I guess we do find this slightly entertaining - and I know this is a serious situation - but I can't helped but be glued to what happens next!
Oh my... the drama of it all!
:rofl: Limeslice - cupcakes!!
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I guess we do find this slightly entertaining - and I know this is a serious situation - but I can't helped but be glued to what happens next!
Oh my... the drama of it all!
:rofl: Limeslice - cupcakes!!
If she hadn't had a period since March and she hasn't been 'with you' in the biblical sense since March, and she is saying she's pregnant to your child from when you were together, her HCG result would NOT be inconclusive. She'd be in the last weeks of her 1st tri by now, so how could it be?? That's just bordering on ridiculous.
I know you're young, so will spell it out for you. You've been played. You now know you've been played. Cut her out of your life. If you don't then whatever comes next, honestly, you're partly to blame.
:clap: Sushee - someone had to say it.
You have dozens of women here answering your question - YOU HAVE BEEN PLAYED. If you continue allowing yourself to be played then you can only blame yourself if you get hurt (or ripped off). Accept the fact that she is clearly lying - she has absolutely no concrete proof of being pregnant (despite apparently being 3 months along) and she is dodging your requests for a positive confirmation. This is not your problem anymore!!
:clap: Here, here Sushee - well said. Have to totally agree with you!:
Besides, "Positive" wouldn't be written on the back of a pathology request, and the pathology labs keep those forms anyway!
She seriously needs help, and I don't think you should play into her little game anymore. And like others have said, even a urine test at this stage of pregnancy would NOT be inconclusive!
Ok Josh. I dont know about where you come from but I have always had a DATING SCAN in all four of my pg's. This is usually done at about 9-10 weeks and you will see a tiny heartbeat. This was done as a PUBLIC PATIENT for no charge. Medicare covered it!
So heres an idea.... tell her you would like to go along to the ultrasound with her and see the little baby.... Dating scans are quite accurate. So if she has managed to get herself pg by now with someone else, you can work out the dates.
Maybe see the doc yourself and give him a run down on whats going on... if he is a GOOD doctor he will investigate her mental health if he thinks it is warranted. Or he may think she is just an immature, attention seeking twit....
Good luck Sunshine. And once it is sorted have no contact ever again!
Oh my lord.... Josh, got any update for us? This situation is so crazy, your head must be spinning matey :hug: All sounds verrrry dodgy to me, I hope you are able to sort it out!
Hows it all going Josh?
I'm curious as to how everything is going too!!
Josh, I don't know anything about you but I think the women in here have given you some good advice about the possibility of your ex not being pregnant.:
I have serious concerns for your Ex and the way she is being portrayed in this forum.
As Taffy Lou pointed out and you have confirmed, she sounds like a disturbed young woman with many problems we can't begin to understand. Based on the information you have provided and your description of the incident with her mother also indicates there may be problems in her own home. This is a real person that may be crying out for help and while her method of doing so may seem unpalatable to some, she is clearly disturbed and she needs help. So Josh, if you are able and willing, could you ring a free counselling service and see if they have any professional advice for what may be available to help her. If you can't do it perhaps talk to someone who knows her who may be willing to take on some responsibility to help her. The ramifications if someone doesn't help her (to ultimately help herself) could be fatal or if it goes on, an innocent child could be born into a very unhappy situation.
I have stumbled across this thread a couple of times now and haven't posted - because I will be really honest - I think it should have been dropped after the first week or two.
I feel cross at you Josh cos it seems that even after all these weeks and continuous deceptions, you are still there with her in some capacity.
If you want to genuinely get her help, it doesn't take weeks to do it - or if you want a definitive answer, if she conceived in March a HPT would def be positive if preg is viable and she wouldn't be opposed to an ultrasound or blood test to prove it to you if she is thinking that will keep you next to her side.
make your mind up what you are doing and take some action and move on with your life - whichever way that may be.
Sorry to be so frank and honest, but I don't think you should be encouraged to continue with this harmful charade.
Good luck!
Sami, I see where you are coming from but I think you are being too harsh. Perhaps Josh hasn't dealt with anything like this before and often these issues don't just go away after "the first week or two". So it may be beyond his control, there is so much at stake here for him and this girl who may be pg (but I'm not convinced she is, based on what Josh has told us here). The handling of this situation can become even more complex depending on the severity of her mental health issues.
Gumnut - I respect your thoughts and opinions too - throughout my working life I have dealt with alot of mental health/disease issues (not mine, other peoples/staff/family members), and they need help earlier rather than later - that is what I was getting at.
I know things can take longer than a week or two to sort out - that is not what I said - I was referring to the thread when I wrote that meaning ?ctions"I was trying to encourage Josh to avoid wasting any more time, decide on some action and follow through.
I understand we all have our opinions - probably why I didn't post when I have seen this previously as I did not want people to criticise my opinion - but so be it!
It may well be that the issue has been dealt with to some extent and this girl is getting treatment but he just hasn't been back? I hope this is the case.
Maybe_played (josh) has been online many times since his last post but has chosen not to continue contributing to this thread. I expect it is because it has been made clear from the advice of many members here that his gf is in all probability not pregnant, or if she is pregnant, then not to him.
Her mental state is probably something we should not be discussing as we only have the OP's version of events.
I do believe this thread has run its course now, so will close it. If anyone has any issues with this, please contact me directly.