This involves my 5 year old daughter and I need some honest opinions because I feel that hubby is biased and I am honestly feeling quite lost and crushed right now. So..be honest please girls.
I'll start with Junior Kindergarten and some problems that we had with my daughter. The teached phoned to say that my daughter was hitting people whenever the teacher turned her back. The kids would tell on her but the teacher could never really catch her doing it. We did chat to my daughter and she admitted to doing it. As far as we know, it did end as we never heard anything more.
Now my daughter is in Senior Kindergarten. I received a phone call from the teacher on Sunday night to say that there are some behavioural issues with Rebecca and we need to "nip it in the butt before it's too late". She said that my daughter is very mean and the teacher is concerned that she isn't going to have any friends. Some of the things that she is doing are:
1) she went around to all the kids lockers and ripped their names off the lockers. I asked my daughter about this and she admitted to doing it but said that a boy was also involved.
2) She sits close to other students. The teacher will turn her back and Rebecca will scribble on the other students papers. Rebecca lies to the teacher and says she didn't do it but all of the students are telling on her. The teacher feels she can't do much because she's not catching her.
3) She goes into the library and when the teacher isn't looking, she is ripping library books. Again, she lies to the teacher and says she's not doing it but all of the students are telling on her
4) The teacher turns her back and my daughter scribbles on her own desk. Once again, my daughter lies to the teacher.
The teacher explained that she is very concerned about Rebecca's behaviour and if we don't talk and get this fixed up, she will be forced to send some behavioural books home that we will need to fill out on a daily basis. Okay fine.
Now we did talk to Rebecca about this and she admitted to doing all of this. We told her that it has to stop immediately and she agreed that it would. I agree that yes it might stop but...what will be next?
Now I'm gonna be brutally honest here. I'm really at my limit with this child. I am at a loss as to what I can do with her. Her attitude is terrrible and it seems to only be with me. She'll test the waters with hubby but not quite as bad. Hubby can be with her on a Saturday morning. I'll be in bed as he lets me sleep in. She'll be good until the minute I get up and then she'll start acting bad. I don't get it. I know that she is very jealous (her younger sister is 3). I try to give her one on one time everyday that she is home. We do workbooks quite often as her school work was a bit of a problem (I've been informed that it has improved in the past month or so)
I have spoke to hubby about all of this and he says that she is just a normal kid doing normal things. Is she? I don't think so. I feel like I'm to blame here but I honestly don't know what more I can do for her. I honestly dread the days that she is home and I know that is wrong as well.
Thanks if you've read this far and hopefully it makes some sense. I'm just so crushed right now and I really don't know where to turn since it seems like I'm the only one that things she has a problem.