Hi,
Just wondering if anyone can relate to our issues with our 6 year old DD2. We have 3 children... DD1 and DS are quite easy children and we have never really had any issues with their behaviour. They do misbehave but and DS does throw tantrums, but the usual 2 year old kind of tantrums.

DD2 is out of control and DH and I are really starting to think DD2 has some kind of 'problem'. DD2 has always been more 'energetic' then the other 2. She throws volatile tantrums.... I mean volotile... for example, in one of her 'rages' she ripped the towel rack off the wall in our bathroom. She kicks doors, cupboards and walls etc if we send her to her room.

She will ask for a treat at the shops and I will tell her... if you behave you can have a treat.... she misbehaves and doesn't get the treat. She will then throw a tantrum, but when we are out her tantrums consist of her hitting her sister, trying to push the trolley into me or her sister.... arghhhh

In general she is extremely defiant. She will do the opposite of what we tell her. I even tried reverse psychology, but this does not work. I have tried sticker charts, tick charts.... we've tried so many things.

We are at the end of our tether. She throws at least one massive whopper of a tantrum a day. She can carry on for hours and hours. Regardless of whether or not or how much we ignore her. She just seems different.

BUT...... At school she is generally well behaved. Her teacher has noticed she is more defiant then others but still feels that she is well behaved in general.

Please help.... or whatever you can tell me to make me feel a little more at ease.