids go but he is not keen!!
Oskar was about 2 1/2 I think when he TT'd wees but poos.. about 3 1/2 ... that was a hellish journey. I let him lead it cos I saw so many of my friends pushing and trying when they were ready but the kids weren't and their TT journeys were very long and full of "accidents"... Oskar went from nappy on to undies and made the decision himself that he was ready and has had like 2 or 3 accidents. So, my opinion is to wait.. and yes, we did that "reading on the toilet" thing too for a rather long time lol. I think that can be the start of it and it's about them getting comfortable with the whole idea and process
Thanks for the replies..
DD goes to DC 2 times a week so she does see the other kids going the toilet (and we have plenty of friends with kids who are toilet trained also) so I'd love her to TT as her nappies are obviously causing her pain at the moment with the nappy rash. I have caught about 3 wee's in the potty or toilet (she has both a potty and the little seat that sits inside our normal toilet and will happily sit on either) over the past few months but nothing consistent so I think they were just flukes.
TT'ing and if your child is still in nappies seems to be one of those topics that others always ask and sometimes give that "funny" look when you say they are still in nappies. I was getting that about her milk bottles as she only got rid of them a month ago and I'm glad they are gone but I still get the "look" sometimes as she is in nappies, has a dummy and is still happily sleeping in her cot.
I've heard that rushing them to TT can only make it more difficult but when i see her in pain like she is with this nappy rash I just sometimes think I should give it a go.
Want to TT but DD doesn't appear interested
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