ellee - in regards to feeding - most ppl recommend not bottle feeding til after 4 weeks if ur trying to BF cause babies (esp ones with attachment probs) can get confused between nipple and bottle and can make BFing even harder, but i figure if ur dying of sleep deprivation or worried ur bubba isnt getting enuff milk then EBM is better than formula...
and id get a sling before baby comes, most of them are adjustable anyways, some babies are fussy about what type they will/wont go in, personally i dont like the look of the structured 'baby bjorn' type ones and got a black peanut shell, prob not as good for the back but they are nice and soft.