Parenting after Loss or Miscarriage Jan/Feb 2011

Mako - there are two people I know who I would gladly give a baby to, and you are one of them, the other my best friend (who has just had her second miscarriage).... both of you are goreous girls... I know you will both get little babes in your arms, I just know it, and thats final.

Spring - this cyclone is SO freakin big.... take care babe xoxoxo

Willow - bet you were glad to get your babes back again tonight.... hope you are feeling better.

Michelle - how u doing babe? How was today?

Kelly - housework will always be there - I've given up on having a really clean house, it just ain't going to happen with good parenting.... do what you have to to keep sane, and forget the rest. I keep reminding myself they will not write on my tombstone "she never had a weed in her garden" or "her house never had a spec of dust in it".... but you will be remembered for being a mum that was there, that was fun, that made the time.... you know what I'm saying, reminding myself too!! Hugs, and glad u had a good day today!

Bek - so happy you are going to make it to Sydney! Can't wait to meet you and Willow and Mako.... I'm actually going to Sydney next weekend with my older DD, meeting up with my mum as it's her 70th - staying at Star City and taking her to Dr Zhivago (the show)... she will love it, so this is my practice run for July!

Well AFM - DH and I are going to look at a small hotel on the North Coast this weekend, taking the campervan and 3 of the kids. Bit of a long story, but this could be a good solution all around to many of our problems. It would mean my two big kids are in boarding school in Hobart, as I am not prepared to uproot them for school again - and frankly am so happy with the school they are at... we would be 3 hours away, so not that far.... it's a HUGE decision.... and I might be jumping the gun, but need to think about all concerned, will know more after we have seen the property and met the current owners. Keep you posted ladies - and if we do go ahead with it all - ABSOLUTELY there must be a get together in my hotel lol....

Anyway - must get to bed, my right eye has been twitching for 2 days as I'm not getting enough sleep.... Remy has been visiting every night.... grrrr - any advice on this one?

Hugs to all, Lee x

Mako; :hug: :hug: :hug: YOU are a very honest and beautiful person, we are very lucky to have you as our friend!

SPRING. I am thinking of you today. Im horrified, terrified and worried sick about all my friends up there. Please stay safe and check in with us if/when you can AND as soon as you can afterward so we know your ok. You can sms me if your able too.

Hellooo lovelies,

Spring - thinking of you today hun, stay safe my sweet lady xxx

Freya - whoo hoo hooo hooo hooo!! Thats awesome news hun xx I hope you can make it to Syd meet up - Id love to rub your belly :D

Michelle - hope you survived 1st preschool day and hope O was okay :hug:

BW: Thinking of you today too :hug:

Jayne - Im so sorry for your loss, and hope your mum and sis are doing ok. :hug: to you too.

Sorry ran out of ime for more persies, but Ill BBL (kids are off to care today so I'll have time). Went and had the BT done on Monday - yesterday morning before I could get the results - AF hit with a vengeance. Its so heavy and painful. Im convinced its a m/c but BT results came back negative. So maybe it was an off cycle, I dont know. While Im relieved, I can honestly say that number 3 is not out of the question anymore. There was a little hope there for a while, you know the daydreaming of what this baby would have been like etc etc.. so I know that I will probably go down the ttc road again but maybe in a couple of years.

love and light to all
Lis xx

:hug: Lisa, everything happens for a reason (I believe) I'm pleased to hear that you feel decided on your TTC path now :). Sorry to hear AF is so awful, hope it settles down soon xo

Lisa - Am so glad you posted, came in this morning to check up on you. I'm with Janie - I think this has all happened for a reason and sometimes it takes something like this to help you make decisions you thought you'd already made! I get the relief too, I swing from desperately wanting #4 to being quite happy to never have to do the pregnancy/newborn thing again. I'm with Kelly, I don't do newborns well (although D was a dream as a newborn) and her post the other day about sleep and routines made me shudder! LOL No offence Kelly!! I guess having survived it three times now though, I know it's only a very short time that things are that intense and the long term rewards are more than worth it.

Mako - :hug: No drama getting L to bed last night :)

Lee - The photos look beautiful! How do the kids feel about boarding school? If they're happy, it might work for everyone?

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Lisa - Am so glad you posted, came in this morning to check up on you. I'm with Janie - I think this has all happened for a reason and sometimes it takes something like this to help you make decisions you thought you'd already made! I get the relief too, I swing from desperately wanting #4 to being quite happy to never have to do the pregnancy/newborn thing again. I'm with Kelly, I don't do newborns well (although D was a dream as a newborn) and her post the other day about sleep and routines made me shudder! LOL No offence Kelly!! I guess having survived it three times now though, I know it's only a very short time that things are that intense and the long term rewards are more than worth it.

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Mako - You are so sweet. I hope your DH gets better soon. You know I still have to lie with Sara most nights and sing her my goodnight song and she is 5

Lisa - Yukky AF. I get those longer cycles at times and they are nasty. Rest up if you can. Glad to hear you've got the clucky bug

Lee - wow. That hotel looks devine. Can't wait to meet you either. Have fun in Sydney

Spring - Please stay safe hun

BW - All the best for today.

How are all our little schoolies and kindy kiddies going?

Best go and do some home work. I have a heap of online exams to do

Luv xxoo

DS1 starts kinder on Friday, I am soooo excited for him! What are your exams Bek?

Man, I am worried sick for Spring and the boys.

Stay safe babe xxxx

Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers. The wind and rain is picking up already. I feel literally sick with worry but ready to face this *****.
I will endevour to contact you all once the immediate danger passes.

Stay safe Spring. I'm praying that you miss it all. I'm feeling giddy with anxiety.

Oooh & Willow, didn't you just tell Janie off for using a real name? bahahaha. I have to say, I didn't want to admit it, but I feel the same about having a third one. I love the 'idea' of another baby, especially as my 2 are now so independant, but it's the chuck on your shoulder, the bags under your eyes, the cold dinners every night, the teething, the pacing the house at 3 in the morning getting a windy baby to burp, it's the establishing breastfeeding, the saggy stomach, the no time to yourself, do I need to go on? lol. I think of ALL of that & I hope that doesn't make me sound so incredibly selfish, but to be brutally honest, I don't think I have enough patience left for another baby. Plus, how could I raise a child all on my own in a foreign country? What if Alan did what he did to me again? Then I'm left alone with THREE kids. We wouldn't be able to afford to have 3 kids & live how we are now either.

Spring, Spring, Spring, I will be thinking and praying for you all day. Keep your boys in your sight at every moment. Don't go outside.

Whoops...did I??!! She must have edited it out! SORRY!!

Told you I do it myself all the time!

Spring - pls text once it has passed to let us know you are ok (in case you cant use your internet).. Ive just been watching the news and babe you are in my prayers.

I just did it myself!!!! It's getting confused between fb and bb, that's what does it!!!

Spring, I have to keep stopping myself from crying thinking about you up there :hug:. I hope it's not too terrifying, and you all come out of it okay. I'm not sure if you've got my number? I'm guessing you'll lose power, and probably mobile reception too, but I'll send it to you JIC you can text. Much love from me xoxo

Girls - you are all sooooo funny :D Check back through this page and see who has been confuzzled LOL There are a few real names that have slipped in :rofl: We spend too much time talking together over both FB and BB.

Spring - :hug: just stay safe. I love you too much for anything to happen to you too.

Feeling a little (actually quite a lot) bit anxious with family and friends in the path of the storm. Not much I can do but pray they are all ok but it doesn't ease the anxiety right now.

Spring, thinking of you and the boys... :hug:

Today went ok. It was looking to be something of a nightmare with traffic and everything else, but with a key person not being at work today, the stuff at the hospital went quite quickly once we got started. I have an unbelievably sore arm as the test I had to have involved a small amount of fluid being injected between the layers of skin on my arm. It hurts... but my elbow aches as well and I just don't know if that's normal or not. I was told I couldn't have a bandaid (not that I wanted one!) on the injection site as it would compress the fluid - but carry Sam on that arm and it's hard to change over, so I hate to think what a 14kg toddler is doing to it! My rheumy seems confident about it all and I think I will eventually have a prescription arrive in the mail from what I can figure out, and then it's one injection per fortnight and hopefully a much improved quality of life for me!

Michelle, thanks so much for today again. :) I enjoyed my George snuggles and I think Sam loved being able to play outside for a bit. He's just woken up now. He fell asleep just before I turned onto the M4 and apart from a few grizzles when we got home and when I decided I'd had enough of him sleeping on top of me he's been great. Must go.

BW

It's already getting a bit crazy here. Holding it together but need a good cry when the boys go to bed. The anticipation is sickening.

Thankfully Ollie is super excited about the 'rain party' as we call it. He thinks the cubby 'our bunker' is awesome and has been playing in it all day.

I just want it to be over.

I promise to txt as soon as I can.

Love you all.

Spring - Sounds like you are doing an awesome job preparing the boys. Hopefully the cubby will not be needed. We love you too, make sure you have that cry and stay safe xxx

Freya - You must be freaking out a bit too. I know you have lots of friends up there. I hope they all stay safe.

Hun hervey bay will be fine. They are only 3 hours from brissy.

It means a lot to me that I have all your prayers and thoughts on my side.

Argh, I wanna spew.