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BBL - Willow hugs regarding D's sleep and L's tantrums. I really really know what you are going through. My L is awful atm.
Michelle - So glad to hear you are home.
Lisa - Get better everyone.
Bun - Sleep!! Miss Eva hasn't changed.
Janie - Wow you are doing it tough. Little D will be in my thoughts for his op and I hope the Zantac works a treat.
Hi to all.
Willow - it's a TOUGH GIG this parenting one!!! Sleep deprivation is a shocker - I'm suffering too atm. Sorry I cannot offer any great solutions, other than it will get easier - just try and find little ways in the day of stealing a moment or two's peace - lie down to read a book etc.... a bad night so easily throws everybody for a day or two. A couple of nights ago I slept solidly from 11pm to 5am - couldn't get back to sleep again, but felt great, amazing, for having had a solid block............don't be too jealous, as it doesn't happen often I promise!!
Michelle - how are things going hon, have you got family staying with you at the moment, what's your "game plan" iykwim - are you getting a few systems of support happening, I hope so hon, take everything that is offered. I found it hard having family staying all the time, although I desprately needed some help, I also needed my own space - it was a case of dammed if you do, dammed if you don't. In the end, after all had left, I was home alone with 2 little ones - in a way it was good, becaue I had no choice but to get on with things, and learn my new "normal".
Sorry got to go, speak of the devil, family calling on Skype!!
Lee xoxoxo
Lee Your earlier post re your friend has given me some new things to think about. I had no idea kidney stones can affect fertility. My DH has stones and he only has a solitary kidney. I'm wondering if that is maybe contributing into our issues. I'm going to ask my Ob when I see her in a couple of weeks.
I hope your friend can get some answers too. I just don't have any advice for them though. I'm sorry.
How are you doing now your MIL has gone home and how are you feeling?
Willow No worries about today babe. DH just suggested it out of the blue when I got a text from you ;) I'm pleased you guys made it home safely even with L being a little terror. This age is so tough and I want you to know you aren't the only one having a tough time with our boys. DS is sooooooooooo cheeky atm and his favourite word is "NO". I tell ya he's pushing the boundaries here in a very big way. DH had him so upset at dinner tonight I ended up in tears as well as DS. I really hope this stage passes very quickly for all of us including you Bek :hug:
As for next weekend we are going to Quirindi camping. We;ll catch up in a few weeks though ;)
Laney All the best for your scan tomorrow. Make sure you pop in to let us know how it all went :hug:
Girls I'm stressing a bit atm. I have an appointment for a massage tomorrow and as much as I love my therapist I'm scared she's going to want to talk about my M/C as I saw her the day before my scan and I told her I was pregnant and all the other stuff we'd been through(she's more a friend than just a massage therapist though). But I'm worried I'm going to breakdown and cry in front of her and TBH I don't want to do that. I just feel its not the time or the place but I'm just so unpredictable atm and as I know I haven't allowed myself to grieve for this baby yet(just too darn angry about everything and haven't let myself go kwim?) I' not too sure where I'm going with this but I haven't spoken to anyone IRL about it and I'm not sure I'm ready to be "confronted" yet :redface:
So if you have any advice on how I should deal with it just in case I'm asked or heaven forbid if she gives me a hug I just know I'm going to lose it(she has had a m/c and lost a baby so she does understand what we all go through) :(
Ok that's enough from me :redface:
Mako - ohhh, hugs hon. I'm training to be a massage therapist, and we did a HUGE unit on counselling.... as so often is the case, people do let go during a massage and want to talk to someone they can trust. Please don't stress, you know reading between the lines in your post, I get the feeling you need to let it out, and a massage by a friend may really help offload some of the pain. Make sure you drink gallons of water afterwards to rid your body of all the toxins and crud.......... let it go, even just a bit of it if you can - if you really don't feel ready, just tell her kindly that you don't want to talk today, just have a quiet massage - she should respect that too xoxoxo
I'm okay I guess, I've made an appointment with the PND nurse for 2/3 weeks time, she sounded very nice and very understanding - the appointment is 1.5 hours, and they mind the little ones for the duration, I hope I get something substantial from it. I'm glad my MIL left, she just caused more stress, and the French are just so blunt sometimes, to the point of being rude and mean - for example - she asked my 12 year old daughter (who has a little pot belly) "when is the baby due" :o WTF - DD12 is still upset by it - I could have killed her honestly - the damage that kind of comment can do to a young vulnerable girl - my DH saw it all too, and he's not real happy with his mother and doesn't want her back anytime soon! She lives far far away, so thats that!
Hi to everyone else - I'm 'treading water' like a lot of us in here - thats okay for now, hugs all around.
Lee xoxoxo
Oh Mako - Massive hugs hun, it's so hard but honestly, I really think it might be good for you to let some of it out. Sometimes it's easier with someone that isn't all that close to you too.. although it sounds like she's a good friend. The fact that she's been through a m/c herself definitely helps, I'm sure she'll be completely understanding if you do have a few tears. Most importantly though, don't get yourself worked up before you get there (I know that's probably impossible).. you really need to relax and enjoy the massage, it will do you the world of good. I wish I had more advice to offer. Hugs.. I'm thinking of you all the time.
Lee - OMG at your MIL comments to DD12... WTF??? That's terrible. I'm glad you've got an appointment with the PND nurse.. I hope it helps.. even a little bit.
Willow - We've still got major issues with DS and his tantrums atm too.. he's so damn stubborn and it's driving me MAD!! I'm actually at a bit of a loss right now, I don't know what to do anymore, nothing seems to be working. Yesterday was shocking.. he decided (after weeks of perfect TT'ing and NO accidents at all) that he wanted to wee all over the house again... awesome! I think he just wants it all to be HIS way. Arrrggg!
Michelle - All the best for today hun. Hugs.
Laney - Hope the appointment goes well today!
AFM - I've got an appointment with the OB today.. I haven't seen her yet as she's been away so I can't wait to actually see her. I'm still really nervous about it, even though we're past the 'really bad' stage for us.. we're still not quite in the clear I guess. I've been feeling pretty bad though, so I'm fairly confident all is ok... oh god, it's still hard though!! Doesn't help with DS being a little ratbag.. he's really testing us atm and I'm wondering how I'll ever cope with him and a newborn.. without our family around.
Kel xxx
Hi ladies just thought i'd pop in so you know i'm still here for you all just a bit down lately but trying to get past it.
I'm doing well 16weeks now, have a scan in 2weeks and m/s is still hanging around.
Please know i'm here for you all just not posting much :hug:
Mako - You know I found that it was situations like these, where I expected to lose it, that I actually didn't. I don't know if it's because I was so worried that people would ask that I would run it all through my head the way I thought it would play out, what they'd say, what I'd say etc that when the time came it just happened really differently or I had prepared myself mentally for it so was able to stay composed. It was the times it came out of the blue that got me. But I agree with the girls, I think if you are comfortable it might help to let a little out. It's not good to bottle it up for too long. I did that for the longest time but eventually, it all comes crashing down :hug: Re DH - did Dr S/your ob do testing for him? I would have thought they would have already checked him out? I had a feeling you would be busy this weekend! LOL. Always the way.
Mako/Kelly/Bek - It is a bit comforting to hear that you are having similar issues but it's awful at the same time iykwim. I know all children go through this stage but I just don't remember it being this bad with DD. I am starting to realise that we got it pretty easy with her. She is generally an easy going, placid kid. Makes me feel guilty to constantly compare them but things just always seem to be harder with L. Times like this you start questioning your parenting and whether you are doing the right things. Like you Kel, sometimes I just feel like nothing works. Especially when others start questioning your methods too. My parents are very supportive but after my little meltdown on the weekend my dad said to me 'Whatever you're doing isn't working. You're going to have to try something different. You need to take the hard line or you'll end up with a 3 year old running your life' :rolleyes: He honestly is trying to help because he hates to see me so upset over the kids, but it just makes it harder. His tantrums aren't that frequent, it's more constant 'no's and asking him not to do things 3,000 times and him STILL not listening. The scar on his forehead is going to be 1000 times worse than it should be because every time it starts to heal and he pulls at it again :wall:
Had a shocking night here last night and I am just so over it all. Had a feeling something was up with D because he'd been whinging and running hot all day. He was dripping in sweat when I went in to resettle him the first time but panadol didn't help. He is cutting 4 teeth so I'm not sure if that was the problem but he woke so often I ended up putting him in bed with us. I seriously do not know how people co-sleep, he was sleeping but I definitely wasn't!
Anyway, enough whinging. It's the last day of school hols today and I'm determined we are going to have a good day!!
Must be the night/day for it Willow :rolleyes: I am feeling seriously overwhelmed, and seriously tired today. We're meant to be having such a nice week, instead we're dealing with headlice (me and N), reflux, feeding issues (as per usual), DH working like a loony. Oh, and I'm waiting this morning to hear from the paed. surgeon about what day D's surgery will be :(. My mum was going to take N today, but she didn't mention it when I spoke to her last night, I'm guessing she doesn't want nits :lol: Still, I'm disappointed, as I was really looking forward to a day with D. Never mind, I do understand.
Okay, I'm off to work on the positives.........of which there are plenty! Hope you all have a lovely day :D
:hug: Willow. Ripley has been much the same behaviour wise to L. I think its a boy-age thing because from memory Jett was the same around a similar age. Then he went good towards 3, then had a last ditch effort period right after 3 and now he's fabulous.
Jo - 16wks, thats flown by!
Kelly - good luck with your appointment today :hug:
Mako - :hug: I dont have any advice because no one really talks about my m/c, not even Dh. Guess they are just a non-issue for them. Im sure if you just explain to her about it and that your not really ready to talk she'll completely understand.
Mako, I'm going to say something that will probably sounds really blunt, but I say it with love :)..............it sounds as though you need someone, a friend, IRL that you can talk to (if you want to) about your issues. I think you've said it yourself recently. Your massage therapist friend sounds like she could be the ideal person, because she will understand to some degree where you're coming from. Of course, if you really really just don't want to talk about your m/c, then don't. It's only worth it if it's going to help you. But maybe having a friend who can hug you, and let you cry will help?
Of course we are all ALWAYS here for you, and ready to support you. But sometimes that IRL person can make all the difference. Just a suggestion, I hope I haven't upset you :hug:
Thanks girls :hug: I was ok. My massage was great and she's trying some new treatment she learned at a course over the weekend so now my right ear looks funky cos it has teeny tiny little magnets on it lol. She's also going to do some research into my PCOS and ANA and stuff so maybe next time I see her she might have some other info to try and help. Not holding my breath for that though but she is lovely and wants to try and help any way she can. Oh and I didn't talk much about our M/C even though she did ask how I was going but that was it which is ok with me. I really think I need to get out on my own and sit on the beach for a bit and have a good cry. Maybe one day that will happen.
Willow If you find something that works with L and the constant "No's" can you please let me know cos I'm doing my head in with Sage over this. We have even started watching ourselves and trying to stop saying it too just to try and get him to stop :wall:
Janie have you heard from the Paed Surgeon yet?
Michelle I've been thinking of you all morning and hope everything went as planned for Greg's Memorial today :hug:
BBL I have to go to work this arv and fill in for one of the girls.
Just a quick TMI question for you all though :redface: Its been 3 and a half weeks since my D&C and today I have noticed some ewcm (like O time) but its blood stained. The 1st lot was brownish so thought old blood but every time since then is bright red stained. Its not like AF but more like O and my cycles are around 35 days so if anyone has any ideas of what might be going on can you please let me know.
Is there any chance you could be pregnant Mako? Could be implantation spotting. Or AF coming early. Or just something funky that happens after a d&c.
Hi girls - got 5 spare minutes in what turned into a horribly crap day - about to pluck 2 sleeping babies from their slumber, go to collect my DH from Emergency Department, then collect the other 2 from school.
We thought DH had a stroke this morning, rang the ambos, he was not in good shape - cut a long story short - he's ok, and it appears to have been a really shocking stress migraine, but his face went numb (which is why we thought stroke) - I know I can't swear on here but I've really had a ----ing gutful at the moment - what's the universe doing???????????????
Will report back in later............... after I've sorted out 4 kids, and a now DH with a very sore head........
Lee xoxo
Mako - Glad all went well with the massage.. you definitely need to find time for that little 'moment' at the beach!! Hmm... not sure about the CM.. I had some brownish discharge after my D&C's but it was usually only a week or two later... could be just your body adjusting to it. I wouldn't worry too much.
Lee - OMG.. hope you're ok. What a scare! I must say though, I get migraines like that and have had the whole side of my body go numb at times.. it's freaky and I thought I was having a stroke too.. not much fun. Hope you're all ok. Hugs.
Michelle - Have been thinking of you today.
Janie - Hope you got rid of the Lice... yuck!
Willow - I feel your pain.. DS is being a right little monster and I often question my parenting abilities.. sometimes I feel like I'm doing it all wrong. Not much fun.
AFM - Just got back from my ob appointment and couldn't be happier.. all is perfect. Bub still measuring 9wks 2 days and my OB has said I'm in the clear now.. so just the normal pg risks now.. I'm so excitied. Bub even moved around for us, it was so beautiful.. something I had totally forgotten about.. and yes, there were tears!! So all good and will have my 12 week scan in Perth. I can't believe we're going back in a week and a half!!
Kel xx
Michelle - hope today was beautiful hun xx
:hug: all around, will try BBL to get some persies done, man we all need some lovin atm...
Kelly - That is wonderful news, I am so, so thrilled for you!! :hug:
Mako - Glad to hear your massage went well. I agree, find that time on the beach babe, it's important :hug:
Hi Ladies,
We are home safe & sound. After tonnes of tears at the airport saying goodbye to Alan, we found a Barbie shop, so Barbies were bought all round to stop the tears & off we went on our plane. My kids travelled brilliantly, I was so, so, so, so proud of them. The 2flights went great & we got home about 2am Sunday morning. The kids are mellow as anything just pottering around the house, they are so used to being shoved here, there & everywhere that I think they are just loving some time to breathe & relax. Jess didn't make it to school today, but that's ok, there is always tomorrow.
I'll come back later for proper personals, just wanted to let you know we are home.
Love Jayne x
Lee - I'm so sorry, I missed your post before! :hug: I hope DH will be OK. The last thing you need right now, you poor thing.
Jayne - So good to have you home :hug:
On my own with the kids tonight so will probably BBL when they're sorted and in bed.