I have recently gone back to work 3 days per week and DF is at home full time with DD (4) and DS (10m). And he has to make a point of doing EVERYTHING different to the way that i have always done it!

It is driving me insane! I am still here 4 days, so when i go to do something, now i am the one who is doing it 'wrong'.

He has completely changed his sleeping, he is currently putting DS down for a nap (yes at 8:30am!) in the pram??? What?? In my routine he was having a morning sleep around 10:30am and i could just put him in his cot and walk out. I had a sleeping bag for him, which stopped him from standing up in the cot and screaming, but DF doesn't want him to use it, apparently its useless and makes him wake up. So now he stands in his cot screaming, and my way is 'cruel'. Well, if he was in his sleeping bag like i always put him in, then this doesn't happen!!!!!

I put DS to bed every night at 7- 7:30pm after doing a bath, reading a couple of stories with both kids in the bedroom and giving DS his milk, but this is all wrong (apparently)! DF won't do any of that, he has not bathed DS once and he is putting him to bed at 6:30pm, just as i arrive home from work so i don't even get to see him. DD then stays up till almost 9pm because he think she needs to spend time with me... Seriously, then she is tired and cranky the next day and plays up and gets bored!

I wanted to give DS 2x formula on my days at work, and BF all other times, except DS started rejecting me. Ok, i was a bit upset, but i moved on. But now, DF has to be the one to choose the formula, and this week i caught him buying toddler formula! Because its cheaper, and because it has all of this 'extra stuff' in it... far out! When i explained that its designed to be given 1-2 times a day not 10 like he currently gives it to DS i was suddenly the bad guy who is always telling him he is doing it all wrong...

Its not just those things, its every single little thing! Even the 1,2,3 - naughty step, which has worked for me for DD since forever and i have been completely consistent with is now suddenly 'time out'?? What the??

Why is what i was doing so terrible? I get that now that he is home he wants to establish his own routine and feel comfortable etc, but why start from scratch? Why does he have to make a point that my way was wrong and try and make me feel bad for the choices that i made? Maybe if he had been more involved in making them in the first place then we wouldn't be here right now. Every time i talk to him about it it just erupts into a screaming fight, i actually hate being at home on my 4 days off now, which was supposed to be a brilliant time for us where we were all close together as a family and doing lots of fun family things and having time together. Now it feels like its a criticism fest and i have to sit and watch how to do things 'properly'... I almost feel like changing to full time work now, and just letting him do it his way