Sorry mods if this is in the wrong place, I couldnt find any reviews for books.

We are struggling with our 3. The boys are great kids but we cant get them to do anything.
For years I have done my way and hubby does his way and we disagree with each other- probably why we are in this situation
We get no help or support from family or friends and arent in a place to do any courses so I'd love to hear about the best parenting books you have read and or systems you use.