DS1 (5) often gets himself into an impasse and despite the fact that he's been doing this for a very long time I still don't have a good way of handling them. So I thought I'd come and ask for forum wisdom

The impasses are always when he wants to do something but for some reason it clashes with a rule he's made for himself or another idea he's had. For instance this morning he was cold so wanted to put his jumper on but couldn't because it would take too long. He then discussed it with me for 10 minutes, read a book, and then cried for 15 minutes after I helped him to put his jumper on. Yesterday he was hungry but didn't want to eat his dinner (even though he liked it). The other day he wanted to play with his friend but couldn't because he "needed" to play on the computer that day. Sometimes he wants to do something but "just can't".

Reasoning and discussing the situation with him doesn't help. He becomes quite irrational when you get to the kernel of the impasse. They often take an hour or so to resolve (sometimes much longer). Sometimes he will accept that he needs to change his mind one way or the other or compromise in some way, but often we seem to just kind of get through them somehow.

So is this fairly normal kid behaviour? And do you have any suggestions on how to help him with it?