Parenting after Miscarriage or loss ~ July 2010

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: Poor Jayney!! But you haven't answered my question ...............

Oh Jayne Jayne Jayne. Just for you, because I luffs you, I will have sex with my husband tonight (providing AF holds off) and do exactly what you told me to and hope he is so grateful at getting some he answers without thinking because once a yes is said it cannot be taken back. Its a rule in my house, no take backsies. But dont feel you need to pee your pants for me though ok? ;)

I have to say I'm slowly turning green with envy... But considering we are struggling to keep ourselves fed between now and next pay (tomorrow - so Friday I should have money in the account to shop!) it's certainly not an option for me - with or without Sam. :(

But the boy is finally starting to speak a bit more. "Bye" is now used regularly. He was so happy waving at daddy and saying bye this morning that he forgot that it means daddy is leaving and he cried once the door closed behind him. But he now has limited phone conversations with DH - usually just "hiya" and "bye", but it's something!

Other than that - no changes. We certainly can't afford to go back to IVF even if we decided we wanted to, so... waiting until I can afford to pay for a GP appointment before I even think about what now.

BW

You girls are very silly, love it :p

Forgive me for being selfish, but I do think 2 nights away is so much better than 1! 1 is just a taste..... 2 you will feel you've been somewhere! Let us aim for 2!!!!! Is this doable, I will still be very glad with one if thats all you girls can do though....

Janey - how you holding up?? Can only imagine the brain chaos with an international move - I may have one on the cards myself, DH works for DFAT and a posting could be imminent if we desire it (but I only want to go somewhere I can have a housegirl or two !!!!) ... keep you posted.

Michelle - talk soon lovely xoxoxoxo

Lee xoxoxo

Just checking that Freya is basking in the afterglow of smugness??? Did it work my dear?

Thanks Deb, I'll need some Depends, that's for sure.

LEE _ I am loving your style, 2 night is WAY better than 1!!!!

Hahahaha... I love you girls!!! How exciting.. it's times like these that I'm so glad we made the move to Melbourne.. I can't wait for our catch up!!!!

Freya - Can't wait to hear how you go with DH.... *wink* *wink*!! So sneaky!

Jayne - Better run out and get those Depends!!

BW - Yay Sam.. that's great hun and sending you lots of hugs, sounds like its a bit of a tough time right now.

Sorry, no time for any more... I'm VERY busy packing and trying to sort everything out because we're moving house in TWO WEEKS - eeeeeekkk!! There's so much to do and it's a little overwhelming for a 25 week pregnant and emotional basketcase - LOL!! I'm desperately collecting boxes and newspapers. I've packed three whole boxes now and can't even begin to think how many more I'll be doing in the next two weeks. We had such a stressful day yesterday, at one stage, it looked like it had all fallen through and then somehow at about 5pm.. it all worked out!!! We got the house we wanted and the tentants that wanted this place confirmed!! I'm amazed that something actually worked out for us!! Now I can get this move over with and FINALLY for the very first time... focus just on this baby!! I'm very excited about that.. with everything we've been through, I haven't been able to focus on the baby and what a wonderful gift we have. It's going to be brilliant. Best of all, my Mum and Brother are both coming over and it just so happens that it's the week we're moving.. how amazing is that!!!! So very lucky.

Anyway must get back to the packing and organising! Ohhhh.. and I'll be in the new house obviously before our catch up... and it's has a park and playground over the back fence (with a private gate in our back fence).. could be an option for our big catch up... although I don't know how everyone will get there.. it's about 15km from the city!! Worth thinking about though, I'd be happy to have you all over!!

Kel xxx

Congrats on getting the house you wanted Kelly. All the best with the packing and moving.

BW Its great when these little people of ours start to use their words more...Won't be long and he'll be talking your ear off lol.


You girls are a crack up. I'm putting my order in for wanting to see lots of photos from your Melbourne trip.
Freya good luck with the sweet talking lol.

My appointment went ok on Monday. I had a blood test to check to see O levels and got the results back today...a whopping 93.8 so am hoping like mad that we managed to catch that egg. Should know by the middle of next week.
Not feeling to hopeful but with how tired I have been for the past week or so and the very tender boobies anything is possible I guess. I'm certainly not getting my hopes up.
Sage is coming to have swimming lessons with me tomorrow. He's sooooo excited lol. He's having a sleepover at my mums tonight as I have to start early in the morning and its not fair to ask her to travel here at the crack of dawn so DH and I are making the most of it and are going to the movies tonight.

Sorry for the lack of personals. I hope everyone is well.

Hi Mako,
Have a blast on date night tonight!!! What are you going to see?
Can't wait to hear bout Sage's swimming lesson tomorrow.
Plus, your results are sounding pretty good! ;)

I've had a bad day & night last night. I posted in personal growth. I will BB on the weekend. I went to Chenrezig today just to blow the cobwebs... :hug: :cry:

Hi Jayne we didn't end up going out last night as DH didn't get home from work in time :rolleyes: but we did go out and buy some new timber venetians for our lounge room so we ended up ripping down the very old shabby verticals and putting the new ones up without Sage trying to help lol.
As for his swimming lesson..he LOVED it and tbh so did I. He laughed and laughed the whole time and he did everything I asked him to do ie kick his legs,blow bubbles put his face in and attempted to do big arms lol oh and he did some diving attempts too..sooooo cute when its you're own kid and not someone elses itms ;)
He can't wait to go again next week and even had to call his Nan(MIL as she's on holidays) to tell her all about it hahaha.

Deb sending you massive :hug: hun. I wish things were easier for you.

Hi Ladies. I know I only really posted the once but I still feel a bit out of place invading in here under the circumstances. But I just had to check with you ladies again. We passed that magic 1 year - where SIDS risk is virtually non-existent... so why am I still a paranoid freak? Am I still going to be living some quiet paranoid hell when she is 20 something and getting married? I still cant bring myself to take her for Vax and I am about ready to go do a conscientious objector form because I am starting to think I will never feel comfortable with doing it. I am starting to worry that I am not reacting normally. My sister is far more laid back with her baby of the same age and my SIDS niece was her baby!

What do you think, do I need help? Or is this just more extreme but still normal behaviour?

BR - I have all three of my earth babies in bed with me. I still worry about finding them dead (not necessarily SIDS) and after DH dying in April I don't think that sensation is going to leave me any time soon :rolleyes: I actually found my reality - it just wasn't the children.

It is an issues if you think it is an issue OR if it is impacting on your ability to sleep or function :hug:

BR - Hugs. I have to say that after each baby my anxiety has grown. Eva who is 13 months has only just left our bedroom where as the other 2 were in their own room from early on. Also I have days where I fear myself or my DH not being around anymore. Hun if you feel like your fears or anxiety is taking over your days then please see a professional. Please come in here and chat, that can really help

BR - I still have times like that regularly. I have a panic attack lying in bed and might dream about the kids dying. I think its normal concerns for parents. And I dont know of anyone personally that has lost a child to SIDS.

Hi ladies, for those that have seen on Jayne's fb status today that Miss Jessica has been unwell, she wanted me to let you know that they in are hossy, and are being admitted to have an MRI......Drs suspect an aneurysm :( PLEASE don't say anything on fb, and send lots of get well vibes to Jess.

:hug: Jayney, you know you and J are in my thoughts, I WISH so much I was close by and could help out. Hang in there babe.

Oh Jayne I really hope Jess is ok and that you are coping as best as you can atm. Your poor little poppet :hug: I'll be thinking of you all hun :hug:

Janie thanks for letting us know and please keep us updated if you hear any more from Jayne.

I sure will Mako

I was thinking that or meningitis when I saw the post today but I didn't get a chance to post a response to her :( Thank you Janie xx